Dear Dr. Romance:
I think I may be having some difficulty within my marriage! :( I dont really know if you can even help me! Maybe even give me some recommendations! I've been married for over 25 yrs. and we are in our 50s. Ever since we had a child 13 yrs ago there has been no more ... Views: 13
Envy, jealousy, and shame are inextricably intertwined. Envy and jealousy are primal emotions that frequently overlap. They’re commonly first felt in the form of sibling rivalry and oedipal longings. A child innately wants mommy and daddy all to him or herself and feels “excluded” from the ... Views: 26
Dear Dr. Romance:
I divorced my best friend of 13 years this past January. I'm having a hard time moving on... Let me very clear...over the past 13 years of our marriage..we were never sexually compatible...he was never that into me...I had an affair and I am still seeing that ... Views: 37
When you first meet someone and experience the dizzy heights of love, the last thing that you might be thinking of is that at some point you are going to be guilty of infidelity but that’s what happens to many people in often surprisingly good relationships.
If you think about it, infidelity ... Views: 51
Just got a breakup? There is no problem when you know how to recover from a breakup quickly.
In this article, you will get some of the best tips on breakups. These will help you to get over a broken heart in almost no time. Getting over a breakup won’t take that much long time. So follow ... Views: 138
As a man, one of the hardest things to do is to get over a girl who has cheated on you. Remember that she was the one who cheated on you and dumped you for somebody else.
It hurts your ego to a great extent.
Some guys call and text their exes in such a way to make them regret about their ... Views: 152
Are you struggling to forgive your ex or current partner for something they did?
Are you still carrying a grudge, feel resentment or anger towards them?
In all romantic relationships (past and present) there will be times where the one you love will hurt you. It could be something small, ... Views: 145
Have you ever disappointed someone or broken a promise? Was the incident serious enough to ultimately compromise the trust between you? We all have been untrustworthy at some point. That doesn't mean that we're bad or selfish. Sometimes, even under the best of circumstances, we let people down. ... Views: 168
When I think about cheating in relationships, a wide range of scenarios ranging from the woman who confides her deepest desires and fears to her coworker instead of her husband, to the highly sexed “player” that will bed any woman who spreads her legs for him, come to mind. There’s emotional ... Views: 222
If a woman has been with men who have cheated, she might come to the conclusion that all men are the same. And if a man has been with a number of women who have cheated, he could also come to the same conclusion.
As a result of what they have been through, it would be normal for them to say ... Views: 238
Dr. Romance writes:
Telling a guy you won't stand for cheating is a waste of time. Instead, be open and accepting, and encourage him to talk about his sexual exploits. If he's cheated before, he probably will cheat again. The best protection against cheating is to have open and frank ... Views: 238
Almost everyone has heard of the five stages of grief. These are the usual steps in the scattered time line of true grief.
The five stages do not always occur in the same order, and sometimes the different stages are revisited throughout the grieving process.
They exist because, as ... Views: 187
Infidelity is one of the top causes of marital discord, and is one of the primarily reasons for the high divorce rate in this country. Infidelity has the potential to rip apart a seemingly perfect relationship, whether it was a prolonged affair or a onetime mistake. Spouses on both sides of an ... Views: 239
Roommates, you may have had one when you were in college or just starting out so that you had someone to share the burden of expenses while you worked to become financially independent. Then eventually you met someone, took the leap of marriage and rather than having a roommate you now had a ... Views: 251
Infidelity, when you’re in the midst of it, can feel like the end of the world. It definitely feels like the end of your marriage. But, if you really want your marriage to survive you’re going to have to find the emotional fortitude to forgive, let go, and move on. Believe it or not, many ... Views: 225
Dear Dr. Romance:
My story will probably sound like a thousand others you've heard, but I am in desperate need of some answers. I am in my fifties, my wife is a few years younger. My wife had a hysterectomy about 15 years ago, so menopause is not likely part of this equation. As you are ... Views: 211
Are you setting yourself up again? 10 things you need to know to avoid being hurt and disappointed.
