At the core of each human being rests a heart full of love, tinged with sadness and aching with longing. Some would say this longing points to our awareness of our original separation from a divine source, the knowing that we are all one yet painfully separated from each another because of this ... Views: 13
If you follow my work you know that I view anxiety quite differently than most people. Instead of seeing it as something to eliminate as quickly as possible – usually with medication – I see it as the soul’s way of communicating, via the vessel of the body, that something is awry inside and is ... Views: 10
Social anxiety. It’s something 15 million people in the U.S. struggle with daily. But what is social anxiety? Well as ADAA puts it, it is “the fear of being scrutinized and judged by others in social or performance situations.” Which means you have a fear of being judged by peers in social ... Views: 14
Maybe if it’s “all in your head,” it’s in your brain chemistry
We women have spent so long and worked so hard for equality in rights, in education, and at work, that it may actually be hard to talk about how we are different.
The World Health Organization has been working on this, and ... Views: 12
Holidays are the best time of the year filled with parties, celebrations, gifts, food, family, and friends.
Or are they?
happy_holidays_wallpaper_by_darktrick17-d5mvmf2For some, holidays can be one of the most stressful times of the year. Our schedule is filled with events and gatherings ... Views: 29
Inspired by the courageous, wise members of my July 2014 Trust Yourself program. Quotes from the forum reprinted with permission.
My family and I were driving into town last summer when we saw a blue van pass by with the words “Mr. Pool” printed on the side.
“There goes Mr. Pool,” I ... Views: 24
“I’m just an anxious person,” I often hear my clients and program members say. The statement underlines a common globalization belief intrinsic to many who struggle with anxiety, which is: I’m anxious, I’ve always been anxious and I’ll always be anxious. In other words, anxiety is just in my ... Views: 32
By Frosty Wooldridge
At one point in history, President Thomas Jefferson faced a national crisis. He said, “We have a wolf by the ears; he’s too dangerous to keep and he’s even more dangerous if we let him go.”
Jefferson also spoke about his own battles within himself.
You may find ... Views: 36
There is so much pain in this world. There’s personal pain that often takes the form of anxiety, depression, addictions, and intrusive thoughts. There’s the physical pain of illness, injury, and disabilities, both short-term and chronic. There’s relationship pain when we endure conflict with ... Views: 31
Light fading, time passing, big boy is ten, baby isn’t a baby and the time for having babies is over. The pregnant woman in the check-out line and it’s eleven years ago, pregnant with my own belly of hope and love, on the threshold of everything new and exciting. There was pain then, too, but ... Views: 25
It's not easy to know what to do when you have a friend who seems depressed. Dr. Romance has some guidelines to help you support and care for your dear one.
1. Don't try to cheer your friend up. It just sounds like you don't understand.
2. Listen, listen, listen: Your friend ... Views: 46
Stress is an unavoidable side effect of life. There will always be events that force you to undergo a large amount of physical and emotional stress, which makes knowing how to handle those situations key to keeping yourself sane. Below is a list of the six most stressful situations that most ... Views: 49
The good news is that even the severest forms of depression are resolvable to the point where sufferers can lead enriched, productive and fulfilling lives. The key is getting through the darkest times. Just as the sun has been rising since the dawn of man, there is light at the end of the dark ... Views: 57
Problems with Current Therapies
Depression is very common, with a lifetime rate of over 20% in the USA. It is estimated to be the leading cause of disability in developed countries worldwide by the World Health Organization. In depressed patients who do see improvement with treatment, relapse ... Views: 73
(part 3 of A Soft Place to Call Home)
Now that you have made space for your thoughts and listened to them, gently, without judgment, and without reacting, what would the next steps be? How do you develop the perspective to ... Views: 77
(part 2 of A Soft Place to Call Home
“Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky
Conscious breathing is my anchor”
Thich Nhat Hanh
In my last article, I wrote about the importance of being compassionate ... Views: 60
Experiences can be painful. Such is life. When we were little, we ran to mommy and her kiss and cuddle fixed everything. Lying in her arms, there seemed not a worry in the world and the incident that had brought us running and howling was very soon a lonely cloud drifting in the far distance. ... Views: 86
Recently a client admitted to falling back into an old undesirable habit. Ashley had once again become a tyrant at home. She was obsessed with the cleanliness of her house. She worried about getting things done on time. She stopped interacting with her family. The only time she spoke to them was ... Views: 82
When you've survived a traumatic experience, the anxiety that often follows can consume you for the rest of your life. Whether the traumatic event was a violent attack or a life-threatening car accident, this anxiety can occasionally develop into post-traumatic stress. Things that didn't matter ... Views: 74
Approximately 8 out of 10 people in this planet have some sort of faith, religion, or belief in some kind of divine force, and/or supreme being(s). There are numerous religions, spiritual authorities, scriptures and interpretations of the divine and all of them seem to possess the power to ... Views: 80
In our fast-paced, multi-tasking, on-the-go-deadline driven work, we are often caught up in the act of “Doing.” We move from task to task on our to-do list. We rush from work to class to home. We keep pushing ourselves to do more and do it better.
