Self awareness is truly the cornerstone of emotional intelligence. It underlies all the other aspects of self motivation and emotional intelligence.

Self awareness is about knowing one’s own emotions. It's about understanding your thinking patterns and knowing what thinking pattern you use in certain events.

It's also an understanding of your strengths and weaknesses. To know what motivates you and what you want out of life.

Lastly, it is an awareness of how you impact other people.

The following questions will help you to become more aware…more conscious of these things.

How To Use These Self Awareness Questions

There are two ways to use these questions. I recommend both.

  • Take some time off to reflect on them. Make sure there are no distractions. Switch of the phone and make sure that nothing will disturb you.

    Personally, I prefer to do it in the morning. Get up half an hour earlier to spend some time on your self awareness questions.

    Don’t rush through the questions. Take four or five per day. Don’t answer them all at once. If you only get through one a day, it’s also fine. Remember self awareness is a habit. We have certain default thinking patterns and if thinking what we are thinking about is not a habit, we need to practice to make it a daily habit.

    Wright down your answers in a journal. Think of significant situations that relate to each question. Reflect on them before you answer.

  • Ask other people for input on these questions. Your employees, life partner, your boss, even your kids.

    This can be quite valuable, because it will help you to become aware of any blind spots.

The Questions...

  1. When I am put under pressure, I tend to feel… because I tell myself...
  2. I would tell a white lie if...
  3. My hardest decisions concern...
  4. When someone criticizes me at work, I often feel… because I tell myself...
  5. I am not a good listener when...
  6. I feel the most motivated when...
  7. I avoid challenges when...
  8. I’m open about myself to others if...
  9. When I am put in charge, I...
  10. My greatest dissatisfactions center around...
  11. I’m stubborn when...
  12. Changing my behavior requires...
  13. I could be understood better...
  14. I create the best results in my life when...
  15. If I knew I could not fail, I would...
  16. The amount of work I do is influenced by...
  17. I show significant courage when...
  18. I missed a significant opportunity in my life when...
  19. I feel most joy in my life when...
  20. I get in my own way when...
  21. I easily rise to the occasion when...
  22. I am insensitive to others when...
  23. I have a difficult time being emotionally present when...
  24. The kind of support I need more in my life is...
  25. One of the most important things I learned from my parents...
  26. If someone mistreats me...
  27. If I didn’t need to earn money...
  28. If I had no fear...
  29. I tend to sabotage myself when...
  30. I release stress by...
  31. I enjoy myself best...
  32. I do the following to look after myself on a regular basis...
  33. My weak points are...
  34. My strong points are...
  35. I learn best by...
  36. What have I given up on in life?...
  37. I was the happiest in my life when...
  38. I was the unhappiest in my life when...
  39. If I could do anything in the world, it would be...
  40. I want the rest of my life to be about...

Well, there you have it. Feel free to add some more. Remember to take your time. Ask others and write your thoughts down. If you are looking for similar emotional intelligence tools, you can find it here.

Enjoy.

Author's Bio: 

Derik Mocke (B.Sc) is an energetic, purpose driven, educated, present moment, emotionally aware, fun loving professional life coach, group coach, motivator, father, husband and marathon runner. His life purpose is to help people, groups and companies to find their energy and zest for life. He helped companies with employee motivation for the past 15 years and is also the editor of www.sustainable-employee-motivation.com