Nobody, absolutely nobody likes being taken advantage of. But when you are foolish enough to set yourself up to be played for a fool by a fool, that's taking clueless to a whole new level - ... Views: 239
There will be times when one is unable to see what is taking place around them and during these moments, it will be important for them to reach out to others. This is not necessarily because the people on the outside have something they don’t; it is because they are not emotionally involved.
... Views: 316
The theory of reincarnation suggests your past life actions create your present love life situations, both the good and the bad.
People who don’t like their love lives now might be making up for their actions in the distant past, but not always. Sometimes, even the best intentions in past ... Views: 271
Cheating online is an equal offence to any other type of dishonesty so it should not be treated lightly. In fact it involves the desire of the cheater of making some emotional relationship with someone other than his spouse by contacting her online. Cheating is getting progressively worse among ... Views: 292
Sometimes you can find out that you have made a mistake where you will end up cheating on your loved one. In such a case many things will come to your mind. Among the worst things that will always pass through your mind is feeling guilty. Remember cheating is an act that will make you restless ... Views: 297
Morality is inbuilt in every individual, but sometimes, due to various external pressures and temptations, you will be compelled to say a big blatant NO to ethical values and moral sciences. It will be only one night, but the mistake which you have committed for that small span of time may haunt ... Views: 221
Sometimes a marriage comes to the point where you are truly considering whether or not it’s worth it to stay in the marriage. But, it’s important that you don’t act too quickly. Marriage is more than just two people in love; it’s also a legal contract that should sometimes be held up just ... Views: 283
How To Regain Your Focus
How To Regain Your Focus – A message from God to you… If what you’re in the midst of right now has anything to do with God ordering your steps, there’s one thing you can be certain of, you will lose your focus. Be it due to the constant struggle, be it due to the fact ... Views: 291
If you think that your spouse may be cheating on you then you are living in a constant feeling of being off balance. You can neither move forward in your life, nor even change direction because you haven’t determined an ending to what is happening right now. You can’t get counseling, or work on ... Views: 284
It might be shocking to find out that you and your spouse have now become part of the infidelity statistics. With almost half of all marriages experiencing infidelity it shouldn’t be such a surprise. However, it’s hard to reconcile what has now happened with the head-over-heals love affair that ... Views: 223
When infidelity happens, it can literally feel like the earth has swallowed you up along with the carpet that has been ripped violently out from under you. Your world has changed. Everything you believed to be true is suddenly challenged in a way that you never thought possible when you married ... Views: 269
Have you been contemplating having an affair? Not getting your needs met with your current partner? Chances are you are feeling ignored, not desired, not listened to, taken for granted, or not important. Perhaps you are craving a combination of these elements?
Typically both men and women who ... Views: 292
It’s bad enough to find out your spouse has had an affair, but to add to it the daily reminder that a child resulted from the union can be very difficult to deal with. On one hand the child is completely innocent, but unfortunately due to your spouse’s choices the child is a reminder of ... Views: 411
While there have always been people who have had affairs, it is probably easier than ever before to have one. This is because of modern-day technology and how the internet has given people the chance to find someone without even leaving their home.
