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Many people do not realize the health hazards associated with drinking alcohol because it is legal. However, alcohol has many detrimental short and long-term effects on the brain and body. If you're considering quitting drinking, this information could be the motivation you need to kick alcohol ... Views: 64
When I got married I romantically imagined in my mind’s eye that my husband had carried me up the gangway of a beautiful ship which was to be our New Family Ship. As we embarked on the adventure of marriage we would set sail to explore the world, sometimes passing over deep waters, and ... Views: 39
Most of us know or have known someone we care about who has come under the influence of a perpetrator using him/her for self-serving purposes.
Very smart, educated, healthy people can, for some unknown, reason come under the spell of opportunistic, toxic, and insecure people. It is very ... Views: 43
Are you frustrated with someone you care about who appears to be the victim of a perpetrator? Do you find yourself getting angry for this person?
We all have examples of these situations and we often struggle with what to say, how much time to spend with the victim, and how to continue being ... Views: 56
Addiction can ruin lives, derail dreams and finally, it can even kill. When you are living in the throes of your addiction can seem like there is no way out, and that no one can help you. Long term addiction can change a personality, ruin someone financially, separate you from your family and ... Views: 207
Although one can have the desire to be with someone who is right for them, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. One could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who they are not really compatible with.
Alternatively, one could have been with a number of people who were ... Views: 188
Alcoholism has been a problem for many years on Turtle Island. Turtle Island is the name of North America according to some indigenous groups based on a Lenape story of the “Great Turtle” which was first recorded in archive between 1678 and 1680 by Jasper Danckaerts. The story has been shared by ... Views: 175
The beginning of someone’s life is supposed to be a time when they will receive what they need in order to grow and develop in the right way. When this takes place, their developmental needs are generally going to be met.
As a result of this, they are likely to have the resources that they ... Views: 158
The beginning of someone’s life can be a time when they received what they needed in order to develop into a well-adjusted adult. As a result of this, they will now have what they need to handle life.
Now, this is not to say that their life will be plain sailing; what it comes down to is ... Views: 202
Like many people who’ve endured Narcissistic and emotional abuse, you probably didn’t realize what was happening to you until you reached a point of near insanity and began searching desperately for reasons why your fairytale romance took a grievous turn for the worse.
Further, the person you ... Views: 694
Renee L Richardson, M.Ed.
Knowing the "Love" Within:
So many times, we find ourselves sitting on the wayside of love, extremely disappointed, hurt and totally exhausted; simply because we failed to receive the love of which we have given. Were our expectations too high? Did we ... Views: 414
When we talk about sexual abuse, we differentiate between intra-familial (from within the family) and extra-familial (from outside the family).
When from within, it teaches the target of abuse to not trust people who are closest to them. When from outside the family, it teaches the target of ... Views: 273
If you are looking for kitchen cabinets in Calgary then there is a wide choice for you even if you like something that is DIY. There are three or four preassembled kitchens that you can choose which they have in stock besides other styles in cabinets which you can pick from. You can also have ... Views: 309
In order for something to develop in the right way, it will need it to receive the right things. If this doesn’t take place, it might still grow but it is not going to grow in the same way as it would otherwise.
For example, if a tree was planted in the shade, it is not going to ... Views: 372
It is often said that it is down to parents to give their children what they need so that they can handle the world. At times, this is something that takes place, and at other times, this is something that doesn’t take place.
As a result of this, one can look like an adult from the outside ... Views: 253
Although there are certain things that children need in order to develop into well-functioning adults, it doesn’t mean that they will always receive these things. Now, it could be said that it is not always going to be possible for a child to get their needs met.
However, this is not going ... Views: 249
Want to know how to help saving lives of those struggling with the chronic suicidal thoughts? It takes a lot of courage to help a person who has suicide tendencies. If the person is also consuming drugs or alcohol or is verbally or physically abusive, helping them might seem even more ... Views: 227
I remember when my first spiritual teacher told me that love was the most important thing there was, that it could transcend and heal all things. I thought he was crazy, not the love I was familiar with. The love that I knew was learned from those perfect families on TV and any of that I ... Views: 330
Everything that is toxic can kill you. Some work quickly, dropping their victims almost immediately. However, not all toxins are fast-acting. Some build up slowly over time. But they are all poisons and, regardless of the speed in which they work, all will eventually kill you.
