Do you know that a broken heart from a previously failed relationship is one of the greatest impediments to a) having another relationship and b) having a successful relationship? Do you know this is because the pain associated with the broken heart never actually goes away it only gets buried ... Views: 13
What is the emotional impact of divorce on children who experience it?
Well some are:
1. The emotional shock of losing the family structure and home.
2. The wrenching guilt that comes with having to choose between parents.
3. The deep fear of feeling and/or being abandoned by a ... Views: 15
Do you know that the major factor contributing the fear of committing one's self to a relationship is the fear of rejection and/or abandonment? Do you know these deeper fears are rooted in early experiences of rejection/abandonment that remain stored within the subconscious mind? Do you know ... Views: 25
If you are in the midst of a divorce I'm sure there is a great sense of confusion and cloudiness to your thinking largely brought on by the emotional pain of sadness, anger, grief, fear, emptiness, loneliness and so on that pervade your entire being at this time. This pain is likely affecting ... Views: 44
Do you know that low self esteem leaves you feeling like a second class citizen who must regularly submit their wishes to the whims of others? Do you know low self esteem is something that is "programmed" into you by negative memories of early childhood which continue to reside in your ... Views: 48
Do you know that many people are addicted to toxic relationships that involve emotional and physical abuse, infidelity, betrayal, rejection, humiliation, manipulation, control, jealousy, clingy and smothering behaviors and so on?
Do you know that many of these people repeatedly make bad ... Views: 42
Do you know that neediness, like an automatic self sabotaging program, takes over as one is trying to portray one's best self in a relationship and causes their best efforts to fail repeatedly and disastrously?
Do you know this often leaves one feeling helpless, weak, lacking self ... Views: 65
Boom! It hits you hard and rips out your heart. The love of your life has been cheating on you with another woman. That dirty SOB of a husband has done a lot of things over the years to make you angry, but nothing he has done in the past even remotely compares to this. His affair has violated ... Views: 77
There are a number of individuals who are in relationship who are not yet ready for such a commitment.
One of the biggest issues with such individuals relates to what many therapists classify as a personality disorder. Personality disorders pertain to failed maturation of the individual's ... Views: 97
Do you know that many people harbor a fear of abandonment from past breakups that makes them needy, jealous, controlling, insecure, unattractive, ultimately sabotages their relationships and leads to more feelings of abandonment? Do you know this vicious cycle can now be permanently stopped ... Views: 52
Do you know that many individuals who are coming out of an unhealthy relationship situation often find themselves quickly re-entering similar negative and often abusive relationships?
Do you know that this pattern is largely driven by feelings of rejection, abandonment, low self worth, low ... Views: 113
Men, Women and the Fear of Emotional Commitment
Do you ever wonder why you find yourself repeatedly sabotaging your relationships? Well the most likely cause is an underlying Fear of Emotional Commitment. What's at the root of this fear and how can one completely eliminate it?
Emotional ... Views: 97
Let's face it, infidelity causes deep personal pain, but your spouse's affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
In fact, I hope the information I share with you here will help you save your marriage and help you rebuild the trust you need to fully recover from this painful ... Views: 86
Most people harbor within themselves a fear of being alone. Often the presence of this fear is not recognized because it is compensated for by already being in a relationship. It's as if the relationship makes the fear go underground making the person believe that all is well. It turns out ... Views: 71
After one has been cheated on by their partner it is essentially impossible to return to a state where one can openly and genuinely love again. The pain shuts down the Heart and along with it goes one's experience of loving feelings as well. Is there a way to go beyond the anger and resentment ... Views: 117
Do you know rejection can leave permanent emotional scars that leave one feeling unattractive, undesirable, unworthy, defective, inadequate and unmotivated to get back into a relationship? Do you know that one can readily and permanently erase/delete the negative memories of past rejections ... Views: 87
Do you know that feelings of betrayal stemming from an unforeseen affair by your partner can not only lead to the end of your relationship but "also" to the end of your relationship life?