from type a to type me: how to stop doing ... Views: 95
Now, that the new school year is here. I have been receiving calls from parents concerned about their children’s reactions and resistance to returning to school. Many parents are concerned that their child may be suffering from separation anxiety.
It is not unusual that your child may have ... Views: 81
The Comfort Zone Concept
I have never seen the phrase comfort zone in the dictionary, but if it were there, I suppose it would read something like this:
Comfort Zone- A mental state in which no progression toward one’s potential takes place.
I believe that my comfort zone is nothing ... Views: 177
While speaking my thoughts can be a very powerful tool in developing meaningful relationships with those around me, it could also prove to be very detrimental, based on what my thoughts revolve around. With that reasoning, I feel comfortable making the assertion that before I ... Views: 86
By Sam Vaknin
Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"
Anxiety Disorders – and especially Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD) – are often misdiagnosed as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
Anxiety is uncontrollable and excessive apprehension. Anxiety disorders usually ... Views: 118
When the behaviors of a Type A are out of control, we can take responsibility for situations and outcomes, for the feelings and experience or others, and for absolutely everything around us. We think everything is our responsibility, and thus, within our control to affect. We fear if we don’t ... Views: 125
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a 70-yr old man who has been married more than forty years. I read your article "Autonomy and Dependency" I feel like I've been in a codependency relationship the last fifteen years and havedeveloped anxiety & depression. My wife is a ... Views: 145
The concept of a Type A personality has not been around for long. It was actually identified in the 1950s by two cardiologists, Drs. Meyer Friedman and Ray Rosenman, who were studying coronary heart disease. They found a link between personality types and heart disease. According to their ... Views: 89
It could be argued that stress management is a lot like time management. Everyone has the same amount of time in a day, but the individuals who are most productive tend to be those who are very careful about how they spend their time.
In terms of tackling stress, the same principle applies. ... Views: 101
"There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds." Laurell K Hamilton Mistral's Kiss
From the outside looking in, it is easy to say, but he had so much why couldn't he find the help he needed. From the inside looking out, a lot of the ... Views: 108
Start Doing This Immediately to Train Your Brain for Success!
What I’m about to share with you in this article cannot be ignored. It has literally made the difference in my clients’ ability to gain control over their lives in remarkable ways.
You may have heard of visualization or maybe ... Views: 227
We are all in a time of high stress, and
national disasters often bring up fear. If these fears are not
dealt with, they can lead to acting out behavior,
such as drinking too much or creating relationship, work or money
problems as a distraction. To avoid ... Views: 119
Yep, you're not alone in North America or throughout the world if you are currently going through a condition called anxiety disorder. To put things in perspective for you 26.2% of people in America older then the age of 18 (1 in 4) are suffering from some sort of mental disorder, so ... Views: 109
Hello everyone and welcome new members
One of the most common challenges I have heard my clients express is their difficulty to deal with or accept changes. Whether it is a change at work, at home, in their relationships, in their body, in their income or lifestyle; they all find it ... Views: 170
Somewhere, right now, multitudes of women are attending seminars urging them to think differently about themselves, live their best lives, believe in themselves and grow. And no matter how wonderfully uplifting these seminars may be, they are outmatched, out-ranked and out-gunned by the ... Views: 126
With the Fourth of July festivities approaching, many animal owners are very concerned for their companions, especially dogs who can be terrified of the loud noises of fireworks and thunderstorms.
