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If you're in business or running a business, you're probably familiar with the classical SWOT analysis: a survey of Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats that should be used in the evaluation of any proposal for a new process or approach. If you're at all successful, you'll realize ... Views: 739
One of the five scales that sociologists use to measure cultural differences is called 'individuation', which is contrasted with 'collectivism'. The scale measures where a society falls along the continuum that represents whether the culture is more individual- or group-oriented. In case you ... Views: 716
Quick: stop reading right now and write down your top three core values. Do it now! . . .
How hard was that? How long did it take you? Did you have to stop and ask yourself, "What does he mean by 'core values'?" Did you have to stop and think, confused by a long list of things that seem very ... Views: 852
Pheromones are chemicals that are released from animals and humans. These chemicals are attractants that tell other animals a wide range of things. Things such as type of animal, sex of the animal, social group that the animal belongs to and if the animal is in heat or not. These pheromones ... Views: 1272
According to the majority of the respondents on my little unscientific survey, what concerns people most about the midlife transition is facing physical deterioration and the loss of youth and beauty. Is it because looking in the mirror starts to remind you of your own mortality? Or, do you feel ... Views: 812
A little over a month ago, I had one of those 'milestone' birthdays . . . you know the kind . . . they're the ones that end in a '0'. It didn't bother me too much this time. Actually, I felt rather good about reaching that age at a time when people are saying, "You're kidding! You're that old?" ... Views: 715
"I just know I'm the only one in the world who feels this way!" Somehow, the feelings of guilt over your (real or imagined) failures, the confusion and fears that haunt you over decisions (big or small), the barely-controllable urges to run away or get drunk or high or just go wild, all conspire ... Views: 1077
According to the news today, marital fidelity in males has a genetic component. About 40 percent of the men studied exhibited a genetic makeup that made it more difficult for them to establish intimate, long-term relationships and strong family ties. The other 60% (who lacked that particular ... Views: 981
Have you been wondering if happiness is even possible?
Yes, it is!
Deep inside, we all want to be happy, especially in the middle part of our lives. We also seek a simple process, and a new secret to reach this lifelong goal.
Well, I have a simple answer and, of course, a longer answer.
The ... Views: 876
'The more things change, the more they stay the same.' Have you ever had that thought? Have you also noticed that, the harder you push to change the way things are, the less progress you seem to make? Although this experience isn't confined to guys passing through midlife (it's a common ... Views: 831
One of the 'features' of entering into the midlife transition happens to be the dawning realization of just how tenuous our connection to this plane of existence really is. I fondly remember evenings as a student in Ottawa, Ontario spent at the Colonel Bye lounge enjoying the comedy of ... Views: 1042
If you've married, then I think it's safe to assume that, at some point in your journey, you thought you'd found the perfect partner. I don't have to be clairvoyant to say that, sooner or later along that same journey, you were disappointed. You might think that this disappointment that comes ... Views: 741
Ko-Ko.
Are you old enough to marry, do you think?
Won't you wait till you are eighty in the shade?
There's a fascination frantic
In a ruin that's romantic;
Do you think you are sufficiently decayed?
Katisha.
