When I counsel people with depression and anxiety, they often say that they don't understand why they feel depressed or anxious. People who have a good job, a good loving family, and enough money get confused over their feelings. Consequentially they don't get any sympathy form their friends or ... Views: 13
You hear it all the time. Someone gets angry and dissatisfied with someone else and the person whom they are upset with is the victim. Here is an important question. Why would someone who is happy and content want to abuse another? It just does not make sense. Let's take some less serious ... Views: 18
Shyness, or what is technically referred to as social anxiety, is something that many individuals suffer with.
It can literally determine the level of success one achieves in areas such as relationships, career, wealth, happiness, fulfillment etc.
It can be a crippling problem associated ... Views: 21
People throughout much of the United States will remember the winter of 2013-2014.. You have recent memories of shoveling snow, driving through ice, snow, and slush, staying home with the kids when they had a day off, and worrying about the safety of people you know. Those of you who do not live ... Views: 20
Are you one of those people who has identified themselves, or been identified by others, as being shy?
Does such identification feel life enhancing to you? I know that some of you may have been under this veil for such a long time that perhaps you've come to accept it as "who you are" or as " ... Views: 33
Do you ever find yourself feeling unfulfilled, bored, empty, unmotivated, and like you're not really living a full, rich, expansive, creative life and feeling alive as your True Self? Do you feel that you react to life in habitually, pre-programmed ways that you refer to as your "personality" ... Views: 34
While anxiety is just one of many emotions that one can experience throughout their life and without too many problems arising, it can also be something that ends up being completely out of control. It is then not just another emotion that one can experience; it is something that can end up ... Views: 38
Are you one of those individuals who tend to worry? I bet you have probably never stopped to consider why you do it or the consequences it has on your life. You probably think its just part of who you are or part of your personality. Well I can tell you that not only is it not part of you it is ... Views: 46
Anxiety and stage fright are largely the result of what I call "emotional landmines" i.e. negatively charged memories stored in your unconscious mind and body that keep getting re-triggered by daily events thus leading to anxiety and other painful emotional and physical experiences. If you would ... Views: 34
Do you know most men, when in the company of attractive women, feel shy and weak, intimidated by their beauty, feel inadequate and anxious, get tongue tied, lose all self confidence, and appear needy and unattractive? Do you know this is a real turn off for many women?
Do you know that it is ... Views: 34
Do you know that shyness is a) not hardwired, b) not part of who you truly are, c) rooted in early negative experiences of rejection, neglect, abandonment, humiliation, bullying, feeling unwanted and unloved and so on stored in the subconscious mind in the form of negative memories and that d) ... Views: 64
Do you know that the most significant roadblock to being a confident public speaker is emotional in nature? Do you know that even the most successful public speakers can become immensely more successful if they could somehow permanently address their fears of rejection, inadequacy, sounding ... Views: 56
I use to suffer from paralyzing shyness only 15 years ago. So much so that I was inspired to find a way to break free from this debilitating state. I subsequently did. I now speak in front of large audiences with a sense of supreme confidence.
My inspiration led me to a deeper understanding ... Views: 88
Is it possible to permanently eliminate shyness from one's life in such a way that one will not even remember that they were ever shy? Absolutely! To do so however requires a measure of courage and desire.
What is shyness?
Well in a nutshell it is a conditioned emotional program that ... Views: 62
Many people over the years have asked me a question that I feel I should address in one of my posts, and that question is what do I think about therapy. Well, in a nutshell I think that psychotherapy is a complete waste of time and money, due to the length of time it takes to see any kind of ... Views: 69
For people who have endured serious trauma, the concept of anniversaries isn’t so special. “Anxiety anniversaries” act as psychological bookmarks in a person’s memory that takes them back to a specific traumatic incident that occurred during a certain time of year. Both the APA and the U.S, ... Views: 89
All of us date for different reasons. Sometimes theses reasons are unknown to our conscious mind. With application of thought and reflection, we can find out what we want from our dating partner and once we know what we want we can begin breaking down the walls of shyness.
