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Dear Dr. Romance
I am 13 years sober through the 12 steps of AA, but I haven't been to more than one meeting in the last 2 years, after making 3 a day for the 1st yr. and averaging 5 a week for the next 4 years! AA only goes so far. They do not tell you that. If you are ... Views: 25
How to stop drinking alcohol that's why we are here.
If you are reading this then you probably have a problem with alcohol. Or know someone who does.
To give you simple steps to quit drinking would do nothing to help you, therefore it would be doing you a disservice.
Why do you want to ... Views: 339
"As the price of liberty is vigilance -- so the price of independence is self-determination, the price of dignity is self-assertion, and the price of respect is self-respect," wrote psychiatrist Dr. Thomas Szasz.
Dr. Romance knows that self-determination and self-respect are the ... Views: 323
Dr. Romance announces The Real 13th Step:Discovering Confidence, Self-Reliance, and Independence Beyond the Twelve-Step Programs
So many of you have written and e-mailed to ask about The Real 13th Step that I'm delighted to have this new edition in print. It's the ... Views: 249
Substance abusers and their families often do not understand the complexity of the issue and what it requires to overcome addiction. As a result, repeated attempts to stop using substances usually ends in frustration on the part of family members, and the downward spiral into deeper distress on ... Views: 312
It is probably fair to say that the issue of sex and sexual relationships does not feature very heavily in the pecking order of emotional issues and emotional drives that tend to fuel an individual's alcoholism or addiction.
It is however a hugely important issue that often plays a crucial ... Views: 438
SMART* Recovery and 12-Step Programs
In the world of addiction treatment there are several choices one has in the way of utilizing and attending a community based support group. Should one look more closely at what is offered to those with an eating disorder the choices are somewhat more ... Views: 570
Recovery From Codependence: A Brief Introduction
Do you think you may have codependent behavior? This phenomenon isn't as uncommon as many believe. If you find yourself controlling others or bending over backwards to help others at the risk of your own health or sanity, a codependency ... Views: 561
If I spend time thinking about the various issues specific to addicted clients I come up with a few central themes. Many people need to find a sense of purpose, some need to find a sober place to live, and others need to find a way to earn income or repair family relationships. However, what is ... Views: 598
But if I know that eating less and exercising more will result in weight loss, why don’t I just do it? What’s getting in my way? Or, if I do succeed in losing a little weight with a diet, why do I usually regain the weight I lost? Why can’t I hold onto healthier habits as a ... Views: 535
Various “triggers” can put people at risk of relapsing into old patterns of addiction. A trigger can be as simple as people, places, or feelings that initiate a desire, or craving or reminder of past addictive behaviors. Causes of relapse can differ for each person. Pay attention ... Views: 642
Over five weeks ago I was approached by one of my patients on the unit who let me know that he hated his life. He talked about the various experiences he had and he was concerned that a short stay in rehab wouldn’t offer him the opportunity to find any kind of comfort or relief. I suggested that ... Views: 536
A frequently overlooked phenomenon within the recovering community, aka 12-step oriented fellowships, is a true understanding of the difference between compliance and acceptance with respect to one’s addiction[s]. As most professionals and addicts themselves have come to understand, addiction is ... Views: 855
The U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: “re-experiencing symptoms,” “avoidance symptoms,” ... Views: 556
One of the larger challenges in recovery is learning how to overcome a desire to use alcohol or drugs. In previous articles I've offered a host of tools to support recovery and encourage you to think about recovery in ways other than a conventional approach to sobriety. In this article I would ... Views: 617
The 12 Steps are a powerful process for creating transformation in body, mind, emotions and spirit. This simple, step by step method can result in miracles. (Simple not being synonymous with easy). There is hard work involved as well as courage needed to face the denial and self-delusion ... Views: 815
Do you have an addiction you simply can’t seem to get rid of? Try these techniques to help you boost success:
Improve your mental and physical health
It takes mental stamina and physical health to prevent relapsing. Trying to fight off an addiction is very draining mentally and physically. ... Views: 652
Believe it or not, there are simple methods that have been shown to rewire the brain out of destructive habit loops or addictions. But many do not know these methods exist.
The current model of addiction treatment uses repeated episodes of detox in expensive facilities for brief ... Views: 729
Sobriety is an interesting thing, especially as most people initially attempt to find recovery at a 12-step meeting. The focus of this article is to discuss a different way of staying sober that is outside the confines of AA or NA, or a traditional approach to recovery.
I used alcohol and ... Views: 815
Staying sober requires that we develop skills that further long-term abstinence. While there are many ways to achieve recovery, I would like to discuss Mindfulness as a tool that has been valuable to me and a host of clients I’ve worked with over the last 28 years.
Mindfulness is a concept ... Views: 958
As an author and speaker on co-addiction, and as a wife of a recovering drug-addict, one of the most common questions I get is how do you forgive? It is understandable that after all of the lies, betrayal, and pain that come with addiction that loved ones would have a difficult time forgiving. ... Views: 985
As an author and speaker on co-addiction, and as a wife of a recovering drug-addict, one of the most common questions I get is how do you forgive? It is understandable that after all of the lies, betrayal, and pain that come with addiction that loved ones would have a difficult time forgiving. ... Views: 674
This post examines a lot of the healthy treatment plans as used by liquor rehab focuses to help detoxify a addict's human body on the nasty toxins interior your ex attributable to this increased daily allowance connected with liquor. Most of these healthy treatment plans have likewise shown ... Views: 895
"Is it just a harmless habit, OR is it addiction? 6 Simple Signs that Say, “I am addicted.”