Do you realize that such an event, which is often traumatizing can leave such a deep scar of betrayal, ... Views: 73
Do you know that one of the major impediments to starting a new relationship is the emotional pain and vulnerability that lingers from the experience of past infidelities?
Do you know this emotional baggage contributes to such things as fears of commitment, fears of intimacy, patterns of ... Views: 56
Dear Dr. Romance:
I read your post on line about 5 signs he isn't over his ex, and it answered a lot of questions that I have about my ex husband. We were married for 10 years. He's violent, abusive and obsessed with me. I have dealt with him for the almost 3 years ... Views: 77
The first steps to recover from infidelity are never easy. In fact they may be the most painful steps you will take as an individual or as a couple as you try to rebuild the trust you had in your partner.
As the victim of your spouse's affair, there is a lot to deal with right after you ... Views: 37
Do you know that the fear of abandonment is a key factor in the demise of many relationships? Do you know that it can make individuals insecure, jealous, controlling, manipulative, needy, smothering, and that all of these inevitably cause the very thing they fear, abandonment? Do you know that ... Views: 108
Do you know that there are many successful women and men who continually choose or remain stuck in toxic relationships? Do you know this means achieving career success does not immediately translate into being able to make healthy, discerning and self respecting choices in one's relationship ... Views: 95
The fear of intimacy is responsible for a great deal of the self sabotage that individuals engage in while in relationships.
If you've ever experienced it I think you'll recognize that it seems to happen almost automatically and as if you have little control over it. Unfortunately after the ... Views: 125
The pain, sadness and grief that go with a recent divorce can often make it extremely difficult to clearly and confidently move forward into one's awaiting new life. In fact many individuals have been told that it often takes months to years to truly recover from such a negative event. Is this ... Views: 128
Do you know that the length of time it takes to completely get over a breakup can be anywhere from 3 years to forever? Do you know that this time period can be shortened to a matter of days to weeks? Do you know that the single greatest impediment to letting go of the negative feelings ... Views: 125
The fear of abandonment manifests itself as excessive worry that those close to you will leave you, as feelings of insecurity, anxiety, feelings of unworthiness, panic, fear of being alone, dread, over possessive or controlling behaviors, manipulative behaviors and so on.
As I think you can ... Views: 94
Do you know that the fear of intimacy is a key factor responsible for self sabotaging patterns in relationships? Do you know that this fear literally hijacks the person by getting them to believe that it is somehow protecting them from being rejected, abandoned, exposed, shamed, humiliated and ... Views: 87
In a recent article entitled "Need Disguised as Love" I make the point that individuals generally confuse love for something that is actually driven by need.
For instance, "the need to be needed", "the need to not be alone", "the need to be validated", and "the need to be taken care of" ... Views: 146
There are individuals who use their feelings of jealousy to rate how much they love their partner or how much they are loved by their partner.
They believe, for instance, that if I'm feeling jealous that others are paying too much attention to my partner then that's a sign of how much I love ... Views: 115
I'm sure many of you have had a failed relationship in your past where you may have been rejected by your former mate. This can leave a deeply embedded wound in your mind/body that you then carry into future relationships.
Apart from the hurt, sadness and pain associated with such a wound ... Views: 76
Do you know that healing a broken heart after a breakup can only happen if the memory of the event is completely and permanently erased from your mind? Does this sound preposterous to you? Does this sound impossible? Does this arouse skepticism and doubt about whether you should read further? ... Views: 117
Most Americans think adultery is wrong. Almost 90 percent of men and 94 percent of women think it’s always wrong or almost always wrong. But many of those people have extra-marital affairs anyway. One of the most reliable sources for statistics is the National Opinion Research Center at the ... Views: 51
Now although that may sound like a strange title it is more common than you think. Let me explain.