To the matter that you mention
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This is an era of ever-tightening budgets and precarious performance in students' basic skills. It's an era of 'No Child Left Behind', although very many still are. Many inner-city schools are in disrepair, school supplies are hard to come by, and teachers are generally ridiculously under-paid ... Views: 7363
The myth of the happy childhood hides a sad truth: that one of the principal effects of 'education' seems to be the process of 'disillusionment'. I call this process 'sad', but, in fact, it's more like 'tragic'. In early childhood, youngsters are more closely aligned with their inner destiny ... Views: 730
Every day you live, you collect stuff. Just imagine the sheer volume of information that passes into your psyche every day, from what you see, what you read, what you experience, what you think, what you do (consciously or unconsciously), and the decisions you make. Every second — awake or ... Views: 796
'Be careful what you pray for, 'cause you just might get it.' Have you ever heard that saying? In my opinion, it so perfectly describes the pitfalls of adulthood. Keep in mind that I have what I think is quite a unique definition for 'adulthood': childhood without the parental constraints. The ... Views: 728
Do you have a long-term primary love relationship? Can you remember that moment when your heart felt so full to bursting that you just had to volunteer, "I love you" for the first time? Can you remember the moment when s/he first said it to you? Do you remember a moment when, in front of people ... Views: 607
We're quickly coming into an age when multiple generations are experiencing the midlife transition simultaneously. Perhaps we're already at that point. From my research, it's becoming clear that a far broader range of age groups self-identify as 'middle-aged': people from their mid-thirties into ... Views: 876
My apologies to Olivia Newton-John for the parody on her hit song from the '70's, but midlife is the time when couples have been on the same merry-go-round for so long that they're getting saddle sores. Experience tells me that people go into committed relationships with every intention to make ... Views: 767
I've said this before in public, and so I might as well repeat it: I'm a huge wuss when it comes to not feeling well. I've heard women complain that men don't do sickness well, and when I hear that, I silently have to agree — at least in the case of this one man. My mind generally travels ... Views: 622
I was determined not to have a midlife crisis. I had one. The scary part of it all was that the results lasted over a period of about 20 years. By 'results', I mean there were unresolved issues that hung on for that length of time. That's one of the most uncomfortable aspects of a midlife ... Views: 941
This is my first day back in my home office since I left on my Vancouver trip last week. In the meantime, something unpleasant happened to me: some kind of nasty, lingering stomach virus that has left me wanting to do nothing more than just sleep. Getting sick is one of life's most unpleasant ... Views: 613
On paper, it seems obvious that people should plan for a major shift in perspective that should occur just about the time they settle in to their relationships, their careers and their sense of personal achievement and well=being. That's all very fine to speculate about before the fact. Yet, a ... Views: 709
Go against the grain!
When you arrive at 50, those around you will expect you to slow down and retire. They will ask what you are planning to do when you stop working. The marketing messages you see are pushing youth and beauty and the pursuit of material goods. You suddenly realize you ... Views: 800
It’s impossible to plan for or even prepare for the midlife transition without doing some serious self-work. You can’t very well establish a path and direction for yourself without having at least a vague idea of where you are and where you want to go. You’ll find it even more ... Views: 748
Unpleasant surprises don't necessarily have to be a necessary part of the process of midlife transition. 'Shock and awe' may have have some usefulness in military operations, but they clearly don't belong in a well-managed life. Although it's impossible to predict all the eventualities of ... Views: 720
Emotional reaction as daily reality
The surprising fact is, that even a person can have the knowledge and a lot of insights, at the
same time reacts and is been drawn into ones emotional reactions like a 5 years old child ... Views: 2553
By definition, unmerited means undeserved, and the gift I was given, the gift of life recovery-was seemingly undeserved. Why me?
The question has no answer that I understand.
For a long period of time, my life was in decline, some periods slow, some much more rapid and obvious to others. I was ... Views: 925
I wish you all the fulfillment that you desire in this new year of 2006. Before we get into too much of this year, and perhaps even before any resolutions have already been washed away in the tide of duties and responsibilities and all the flotsam of life, I invite you to take a moment and think ... Views: 756
The forces of nature have caused immense destruction over the past twelve months. A tsunami devastated huge parts of S.E. Asia; hurricanes and subsequent floods inundated New Orleans, and most recently an earthquake wrecked people’s lives in Pakistan.
We may look for meaning in such events or ... Views: 693
Have you ever tried catching an autumn leaf as it falls from the tree? It’s something I like to do each year. Imagine – a 65 year old man, a serious author, psychotherapist and coach, running around like a five-year-old trying to catch one elusive, capricious leaf as it sails unpredictably ... Views: 4363
As you read this I will be miles away from home, enjoying a reunion with my daughter and family and friends in England, after which Nicole and I will be flying to Rome and spending twelve days cruising in the Mediterranean. This is not meant to make you envious. The trip is my retirement. After ... Views: 653
Now that summer – in the Northern hemisphere anyway – is truly here, it’s harder to stick to writing at my computer. With a new book in the works I content myself with gazing wistfully out of the window and, when the urge takes me, simply stop mid-sentence and wander out into the garden for ... Views: 1839
This month I am making a special offer, in preparation for the launch of three new projects that will be coming on track over the next few months.
