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Does it ever feel like your best made plans are regularly undermined by a hidden force within you that is constantly one step ahead of you? Do you feel like you have been cursed by God? Do you know that this force actually does exist but has nothing to do with God? Do you know that you can ... Views: 32
Do you know that low self esteem and self sabotage are two sides of the same coin? Do you know that both are rooted in subconsciously stored beliefs generated by negative memories of your past that undermine your self worth, and make you feel like an undeserving individual who needs to suffer in ... Views: 31
What does "emotional baggage" consist of? Well it is the sum total of all of the negative memories of all of the experiences that you have had in your life to date or what many call their "Life History". All of these experiences are "stored" at some level in your mind/body. How are they ... Views: 39
Have you ever wondered where self doubt comes from? Well it arises when one chooses to turn against their own inner wisdom and truth out of a need to please others, to feel wanted, feel loved, be validated, feel included, be respected, feel accepted, to be taken care of by important others, to ... Views: 44
There is ritual sexual abuse and there is ritualized sexual abuse. The terms are sometimes interchanged, but for the purpose of this article I am delineating between the two as Ritual Sexual Abuse being cult or cult-like abuse in which âthe abuse has a spiritual or social goalâ (David Finkelhor, ... Views: 22
Do you know that most people only have a vague recollection of who they truly are? Do you know that this Authentic Self has become progressively buried under many layers of early life conditioning that is collectively referred to as old emotional baggage?
Do you know that this baggage ... Views: 32
Do you know that low self esteem and self worth are significant impediments to creating and sustaining healthy, fulfilling and long lasting relationships? Do you know that when one feels deficient in these qualities it is not because there is anything wrong with them but largely because they ... Views: 41
Do you know that the main reason individuals harbor feelings of self loathing or self hate is because they have been programmed to believe they are inadequate, worthless, responsible for the pain of others around them, stupid, unlovable, weak, useless, a burden to others and so on? Do you know ... Views: 48
Do you ever feel like life is against you? Do you walk around feeling angry most of the time? Do you spend a lot of your time feeling envious of others? Do you feel cheated or that life has been unfair to you? Well if you answered yes to any of the above then you will likely agree that you feel ... Views: 36
Are you one of those individuals who recalls feeling like their "True Self" as a child but found that during the process of becoming an adult you lost your "self" and got buried by a web of beliefs that have enslaved and deadened you ever since? Have you been trying to recover your True Self ... Views: 62
Do you know that many individuals make themselves martyrs and door mats because they believe deep down they'll be rewarded for doing so?
Do you know that there is no "reward" for this self destructive strategy besides death? Do you know that this tendency to submit as the punching bag of ... Views: 45
This week I've been working with how much courage it takes, for those who are people-pleasers , to be authentic. It's a fact that you can't set a boundary to take care of yourself, and take care of the other person's feelings at the same time. For many, the prohibition against hurting someone ... Views: 56
It is a common misconception that the critical inner voice that many harbor is somehow useful to them. In this article I outline a short exercise that will help bring clarity to how toxic it is and also help you begin to permanently silence it.
It is a common belief that the critical inner ... Views: 53
Two things are certain a) everyone is carrying some emotional baggage and b) everyone struggles to keep it at bay. What most don't know is it's now possible to completely and permanent delete old emotional baggage from the subconscious mind so that all ones time, energy and focus can go into ... Views: 85
An Oscar-nominated documentary called âThe Invisible Warâ tackles the seemingly taboo subject of rape and sexual assault in the military. ABC News covered a quick story of the documentary and featured three women who bravely volunteered their personal stories of being raped while enlisted in the ... Views: 41
Intimate personal violence, which is similar to domestic violence, affects an estimated 12 million people, both men and women, per year. That is according to the National Domestic Violence Hotlineâs website, where plenty of similarly shocking statistics can be found. For instance, âmore than 1 ... Views: 45
Do you know many individuals find themselves so irretrievably stuck in emotionally abusive relationships that often they literally become "numb" to the toxic consequences of their situation? Do you know this "unconsciousness" is perhaps the single most important factor keeping one stuck in and ... Views: 46
The U.S. Department of Veteransâ Affairs reports that one in five combat veterans develops Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, either during or shortly after combat. The Mayo Clinic defines PTSD as having three main categories of symptoms: âre-experiencing symptoms,â âavoidance symptoms,â ... Views: 86
The Grand Jury file on reports filed against Sandusky in the Penn State Sex abuse scandal illustrates some of the most egregious rationalizing (right up there with the Catholic Church's sexual abuse of children) in our country. There are some people involved who attempted to do the right thing ... Views: 94
Do you know that many individuals feel embarrassed by the ever present thought lurking in the back of their mind that the truth about how immature they feel inside will reach the light of day?