One can then use their phone to keep in ... Views: 275
Finding out your spouse is cheating can send your life and emotions into a downward spiral so strong that you feel like you cannot ever overcome or get out of. Getting help dealing with infidelity is a necessity if you want to find a way to swim out of the downward spiral. It all starts with the ... Views: 218
Sadness and depression are normal emotions to feel after you discover that your husband has betrayed you. Knowing its normal though, isn’t enough to see you through this time of grief. You are heartbroken about what you thought was true about your life, and even though you are trying to make ... Views: 297
You wake up in a sweat after watching the scene in your dreams of him with her. Him kissing her, him running his hands through her hair like he does you, him whispering sweet nothings in her ear – the visions never stop. That’s what you imagine about the cheating. It’s the same for men and ... Views: 280
When your wife cheats it's difficult to keep your head on straight and think clearly about the choices you are going to make right now that can affect the rest of your life. If you've found yourself in this situation you should consider the biggest mistakes that betrayed husbands often make when ... Views: 486
Whether you are the one who committed adultery or your spouse is the one who cheated it's likely that you're trying to overcome it and survive the affair. Whether that means going through with a divorce or trying to save your marriage, some people deal with infidelity with erroneous ... Views: 365
Overcoming anger and depression after your wife cheats on you can be very difficult, but it's something you have to do for yourself if you want to either move on in your life to a different more healthy relationship with your wife or even someone else entirely. One thing most people don't ... Views: 500
One of the biggest costs of cheating in a relationship isn't the devastation it causes to the relationship; sometimes it's the loss of trust in you as a good person that is the biggest cost of all. The truth is, the closest relationship you'll ever have, is the relationship you have with ... Views: 363
Infidelity knocks you on your rear-end, and changes your world like almost nothing else can.
Even if you are the one who cheated, the trust you and your spouse had for each other is now gone.
Not only is the trust gone for the spouse, it's gone for yourself and even the entirety of ... Views: 365
You've gone through something horrible, a total breakdown of the trust in your marriage. You may wonder how anyone can ever overcome such a devastating blow, and also wonder if there is even a possibility that your marriage can be saved. The one differentiator to determining overcoming ... Views: 310
Dear Dr. Romance
Your web-site impressed me and prompted this note, and I'd appreciate your thoughts.I am a reasonably well-educated individual which includes a couple of degrees in psychology and have been quite successful in my career. My wife who is also well-educated and our ... Views: 405
Dear Dr. Romance:
I was married at the age of 21, was married for 7 years, separated from my spouse a little over a year ago, and I'm in the process of divorce. I dated various people shortly after separation, but I was lost, broke some hearts, and simply didn't know ... Views: 458
If your husband cheated on you, you may be in despair.
After all, this form of betrayal cuts so deep.
By discovering the best ways to overcome mental blocks which are related to affair recovery, you'll make it easier to move forward to a brighter future.
Whether you decide to stick it ... Views: 364
How do you KNOW that your partner is cheating on you? There are actually two absolutely unmistakable signs of infidelity … signs which can indicate nothing else except cheating. And if you see one of these signs, my bet is that you will see the other, as long as you keep your eyes open, ... Views: 799
What is an affair? What constitutes cheating? Infidelity? These are very personal definitions. Most people have their own version of what constitutes what. Here is a definition I have adapted from experts in the field that works well: An affair involves one of the partner’s passion being ... Views: 680
After being crushed by the discovery of your husband's infidelity, it's normal to feel a range of emotions like extreme emotional pain and grief. Understandably you want to make the hurt go away so that you can live again.
But the question you should really be asking is not when the pain will ... Views: 614
3 Tips to Maintaining Your Sanity During Divorce
Dr. Romance’s three tips to maintaining sanity during divorce.
1. Know your rights:
If you’re even considering divorce, spend the money for one consult with a reputable, good attorney (preferably, recommended by a friend who went through ... Views: 738
Couples having marriage problems want simple save my marriage advice that they can implement quickly. They want a
neatly packaged marriage miracle. The problem with that is most marriages in trouble need more than a quick fix. A
band aid fix will not work in most cases. Most marriages ... Views: 347
There are numerous challenges that can arise in a relationship and while some of these are fairly insignificant and can be overlooked, others are far more significant and can’t be ignored.
And while there is going to be external challenges, there is also going to be internal challenges. So ... Views: 476
Almost everybody has at least one past relationship that they can't seem to let go of. There's always that one love that left under unpleasant circumstances, that one person whom you still long for. While these feelings are by no means uncommon, they can have some very adverse effects on other ... Views: 546
To recover from infidelity and save your marriage:
1. Tell the Truth.
Assuming your spouse found out, you didn't confess—this is the time to tell the whole truth. It's probably best done with a therapist present, to keep a lid on the emotional reactions.
2. Give your Spouse the ... Views: 537