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Do you know that feelings of inadequacy are responsible for the majority of failed relationships? Do you know that these negative feelings are responsible for and feed self sabotaging behaviors, shyness, low self confidence, low self worth, low self esteem, a fear of rejection, a fear of ... Views: 6
Do you know that without realizing it most individuals have been programmed with a simple "equation" that fundamentally stands in the way of fully embodying their self esteem? That equation is based on the conditioned notion that: one's self esteem is proportional to what one owns. Do you know ... Views: 9
While I was presenting at a recent conference in Santa Fe, New Mexico I learned that the majority of my audience were carrying feelings of inadequacy within. As I helped them release such feelings once and for all I decided that it would be useful to also write about this issue here.
Feelings ... Views: 23
Do feelings of inadequacy make you feel deficient and defective, do they undermine your self confidence, self esteem, and self worth and block you from being everything you know you are in your Heart? Well if so I want you to know that there is a way to liberate your SELF permanently from this ... Views: 24
While one can have grown into an adult and therefore left their childhood behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have completely moved on from those early years. Ones childhood influences them in ways that are obvious and in ways that are more or less oblivious.
It is a time that plays a ... Views: 23
Do you know that any negative memory from your past can be completely and permanently erased leaving you feeling renewed, free, empowered and able to create your life from an entirely new starting point? Do you know that by doing so you will literally feel reborn and like you're starting the ... Views: 31
Do you know that there is a way to completely and permanently erase negative memories from the unconscious mind? Do you know that this process is accessible to anyone who is able to read and write? Do you know that it requires no hypnosis, drugs, psychotherapy, EMDR, EFT, or invasive procedure? ... Views: 24
Do you know that many "so called" adults actually feel emotionally more like dependent immature children inside? Do you know this makes those individuals, who, having to go out into an adult world and having to assume adult responsibilities feel highly stressed, anxious, weak, overwhelmed, like ... Views: 27
Do you know that all self sabotage is driven by negative beliefs about and self loathing towards one's self stored in the subconscious mind? Do you know that negative beliefs such as: I'm weak, I'm useless, I'm worthless, I'm inadequate, There is something wrong with me, I'm defective, I'm needy ... Views: 27
Do you know that the ability to reverse, even permanently stop, self sabotaging behaviors is rooted in the ability to go from self hatred to respecting and loving one's self? Do you know the main reason why anyone would hate and therefore choose to undermine themselves is because they have ... Views: 26
Do you know that the fundamental unconsciously buried feeling that drives self sabotage is self hatred? Do you know that self hatred was not something you were born with rather was programmed into you through early negative life experiences of abuse, failure, neglect, humiliation, abandonment, ... Views: 22
Why does Co-dependence arise? Well because two or more individuals make an unconscious contract with each other to try to satisfy the unmet needs of the other. Initially, especially in the case of a couple, this contract is defined as "love". For instance, how many times have you heard yourself ... Views: 48
Perhaps you recall as a child feeling whole, alive, genuinely present, playful, happy, passionate, motivated, purposeful, joyful, and like your True Authentic Self but as you became an adult this experience of Self faded and dimmed to the point that you've wondered at times whether you're even ... Views: 32
Are you one of those individuals who "lives in the past"? Do you continually find yourself rehashing past events all the while wishing they could have been different, better, more satisfying or fulfilling? Do you continually use the past as a way of licking your wounds and as justification for ... Views: 23
If you were truly honest with yourself behind all of those things you do to distract yourself i.e. sex, work, drugs, recreational pursuits, relationships, and so on there is lurking a deep sense of emptiness within that many would characterize as part of the human condition. In fact it is this ... Views: 30
Are you one of those people who still carry old emotional baggage that undermines your sense of adequacy in your relationships or career? Do you know that it is no longer necessary for you to remain at the mercy of this old outdated programming and that it can now be easily, effortlessly, ... Views: 27
Do you know that many people harbor an addictive needy inner child inside that is responsible for feelings of loneliness, the inability to be alone, feelings of immaturity, feelings of low self worth and self esteem, poor self confidence, manipulative and controlling behaviour patterns, envy, ... Views: 41
Are you haunted by that "I don't feel good enough feeling"? Has this feeling got you working hard at trying to improve yourself and indeed to "prove" to your self and others that you are adequate, OK, whole, complete, and good enough? Are you feeling tired of all of this and wishing that you ... Views: 34
Envy is characterized by an emotional state where one on the one hand covets the success of another and on the other hand also despises them for it as well. It is a destructive emotional state to become seduced by yet many find it a regular part of their lives. In truth it is also associated ... Views: 56
So what do I mean by such a garish title?