Commonly seen signs of noise phobias include:
• Shaking, trembling
• Excessive ... Views: 149
With summer here, it’s time to relax. To let yourself daydream. To take time off from your usual frantic schedule. To free yourself from the rigors of daily life and quiet your mind. Lack of structure used to be a feature of summer vacation, but we seem to be increasingly programmed. Maybe it’s ... Views: 115
When Christians announce the time of God's judgment, perhaps it should be with Good News of how to avoid the judgment that is coming. While “anything can happen” and it seems like “anytime,” in Bible times, God said, “I will execute judgment” in the context of Passover, Exod 12:12.
That's ... Views: 175
When I was much younger and more naive, I used to buy into the New Age belief that we create our personal reality 100% of the time based on our thoughts. But, I've come to realize that this is only a partial truth. And, while our beliefs certainly do influence and affect our experience of ... Views: 191
Keywords: A warm, refreshing orange aroma that fairly sparkles with brightness. Petitgrain is a top note often used in perfumery. Almost all cologne waters contain some petitgrain oil.
Steam distilled from the leaves of the bitter orange tree Petitgrain oil has a lovely fresh and revitalizing ... Views: 262
It is not uncommon to hear people say that they feel ungrounded and while this may be a term that is more commonly used amongst people who are into self development, it is something that anyone can experience. It therefore won’t matter if they are into self development or not, as they can still ... Views: 186
For many years anxiety was viewed by people as some sort of a weakness in character. They attributed this state of mind and body to the weakness of will. The basic recommendation for battling anxiety was just to gather up one’s will and go on with life, as if nothing was really happening inside ... Views: 200
Many people make light of nervous breakdowns, often using the term in a joking and over-exaggerative manner. However, nervous breakdowns, although not officially referred to as a medical condition, are still very serious, as they signal several underlying mental issues which must be ... Views: 194
By now, the public has become more aware of the startling number of daily military suicides—roughly 22 veterans a day are taking their own lives after they are discharged from service. However, the exact cause of (at the least the majority of) these suicides is unfortunately unknown. ... Views: 155
MoHow Posted By Joel Simms Over the years I have been asked many times by many people how I remain calm and patient in situations where others become agitated, frightened, frustrated and angry. My answer has been, “I have learned to be patient by learning a range of skills that anyone can ... Views: 308
If you have never suffered from excessive anxiety, then it may be difficult to empathize with someone who has. Anxious people may seem to be worried about nothing of substance, so it’s tempting to disregard the problem. But the fact is, anxiety—including post-traumatic stress disorder, ... Views: 157
About one in four Americans is affected by a mental disorder in a given year, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. How many of those seek help from a mental health professional? Not nearly enough. So quite a few people suffer who might not have to if they sought help.
But how ... Views: 147
Millions of Americans every year find themselves plagued by a variety of anxiety disorders that potentially affect every facet of their daily lives. Some of these anxiety disorders surround specific incidents in life, like Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder involves anxiety after an individual ... Views: 160
Many people struggle with feeling obligated, guilty, burdened, trapped and or heavy. It feels as though they are walking around with a huge sack of rocks on their back. The truth of the matter is, you are always changing. The universe around you is always changing and if you are going to keep up ... Views: 249
At some moments in our lives, we feel depressed or “low” from something that happened to us. We might suffer a defeat on the sporting field. We may lose a friend or spouse. At some juncture, we may grieve our circumstance in a hopeless job or situation.
When the world contrives against ... Views: 159