Do you know that many attempt to hide this feeling not only from others by presenting a seemingly ... Views: 91
Do you know that many individuals give away their power and integrity through automatic people pleasing behaviors? Do you know that you probably do it without even knowing that you do? Do you know this is one of the chief causes of low self esteem and low self worth?
Do you know this ... Views: 100
Do you know the majority of individuals who have had critical, disapproving or abusive parents still carry the voices of those parents in their head?
Do you know those voices serve only to undermine one's self confidence, self esteem, self worth, sense of adequacy, and the ability to succeed ... Views: 80
Contrary to misinformation spread by "experts" online, covert narcissists are not cunning and manipulative. Classic narcissists are: they often disguise their true nature effectively, knowingly, and intentionally. They are persistent actors with great thespian skills. Not so the covert ... Views: 72
For several years, the VA has been under fire for repeated instances of negligence. Reports released by CBS in 2013 revealed that medical professionals associated with the VA prescribed 259% more narcotics than in 2002, and that individualized therapy had fallen by the wayside. An affiliate of ... Views: 73
"You must do the things you think you can't do." Eleanor Roosevelt
There are women all over the world risking their lives to become educated. We must support them. How can we do that? We must begin to lift the veil of unconsciousness. We can't pretend the emotional/physical abuse that is ... Views: 83
When someone is abused as a child, it is highly likely that they are going to have trouble feeling safe in life. This would have been something that they first experienced when they were growing up and something that has stayed with them throughout their adult years.
So for some people, it ... Views: 59
Do you know that self sabotaging behaviors are driven by old emotional baggage stored in the subconscious mind that has hypnotized you into believing that you are bad, unworthy, undeserving, inadequate, guilty, responsible for the suffering of others, unacceptable, undesirable, defective, ... Views: 97
Do you ever find yourself feeling unfulfilled, bored, empty, unmotivated, and like you're not really living a full, rich, expansive, creative life and feeling alive as your True Self?
Do you feel that you react to life in habitually, pre-programmed ways that you refer to as your ... Views: 90
There is a difference between a) not wanting to disappoint others and b) the fear of disappointing others.
The first is based on the heart felt desire to honor and respect the wishes of others to the best of one's ability, without at the same time sacrificing one's own self respect, self ... Views: 90
Do you know that many "so called" adults actually feel emotionally more like dependent immature children inside?
Do you know this makes those individuals, who, having to go out into an adult world and having to assume adult responsibilities feel highly stressed, anxious, weak, overwhelmed, ... Views: 98
Do you know that a significant reason why individuals procrastinate is because they harbor within an angry immature inner child who refuses to let you be your Authentic Mature Adult Self? Do you know that this "child" exists primarily in reaction to subconsciously stored negative memories of ... Views: 105
Do you know that low self worth is the result of manifesting choices in life that are not in the best interest of one's Authentic Self, i.e. You? Do you know that such "bad" choices, although seeming to emerge from the individual are not actually generated "by" the individual themselves? Do you ... Views: 109
It has been said that human beings are negative by nature and that the steady flow of negative thoughts, often referred to as "negative self talk" is a normal part of everyday life. Why is that? Can anything be done to effectively change this so that we can feel free to be positive, optimistic ... Views: 132
Do you know that negative limiting beliefs are simply a series of hypnotic suggestions you were programmed with that continue to distort your perception of your self and your reality? Do you realize that all limiting beliefs are false? Do you realize therefore that you are living in an invisible ... Views: 202
Do you know the majority of individuals exist in a negative trance state where their conscious mind is controlled and manipulated by subconsciously stored negative programming? Do you know this program, which blocks one's natural, authentic and spontaneous positive self expression, can be ... Views: 120
If you are one of those people who experiences repeated self sabotage then you are likely being driven by the inability to allow positive experiences into your life. This is often linked to feelings of unworthiness and/or the belief that one is undeserving. Where do these feelings and this self ... Views: 116
Self worth is the ability to respect, honor, value and appreciate yourself. Unfortunately there is an epidemic of low self worth here on the planet. Why is that and what can be done to achieve what many believe to be impossible; Supreme Self Worth?