Reasons come ... Views: 85
Do you know how worry can chew up much of your energy, enthusiasm and create enormous amounts of mental, emotional and physical stress? Do you know that worry is actually not a normal human emotion and that it can be completely and irreversibly purged from your mind and body? How do you do that, ... Views: 113
Making your own personal relaxation audio can be effective in helping you practice and master many of the relaxation techniques and methods you've learned so far. This particular script includes relaxed breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, imagery, and suggestion.
Preparing Your ... Views: 103
Anxiety Free New Year’s Resolutions
The new year is only a day old, and my client Wendy is looking at her list of resolutions. They’re the things she’s focused on every January for the past three years – more exercise, better eating habits, more accomplishment at work, more patience with her ... Views: 123
There are three obsessive behaviors that you are likely to be engaging in that is impeding your healing process and stopping you from enjoying a stress-free life. Recognizing these barriers can be a great first step toward getting rid of the problems that go with being too stressed.
The first ... Views: 113
One glorious day, a small miracle happened. It was at a professional tennis tournament in Turkey that I was about to play in. I was in the qualifying draw and playing against someone who was ranked much higher than me. He was also bigger, hit the ball harder, played smarter, and was much younger ... Views: 121
At the end of your life, I want you to be able to look back and marvel at the way you handled your anxiety disorder. I don't want you to look back and think 'what if'? This path you are heading down may be unfamiliar and uncomfortable, but it is the path that you must take. Take it now, take ... Views: 100
What a crazy year for me, I started The Anxious Athlete with the hopes of helping people through their anxiety which is now looking like an epidemic of some sorts. I still remember the day I walked out of my home after spending 31 days locked up due to my Agoraphobia, that was some day... I ... Views: 89
Stress kills. Maybe not directly but it is definitely one of the leading causes of ailments and diseases worldwide. There are many stress induced ailments that have great potentials of leading to early morbidity or, at the very least, make peoples live full of physical difficulties such as high ... Views: 105
Shyness is an epidemic that has severely limited the potential of many good and honest human beings.
Is it necessary to endure this fate if you are one of those individuals? No longer! Here I explain the roots of shyness and its inevitable solution.
Shyness: the fear of approaching and ... Views: 118
It is rather simple to mistakenly take an anxiety attack for a real heart attack. In fact, most casual observers would not even know the difference between the two if they see it happening right before their eyes. The clear signs of an anxiety attack reflect the commonly known signs of a heart ... Views: 99
Do you know that worry is one of the most toxic self destructive habits in our species' emotional repertoire? Do you know it is responsible for stress, tiredness, burnout, anxiety, depression, helplessness, low self confidence, feelings of inadequacy, feelings of vulnerability, low self worth ... Views: 141
Technology has progressed leaps and bounds since the turn of the century, and with these fantastic advancements comes a new issue: tech anxiety. This is a newly developing strain of anxiety that can be traced back to high levels of technology usage, especially regarding virtual communication. ... Views: 82
When we feel different than the person we are projecting to others, it can cause stress and sometimes shame. Most of us have felt that way at times, and the ability to integrate again is usually fluid. But when we feel fragmented and fake most of the time, it can be extremely painful and ... Views: 131
In today's world of downsizing and job insecurity, burnout is scary. Luckily, experts agree that you can bust out of burnout and get back to business by taking control of your situation.
Getting Overwork Under Control
You're working so hard that you can barely remember your own name. ... Views: 181
Breathing properly is one of the simplest ways to drain away tension and relieve your stress. By simply changing your breathing patterns, you can rapidly induce a greater state of relaxation. If you can control the way you breath, you have a powerful tool to reduce bodily tension.