When most ... Views: 284
Humans grow at a substantial rate from birth to adulthood. With growing comes growing pains. We all remember the pain that our joints, muscles, brains, and emotions caused us as teenagers. But did you know that if you excessively use drugs and/or alcohol as a teenager, you stop ... Views: 248
Addiction is cunning, baffling and powerful, and even after my surrender it kept trying to manipulate my mind to make me slip and destroy my recovery.
I am alive today only because of the miracle I experienced one day in treatment. As I entered my room and walked by a mirror, I glimpsed ... Views: 598
When we talk about addiction and substance abuse, the two substances that come to mind are drug and alcohol. Generally, these substances include tobacco, marijuana, and cocaine.
For a fact, illicit drug use in the United States is on the increase. Results of the Substance Abuse and Mental ... Views: 337
It just happened.
You discover an infidelity; a partner signals an intention to separate; someone has passed away; there’s been some kind of personal tragedy.
In the midst of anguish life feels totally out of control; is turned upside down; is overwhelming. Anguish, in the midst of a ... Views: 579
Low self-esteem is a thinking disorder in which individuals view themselves as inadequate, unlovable, or incompetent. There are many manifestations of low self-esteem, the worst of them being addiction.
There’s no doubt that low self-esteem is one of the chief causes of addiction. The ... Views: 423
Many people might think that only major conditions like schizophrenia and bipolar disorder denote mental illness. However, many common symptoms like anxiety, sadness, mood swings and insomnia indicate poor mental health and often signify underlying conditions. Using drugs can make these feelings ... Views: 361
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
The abuser abuses his intimate partners, significant others, and nearest and dearest because it helps him to regulate his excruciating abandonment anxiety in 4 ways:
(1) By devaluing others, he restores his sense of ... Views: 743
TOP SECRET ABOUT CHILDHOOD PTSD
Are you experiencing too many PTSD Triggers?
Do you still get “startled” or “react with rage or suffer other symptoms?
I have shocking news for you. You haven’t fully released all your childhood demons or core PTSD issues.
The least known fact about ... Views: 463
What value is there in keeping your past alive, especially when it wasn’t so great the first time around?
This may seem a ridiculous question but it is very true. When we allow ourselves to run in victim mode, we are keeping our past alive and prevent a future of happiness and ... Views: 293
Narcissist, Psychopath or Sociopath?
Excerpt from Randi Fine's Upcoming Groundbreaking New Book,
Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivors Guide to Healing
There is a great deal of false information on the internet about narcissistic personality disorder and its ... Views: 473
You hear a different story from every recovering addict who has been through drug rehabilitation, because there is no one-size-fits-all solution to addition. Every person's path is different. However, there is a structured system for rehab that can provide anyone with valuable guidance. These ... Views: 562
What are prefab homes? The pre-fab homes are the one which are built at the site of the place where the companies have their setup and then they install the house at the required place of owner. This process makes the time of construction of house less. It becomes easy to make the house ... Views: 319
This past weekend I read an article in the New York Times Sunday Magazine entitled “To Catch A Rapist”. It highlighted the work of a dedicated inspector and some of her colleagues in the Special Victims Unit of Law Enforcement in New Haven, Conn. and the repeated roadblocks they come up against ... Views: 457
Your teen has relapsed. Despite whatever fear, disappointment, and frustration you may feel, you need to remain as calm as possible. Your loved one still needs your support.
So, what can you do as a concerned parent to help them get back on the road to recovery?