Listed below “The six sure signs of addiction” are the “official” diagnosis criteria for addiction that appear in the DSM.
I LOVE playing with ... Views: 1741
Levels of anger and stress has increased hugely in recent times, especially in large urban areas and cities, resulting in increased tension and instability in many people's lives. The effects of anger can be seen very clearly in many domestic or work situation you care to imagine.
Anger as an ... Views: 691
The question of motivation is one that has become much more widely asked with the rapid growth of the self-development industry over the last few years. The question tends to be asked in two different ways.
Firstly, people are asked or told how they can motivate themselves in numerous ... Views: 965
What is the meaning of Addiction?
An addiction, broadly speaking is a compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming substance such as heroin, nicotine, or alcohol. It is characterized by tolerance and by well-defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal. Broadly speaking, it’s a ... Views: 1325
What is a 12 Step Program?
In short a 12 step program is any program based on the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. The 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous are a design for living, whereby a person can learn to live at peace and joy, without resorting to destructive substances or ... Views: 1190
(even if you dislike or don’t agree with the 12 step concept)
There is much disagreement on the efficacy of the 12 step approach to recovery with many claiming it is not effective. Others object to the “God” aspect, or call the 12 step approach a cult. ... Views: 1261
Step 1: Awareness!
This step is probably one of the most difficult to acknowledge for the alcoholic or addict. Long before a person realizes it, the grip of addiction has taken hold. At first, there may be occasional “problems,” such as a minor accident due to drinking, or the ... Views: 1290
Addiction in the city, addiction in the country, addiction in the suburbs, addiction in the schools, addiction in the churches, addiction in the legal system, addiction in the government, addiction in business, addiction in medicine…we simply can’t get away from it. Or, is there another ... Views: 940
Drug Rehabilitation, it’s a medical treatment available across the world to treat the people who are abused by drug and alcohol. Generally, drug abuse can be said as people tend to take alcohol, prescription drugs and dangerous drugs like Cocaine, Heroin and other dangerous drugs etc., in order ... Views: 937
12-step programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous are tradition based programs and have been proven to work. Part of the glue that keeps these programs effective is sponsorship. In AA and in NA, people are required to seek sponsors. A sponsor is a mentor and someone that has ... Views: 895
Isolation is often thought of in physical terms, as being a process where people physically remove themselves from other people and live apart, either from society or from family and friends and other people.
Isolation is sometimes thought of as a good thing, often in the context of someone ... Views: 850
Quite recently there was television footage of a politician surrounded by his advisers, listening to a voter telling him what she thought about a particular subject.
The commentary was about how this politician had been listening to this woman, and was designed to show him in a more human ... Views: 608
Self-improvement has become something of a mantra and a watchword for a vast industry that has grown up around it in the last 30 perhaps 40 years. A lot of the self-improvement industry has flourished in the last 10 or 15 years with the growth of the Internet.
Perhaps an inevitable ... Views: 652
When many people hear the word spiritual or spirituality, or any word associated with religion or spiritual terminology they immediately assume that the underlying idea or rationale behind it is that of becoming a good or a better person than they were before.
To many if not most people, this ... Views: 562
The serenity prayer has a special place for many people, aside from its actual or little meaning, it has become something of a mantra for members of Alcoholics Anonymous and other 12 step fellowships.
The wording and dating of the serenity prayer goes back far beyond the beginning of ... Views: 964
Giving hope to someone who needs it, whether their situation be a desperate one or simply a need for inspiration is perhaps the most important gift one can give, as well as in many ways being the most difficult thing to help instigate. It is often easier to give a false sense of hope than a real ... Views: 938
What follows is a list of common traits and characteristics among all forms of eating disorders - anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, and related addictive relationships with food and weight. As alcoholism and drug dependency share more common ground than differences, so too do the different ... Views: 1164
In modern day usage, self-help really refers to a process concerning people's own personal development or self growth. The good side of this is that it leads to people trying to become aware of who and what they are, and pursuing avenues that can help them become more rounded and happy people. ... Views: 1019
When people talk about abandonment, or fear of abandonment, they often feel it is something that either happened to them, or what happens to other people in childhood, often without a really clear sense of what it might mean.
There is some truth in this interpretation of abandonment, but its ... Views: 758
Many people who have been involved in any type of personal growth or self development work and have subsequently sensed a real change in their inner world, will often forget the real difficulty and fear involved in doing any type of work that necessitates change.
People approaching ... Views: 749
Many people will hear the word boundaries and immediately think that it only applies to someone who works in or understands the world of therapy or counselling.
In fact healthy boundaries are something that hopefully will be developed in most families with kids, and are essential for any ... Views: 631
Enabling is a term often used in the context of a relationship with an addict. It might be a drug addict (which includes an alcoholic), gambler, or compulsive shopper. Enablers suffer the effects of the addict’s behavior rather than the addict. Enabling “removes the natural consequences to the ... Views: 1220
In August of 2010 Overeaters Anonymous celebrated its Golden Anniversary at its world convention in Los Angeles. As someone who has treated compulsive overeaters for more than three decades, I was privileged to be an invited guest to join in the celebration. As a point of reference my ... Views: 1378
There is so much in the news of politicians, celebrities, and public figures with secret children born out of affairs. When I first heard Arnold Schwarzenegger interviewed on 60 Minutes last fall, and he referred to fathering a love child during his affair by saying: “It was the stupidest thing ... Views: 1010
Is 2013 the year that you are finally serious about your recovery or are you just talking to hear yourself talk? Sure, you may have gotten clean but what are your intentions to make sure you stay that way? Are you prepared to fight the toughest battle you will likely ever face? To stay clean you ... Views: 1083