Self sabotage is essentially when an individual engages an old conditioned habit or way of being that undermines their success, integrity, self esteem, self worth, self confidence, their ... Views: 122
Social media, such as Tumblr.com, have become the playground of narcissists, psychopaths, and sadists who post extreme and, at times, illegal porn and revel in the reactions to it, thus garnering vicarious narcissistic supply. Via such postings, they express their rabid misogyny by objectifying ... Views: 131
Dear Dr. Romance:
I've been with this man over thirty years back and forth. Something always seems to happen and we end up apart again. He endsup getting married and yet though living states apart he always ends up calling and we do the same thing all over again.
This time we got closer ... Views: 175
Practically everyone whose been in a serious romantic relationship with all of the deliciously intense and passionate feelings that go with it, have at one time or another experienced jealousy, which is really the fear that ---to some degree--- your partner is not being exclusive to you either ... Views: 203
Coping with unfaithfulness often means among other issues you are paying for someone's wrong choice.
You will discover lots of work to be taken care of after the affair since as a result of your actions you've done quite a lot of damage to your marital relationship which is hanging by a ... Views: 192
Give me one moment, I can give you life, not as one may have imagined, not with mortal thought, touch deeper than flesh could ever allow, a delight of senses real and not of this world, in our moment of eternal connection all else watches and waits. Daniel King, Rumi-Nations
The first day of ... Views: 184
Do you know that choosing to have healthy relationships requires self esteem, self worth, self respect and the ability to make discerning choices? Do you know that many lack these because of old negative emotional relationship baggage stored within that generates self destructive needy patterns ... Views: 158
What is an emotional affair?
To put it simply, it is an affair of the heart.
An emotional affair is emotional affection without physical affection. It is when your wife enjoys talking to someone else, being around someone else and flirting with someone else more than she does with you. She is ... Views: 290
Dear Dr. Romance
I read your article, Gentle Persistence, followed the instrudtions, and got the truth.
You were right. You were sooooo right! I've finally come to the realization that the married man I've been having an affair with for almost two years now has been using me. ... Views: 229
Are you worried that you won't be able to survive an emotional affair?
Is your wife still attached to another man? Does she continue pushing you away and defiling your marriage?
Whether your wife is aware that you know about her emotional affair or not, if she continues to involve herself ... Views: 174
Are you unsure whether or not you have strayed into the realms of emotional infidelity?
Are you worried that perhaps someone other than your spouse has become your top priority?
Or maybe you're here reading this because your husband or wife wants you to see for yourself that your ... Views: 253
Coming to terms with adultery or infidelity, understanding how it happened, and taking the necessary steps to recover is not easy – especially when your emotional pain is fresh, and your wounds are so deep. It hurts … and it’s sickening to think that the person ... Views: 601
Dear Dr. Romance:
i need some relationship advise really bad bad. Can you help?? I really need help, See, I cheated on my boyfriend of 4 years And he found out and forgave me! And he went out And slept with 3 girls that night is it possible for us to still work? We love each other but I ... Views: 277
You thought infidelity in marriage only happened to other couples. Undoubtedly during the course of your life you have known people that have experienced it firsthand.
You may have done what you could to sympathize with the person be they a friend or relative. In the end however there was ... Views: 214
Dear Dr. Romance
Your articles are very helpful to me. Can you tell me what book of yours can help me heal from my last relatioship. The pain is still there and although I am sure I had to let go, I still care a lot.
I'm sorry you're hurting. I know how ... Views: 495
Being suspicious of your spouse and assuming that they are cheating on you is starting to destroy you and tear you apart. It’s driving you crazy that you don’t know what is really going on. All you want is to know the truth. If you knew the truth, then you could sleep at night and maybe get on ... Views: 175
When you have the haunting feeling that your spouse is cheating on you, that is the only thing that you can think about. You don’t want your greatest fear to come true but you worry that it may. The suspense is tearing you apart. You can’t even look at your spouse in the same way until you know ... Views: 146
Unless you're completely out of touch with any media, written, audio or video, you have been bombarded with words like "dysfunctional relationship", "codependency" and "toxic family system". You may have noticed that there's a lot of information available about these relationships, but not too ... Views: 265