Well I literally mean that all of the life history that you call you life that you have "stored' as memories in your mind body may be an impediment to your personal growth.
I must qualify here also what I mean by "personal growth" as this means ... Views: 30
Do you know that one of the main reasons individuals become hopelessly stuck, discouraged and de-motivated in life is because they continue to carry within old negative memories of failure, disappointment, rejection, humiliation, shame, and abandonment etc. that severely robs them of their ... Views: 26
Do you know that all self sabotaging habits/behaviors are pre-programmed deep in the subconscious mind by old negative memories from your early life that remain very much alive within you?
Do you know that such memories are responsible for all the negative thoughts, feelings and perceptions ... Views: 22
Do you know that feelings of inadequacy are based on a foundation of negative self beliefs such as: I'm inadequate, I'm a loser, I'm a failure, I'm incomplete. I'm defective, I'm deficient, I'm unlovable, I'm unworthy, I'm unattractive etc.? Do you know that it is now possible to completely and ... Views: 48
Do you know most people confronted with the reality of being able to completely erase negative memories from their subconscious mind and permanently enhance their lives become immediately skeptical about this?
Do you know sadly this keeps many individuals unnecessarily imprisoned in negative ... Views: 31
Divorce usually happens because individuals exhibit relationship habits that are destructive to their partner, to the relationship and therefore to themselves.
Such habits include some of the following:
1. Being too needy.
2. Being too controlling.
3. Being too dependent.
4. Being ... Views: 49
If you are in the midst of a divorce I'm sure there is a great sense of confusion and cloudiness to your thinking largely brought on by the emotional pain of sadness, anger, grief, fear, emptiness, loneliness and so on that pervade your entire being at this time. This pain is likely affecting ... Views: 52
It makes perfect sense for me as an Energy Psychologist, that when approaching an autoimmune case in a natural, wholistic way, where an individual’s body is starting to work against itself, that I discover somewhere in that person a deep feeling of deserving to be hurt - an unworthiness to be ... Views: 83
Do you know that feelings of inadequacy are exclusively generated, supported and sustained by negative memories of abuse, abandonment, neglect, failure, loss, humiliation, rejection etc. stored in the subconscious mind? Do you know that simply by erasing these memories those negative and life ... Views: 55
Do you know that many people harbor the need to be accepted by others? Do you know this need enslaves you, your self esteem, self confidence, sense of normalcy as a person, and your life to the whims of others? Do you know that means you are not living your life but a life dictated to you by ... Views: 41
Do you know that most people only have a vague recollection of who they truly are? Do you know that this Authentic Self has become progressively buried under many layers of early life conditioning that is collectively referred to as old emotional baggage?
Do you know that this baggage ... Views: 35
Do you find yourself stuck in a bad relationship?
By bad I mean one that feels empty, where there are no feelings of intimacy or love, where there is emotional or physical abuse and so on.
One of the main reasons that individuals remain caught in such unsatisfying or abusive relationships ... Views: 43
Although each one of us has a body, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels that it is safe to be in their body. It might even sound confusing as to how this could be; especially as one’s body is a big part of who they are.
Instead of one being in their body, what they can end up doing is living ... Views: 56
Do you know that low self esteem leaves you feeling like a second class citizen who must regularly submit their wishes to the whims of others? Do you know low self esteem is something that is "programmed" into you by negative memories of early childhood which continue to reside in your ... Views: 49
Patients afflicted with the Factitious Disorder colloquially known as “Munchausen Syndrome” seek to attract the attention of medical personnel by feigning or by self-inflicting serious illness or injury. “Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome” (Factitious Illness or Disorder by Proxy, or Imposed by ... Views: 50
When is a "loving" relationship not a loving relationship? Well when the individuals in it are motivated to enter into it not by love but by fear impersonating love. So when does fear impersonate love?