The main reason why most, yes most, ... Views: 127
Do you ever feel like life is against you? Do you walk around feeling angry most of the time? Do you spend a lot of your time feeling envious of others? Do you feel cheated or that life has been unfair to you? Well if you answered yes to any of the above then you will likely agree that you feel ... Views: 212
Perhaps you recall as a child feeling whole, alive, genuinely present, playful, happy, passionate, motivated, purposeful, joyful, and like your True Authentic Self but as you became an adult this experience of Self faded and dimmed to the point that you've wondered at times whether you're even ... Views: 112
How often have you heard the expression "Stop living in the past"? Probably more times than you can count on one hand.
How much of your time do you spend "living in the past"?
Well if you're like most people you'll notice that over 90% of your time is about being flooded by thoughts, ... Views: 155
Do you know that feelings of low self worth are a major driver of the fear of intimacy that causes one to feel ashamed, vulnerable to rejection, anxious, inhibited, insecure, dependent, needy, unworthy, and unlovable? Do you know this fear causes one to withdraw physically and emotionally, ... Views: 137
Do you spend most of your time inside or outside of your body? If you know what I'm talking about then I can almost certainly say that you have spent some time outside of your body.
What does it even mean to "be outside" of one's body? Well, in order to appreciate what this means you must ... Views: 117
Feelings of inadequacy are supported by the underlying belief that one is inadequate.
Although this may not immediately resonate with you if you reflect on it you may begin to gather enough âevidenceâ stored inside in the form of negative memories that support such a destructive belief.
In ... Views: 109
Do you know the inner voices of self criticism and self judgement are unwelcome intruders that live in the unconscious part of your mind and is constantly attempting to undermine your self confidence, self esteem, self worth, sense of personal adequacy, ability to succeed and create a fulfilling ... Views: 137
Do you know that any negative memory of abuse, humiliation, failure, rejection, etc. from your past can be completely and permanently erased leaving you feeling renewed, free, empowered and able to create your life from an entirely new starting point? Do you know that by doing so you will ... Views: 107
Do you know that the "only" cause of low self esteem is old emotional baggage stored deep inside your subconscious mind/body in the form of negative memories of failure, neglect, abuse, abandonment, rejection, humiliation etc.? Do you know that this baggage also weighs down your self worth, self ... Views: 174
Do you know the reason many people struggle with negative thoughts is because their conscious mind is regularly hijacked by negativity that stems from their past stored within the subconscious mind in the form of negative memories?
Do you know that means that while trying to live in the ... Views: 135
âIt comes from saying No to 1000 things to make sure we donât get on the wrong track or try to do to much.â Steve Jobs
Are you beginning to see where we need our tools, ability to say No, ability to make requests, ability to speak our truth in order be a good leader, and in order to be able ... Views: 169
From the moment someone is born, their mother has incredible power over them. She has the power to build them up or the power to tear them down. Ideally, one would have had a mother who was: loving, supportive and kind, for instance. But there are also people out there who had the complete ... Views: 134
Do you know that old negative emotional baggage is something you don't have to carry on your back for the rest of your life? Do you know it's rooted in subconsciously stored negative memories from the past that can be permanently deleted much like an outdated computer file?
Do you know this ... Views: 156