The first project is the publication of my next book, title under wraps so far (until I decide what it is!). The theme of the book is recipes for ... Views: 677
One of the joys and privileges of being an Emotional Fitness Coach and teaching Emotional Fitness courses is that I get to hear the inner thoughts and experiences of others. Now don’t get me wrong. It’s not that I want to spy on other people’s lives; it’s that as I hear their stories two things ... Views: 697
As Spring bursts into being, new things emerge. I always found it hard to understand why January would be the start of a New Year, when April makes so much more sense – in the Northern Hemisphere anyway. Newness in the plant and animal world is all around us and that newness is so often mirrored ... Views: 756
Already a month into 2005 – and what has the year brought so far? A sociologist in Britain has observed that January 24th is “the worst day of the year” – presumably in the Northern hemisphere. The excitement of Christmas and anticipation of the New Year has worn off, credit card bills have ... Views: 709
If we did not fully understand the connectedness that we have to each other and to the earth, the effect of the tsunamis on millions of people in eleven countries bordering the Indian Ocean has demonstrated that connectedness. Who has not been touched in some way by this disaster?
At a very ... Views: 747
The invitations have started arriving, the lights are going up, the stores are playing Christmas music and people appear to be bracing themselves for family reunions. There is an air of unreality about all this: a case of people seeming to try too hard, of going through the motions without ... Views: 674
“What You Don’t Know, Can Kill You?”
Most of us secretly subscribe to the philosophy, “what-you-don’t know, can’t hurt you.” Come on, admit it, reading or hearing about sickness and dying makes us antsy and queasy, so we change the channel or delete the ... Views: 807
Meditating can be like cleaning the house. Everything is in place, looks okay, just needs a little dusting, right? As soon as you start vacuuming behind the furniture and redoing the bookcases and washing the windows, the place is a mess. When you are cleaning your spiritual house you may ... Views: 1392
Storytelling is a uniquely human trait. It’s how we learn about our world and ourselves, and how we pass on to others the lessons of what we have discovered. In Recipes for Inner Peace, Jenny’s coach Nicolas asks her to write two stories. The first is the story of an object that Nicolas brings ... Views: 1079
Our third Recipe for Inner Peace is a unique set of ten questions. The Lifescale will help you to understand the balance you have now in your life between your positive and negative emotional energies – those things that cause satisfaction and frustration. Since I developed and began using the ... Views: 939
Last time I introduced you to the first of my Recipes for Inner Peace from the book of that name. The first Recipe is Listening Power. Now let’s look at the second recipe called Learning from Experience. In the book Jenny is developing a new relationship. She badly wants it to work but is ... Views: 708
Did I get your attention?
Good; that was the point. No one should have just a job after 40. Before 40, it is necessary to build your ego in the world. It is critical for self-development, self-esteem, and to get a sense of your place in the world. Naturally, it would be perfect to do the work ... Views: 948
Today we are faced with an inconvenient truth of life to battle with. It is about the lost of a friend, sister and wife - Debbie:
Debbie as we affectionately call her is a staunch member of our club. Indeed she is one of the few women who accompanies the husband to our meetings regularly. She ... Views: 763
Whenever we experience any kind of dis-ease within our mind/body system, there is the illusion that we are out of control. The very fact that we are experiencing something different to the general populus, that being our friends, family and work colleagues creates and compounds the evidence we ... Views: 666
What contribution do you want to make?
What exactly do you want to contribute to most now? What issues concern you the most? Where do you feel your natural gifts and talents can make the most difference in the world? Do you want to help children learn, feed the elderly, or help others with ... Views: 706
Seduction And Romantic Love
We are seduced into relationships for many reasons, for support and approval, to overcome our feelings of loneliness, fear and insecurity, to explore our passion and sexuality, to feel power and control, to be needed, to have fun, to love and be loved, to have ... Views: 1431