Most ... Views: 106
Our ancestors kept telling us that we become what we eat; and highlighted the importance of the connection food has over the way we think which ultimately leads to the actions we take. Our diet is extremely important to our happiness as well as to the way we think, to the way we love one ... Views: 135
The dinner time conversation went better than I expected with Robyn. I convinced her that a temporary move to Bali Indonesia could be an adventure of a lifetime, and that the trip hopefully would help me to drastically change my fearful and negative beliefs that led to my anxiety disorder. ... Views: 105
The Answer Was Right There
I quickly realized that who I surrounded myself with I became! My environment had a massive impact on how I thought, felt and even acted. The more I hung around and practiced with better tennis players than me, the faster I improved my own tennis game. The more ... Views: 100
On the 6th doctor I visited to look deeper into what these agonizing symptoms I was experiencing could be, I got some interesting advice. The advice I was given was unlike what anyone had ever told me before, and in time it showed me a natural path to overcoming my generalized anxiety disorder. ... Views: 102
We must remember that we will always come across inevitable factors that cause pressure and anxiety on us. What we do not know is that it is not really the problems that are difficult to deal with, but our attitude towards the problems. Basically, the cause of stress is your attitude toward ... Views: 142
In today's day-to-day lifestyle, depression is a very familiar disorder. It affects every eighth man and every fourth woman (scary I know). Many of us are actually unaware of the symptoms of depression which include feelings of desperation, compulsive negative thinking, increased or decreased ... Views: 146
After complaining that I had “too little time” to do all the things that “needed to be done,” a mentor said:
“You have the same amount of time per day that everyone else has…24 hours. You don’t need more time. What you need is the discipline to use the time you’ve got more wisely.”
With ... Views: 22
Emilia was a jazz pianist who wanted to break into the Bay Area performing scene. Her roadblock was performance anxiety.
A small technical mistake would get her wondering whether anyone in the band, or the audience, noticed the mistake. The resulting physical tension made it harder to ... Views: 112
People often celebrate as many as three or four holidays during this time of the year. Unfortunately, each can be filled with stress wrapped in many shapes, sizes and packages that can far overshadow the potential for joy.
The biggest stressor for many is having too much to do in the limited ... Views: 199
When you suffer from performance anxiety, you know it by your immediate physical reactions and symptoms which include (but are not limited to) feeling sweaty and faint, fear of losing absolute control, trembling, hyperventilating, shaky voice, diarrhea, weakness in the knees, dry mouth, a desire ... Views: 100
1) Get Movin And Groovin!
Movement creates momentum, positive momentum. Do you like to go dancing and feel that nightclubs and bars are a thing of the past for you? Schedule dance time at home to your favorite songs rather then sitting in front of the tube! Take a walk in nature and observe ... Views: 144
No Man's Land
In tennis, there is an area of the court called "no man's land," located within the two feet in front of the baseline. This is the worst place to stand if you want to be able to return the ball. However, new players don't know this and naturally tend to stand there. Instead of ... Views: 103
Relax, Don’t Be Anxious About Your Anxiety
Anxiety may be caused by a number of factors. It may be due to a situation specific stimulus or it may present as a characteristic trait that endures over time. This is an important distinction in terms of tailoring treatment approaches that will ... Views: 175
Living in a time of light, we will "of necessity" encounter the shadows within us and around us. It's critical we understand that this is not intended as a burden. These shadows are never meant to darken our view of ourselves or our view of the world. It's simply that our wholeness grows as we ... Views: 115
Perfect Practice - How often in the sport of tennis for example do two people play against one another that have the same knowledge about their sport, have similar talent levels, and have a great team of coaches behind them, but one athlete comes out and completely takes over the match and ... Views: 110
Do you know even though worry is pervasive it doesn't need to significantly undermine one's self confidence? Do you also know that worry is a) not supposed to be a human experience and b) that it can be permanently eradicated? Do you know deleting it from the emotional repertoire will not only ... Views: 138
Can you believe this is what I was told by my therapist in just the 3rd session together? I may have just got one of the 'bad batches' of therapist during the time I was dealing with anxiety (and I truly hope so for the sake of the 6.8 million American adults), but deep down I believed that the ... Views: 94
Many years ago, I read a book that spoke about how we need to provide ourselves with self-check ups. It was a strange idea, I thought, because I’m with myself all the time, what on earth do I need to check in about?
But I am sure that we can all relate to ‘catching’ ourselves doing certain ... Views: 23