Well when one is devoid of an experience of true love and rather is mired in fears that ... Views: 71
Do you know that many individuals have an inner critic or judge that regularly beats up on them, makes them feel stupid, small, inadequate, weak, foolish, judged, unworthy and so on? Do you know this "thing" is a remnant from your past that has overstayed its welcome and is only doing you and ... Views: 55
Do you know that most individuals lose touch with the joyful, optimistic, confident, self respecting, whole, peaceful, resilient, and worthy self they were early in life? Do you know that the "personality" they become not only feels like a "false imposter-like self" but it also buries the true ... Views: 43
Do you know that every person who suffers from low self confidence is carrying one or more negative memories of failure, abuse, abandonment, humiliation, loss, rejection etc. that is/are entirely responsible for such feelings? Do you know that low self confidence can be rapidly and permanently ... Views: 38
Do you know those individuals who believe it's impossible to delete past negative events from one's life are completely wrong and out of touch with current processes that are helping to evolve humans and human consciousness into realms unheard of before? Do you know that what many refer as their ... Views: 37
Do you know that negative thoughts albeit common are actually uninvited foreign intruders into one's conscious mind? Do you know they don't actually originate from you nor do they serve you any useful purpose? Do you know they are self serving and are there primarily to deplete your energy, self ... Views: 40
Do you know that negative memories of the past such as old disappointments, failures, losses, rejections, humiliations, abandonments, etc. have a tendency to dominate ones thoughts and feelings thereby paralyzing their ability to create a rich and fulfilling life? If you are one of those ... Views: 41
Would it surprise you if I said that managers with controlling personalities are their own worst enemies? Here's why.
The controlling personality is motivated by fear and also motivates through domination and fear. What impact does this have on such a manager?
Well the tendency to control ... Views: 47
Do you know that neediness is not normal, healthy or even human? Do you know that individuals are literally "programmed" in early life into a debilitating state of neediness that then destroys all chances of having a fulfilling relationship life in adulthood? Do you know that the underlying ... Views: 45
Do you know that a significant reason why individuals procrastinate is because they harbor within a rebellious inner child who refuses to let you be your Authentic Mature Adult Self? Do you know that this "child" exists primarily in reaction to subconsciously stored negative memories of neglect, ... Views: 56
It is believed that each of us is born with a personality type. For some this might give them a sense of identity and security while for others it might feel constraining and enslaving. One question that has been asked repeatedly by individuals is whether it's possible to permanently change the ... Views: 42
Do you feel like a slave to your personality? Do you feel like there is an invisible negative force that has possessed you and has taken over the helm of your life? Do you feel frustrated, annoyed, even angry that you feel so helpless to do anything about this unconscious entity? Do you wish ... Views: 51
I'm sure at times of deep crisis many of you have considered thoughts of "giving up". What is the cost to you of entertaining such thoughts? Well as one client with a progressively deteriorating illness I was working with stated "it's like having one foot out the back door".
So what does it ... Views: 49
Abusive behavior can take many forms: emotional, physical, financial, sexual etc. Those who engage in it often fail to recognize the effects that such behavior has on themselves.
For instance when one chooses to be abusive towards someone else they are in turn undermining their own integrity, ... Views: 45
Two things are certain a) everyone is carrying some emotional baggage and b) everyone struggles to keep it at bay. What most don't know is it's now possible to completely and permanent delete old emotional baggage from the subconscious mind so that all ones time, energy and focus can go into ... Views: 50
Do you know that many people harbor a fear of abandonment from past breakups that makes them needy, jealous, controlling, insecure, unattractive, ultimately sabotages their relationships and leads to more feelings of abandonment? Do you know this vicious cycle can now be permanently stopped ... Views: 58