Most of us have read about red flags in a relationship. They are signs that tell us this person may be hazardous to our hearts. You know you’re heading for trouble if you’re dating a man who is an addict, married, committed to his job, unavailable emotionally or physically, abusive, angry, unkind, broke, etc. Knowing the red flags can help you know what to avoid. And we all need, from time to time, outside guidance to know what to avoid, until we learn what doesn’t work for us.

Recently one of my clients said, “Okay so I get what doesn’t work. What does work?” Great question. Let’s look at the signs that tell us to go ahead and continue the relationship. Also by looking at the green flags, you’re putting yourself in a positive frame of mind and a positive energy field to attract what you do want. Focus on the positive.

15 Green Flags

Feeling good about yourself – when you’re with him you feel good about yourself. You like yourself.

Laughter – you both laugh when you’re together because you’re having fun. He can laugh at himself when he makes a mistake, which means he’s healthy and he’ll allow your mistakes.

Outside Friends and Interests – he supports you in maintaining your friends and interests and he maintains his. This is crucial and shows you he’s healthy and wants you to have your own life too.

Good manners – opening your car door, letting you go through the door first, eating like a gentleman – using a fork and knife, knowing when to tip, polite to wait staff

Introduces you to his friends and family – at an appropriate time interval. Not the first week, maybe the 2nd month of dating for friends and the 4th – 6th month for family.

Shows you he cares– he’s not a word only guy. He actually shows you. Remember the old axiom: “actions speak louder than words.”

Passion and Romance – you have the same level of interest. For example, if you love candlelight dinners, he’s willing to enjoy them too; and you’re willing to enjoy whatever his version of romance is. Passion - keep it going.

He pays – for dinners and other treats. Men like to pay. It doesn’t mean you can’t treat him to a lunch or something, but men show you how they feel about you when they pay and they like how it makes them feel.

Communicates about his activities – he lets you know what he’s up to. So you know whether he’s with other women or with his male friends at a ballgame or at a bar.

Healthy – emotionally, physically, spiritually. He takes care of himself emotionally, physically and spiritually.

Likes his job – he likes it and has fun with it or he's actively interviewing for a new one.

Likes his mother and sisters (if any) – he’s got a healthy respect for them.

Respects you – he shows you he respects you by the things he does, like paying; opening your car door; if you drive separately to the restaurant, he not only pays for the meal, but also for the valet parking and the tip. He asks for and listens to your point of view and wants your ideas on things.

Trusts you – he believes you when you tell him you’re going on a girls weekend to a spa, or when you say you can’t go out or even call him back because you have to work on a big project. He gets it and realizes you need to take care of yourself.

Loves you – men want to love and cherish the woman they’re with. It makes them feel good about themselves.

Can you have all those things in one man? YES!!!! Absolutely. And please don’t settle for less.

Set your intention. Prioritize the green flags any way you want to and don’t exclude any.

Choose to attract this awesome man into your life. Choose to allow yourself to have a glorious committed relationship with this man.

Imagine the possibilities….

© Carol C. Chanel

Author's Bio: 

Carol Chanel is a Certified Personal and Professional Life Coach who also has a degree in Sociology & Psychology. With 30 years plus of working in the self-improvement field, Carol brings her education, experience and intuition to her clients and coaches them to move beyond stuck to a life of love, joy, fulfillment and fun!