1. Envision Relapse as a ... Views: 635
Growing up you were probably told "you can do anything you want to do, as long as you set your mind on it," and as a kid you probably believed it, but being an adult is hard and you lose sight of that mantra, which was drilled into your head. Motivational Enhancement Therapy is there to ... Views: 750
Substance abuse is a massive problem in the United States and a few other countries. The United States has more than 23 million people who are addicted to drugs, alcohol and the like. Drug-related crimes run rampant throughout the United States, as well. U.S. citizens can participate in fighting ... Views: 718
Selfishness has a negative connotation in our culture; but it’s not selfishness, it’s a lack of empathy that hurts others. While I am no Ayn Rand acolyte, I do agree with her argument in “The Virtue of Selfishness”. Taking care of oneself is not only reasonable; it is necessary – necessary for ... Views: 646
Drinking huge amounts of alcohol over long periods can cause many negative effects on your body and mind. Alcohol is present in wine, beer, and liquor. It depresses the CNS (central nervous system) and can affect all the organs in your body, especially the brain and liver.
When you start ... Views: 766
It can be difficult to tell how much emotional pain a loved one is experiencing, even if you are close to them. Many times, people have trouble expressing themselves, or don't want to trouble those around them with their problems. Perhaps you have noticed something different about something, or ... Views: 490
Imagine it is your 18th birthday.
A well-dressed stranger comes to your home. He has news for you. He tells you that you have inherited $550 million dollars payable upon your 18th birthday.
Hey! That is today.
You jump up and down. Cry, get excited. Dance. Think of everything ... Views: 557
Donald Trump has grown an empire of wealth and power, but is it enough? He admits that it isn’t the money that motivates him. (The Art of the Deal, 1987) What drives narcissists are their fears of feeling weak, vulnerable, or inferior. Consequently, for male narcissists in particular, achieving ... Views: 687
Narcissists Need to Show Perfection to the World, At Any Cost
There is an elderly woman I know (whom I will not name) whose narcissism is so severe that it is physically destroying her. This woman has been suffering from a painful auto-immune disease for thirty-five years.
Progressively ... Views: 510
When Children Don’t Stand a Chance
Narcissistic mothers do not have children for the right reasons. They are not nurturers. They have no maternal instincts or genuine love to give. To the narcissistic mother, children represent a captive narcissistic supply. Because a young child’s very ... Views: 620
Adult NPD Survivors Further Assaulted By Ignoramuses
When people hear that I have chosen to have no contact with my highly toxic, aged mother and father they always tell me how sorry they feel for my parents. I can only assume that in me they see a happy, well-adjusted adult woman and must ... Views: 486
Narcissism is an instinctive trait of self-love that everyone possesses to some degree. In infancy we all possess traits of narcissism that are appropriate for that level of development such as self-absorption, omnipotence and grandiosity. However, these same characteristic are seen as ... Views: 531
Have You and Your Siblings Been the Target of Narcissistic Parental Triangulation?
To find out if your narcissistic parent has used triangulation to divide you and your siblings, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:
Is there one sibling in your family who is your ... Views: 628
Is One Parent a Narcissist and the Other an Enabler?
To find out if you have a narcissistic parent and a parent who enables him or her, please answer yes or no to the following twenty questions:
Did you grow up in a two parent home with one parent significantly more domineering than ... Views: 479
Lidija Rangelovska advanced the idea that some children subjected to abuse in dysfunctional families – objectified, dehumanized, their boundaries breached, and their growth stunted – develop intense feelings of shame. They turn out to be codependents or narcissists owing to their genetic makeup ... Views: 548
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
All told, there are three ways to manipulate the narcissist:
(1) To withhold narcissistic supply from him until he comes, hat in hand, begging for more and then you can name your price and dictate terms;
(2) To ... Views: 646
When human psychological factors cause an illness, it is called psychosomatic – of the mind and of the body. Of all disorders an eating disorder is the epitome of a toxic relationship between psyche and soma, yet the body is our interface for navigating the world. Medical writer Jonathan Miller ... Views: 577
Some people are naturally drawn to high-risk behaviors. This may involve taking drugs or alcohol, engaging in promiscuous sex, gambling or getting into physical altercations. There are many different ways this tendency can manifest, but all can be dangerous. In some cases, such actions can have ... Views: 475