“You are fired!” are three most terrifying words to hear especially if you have worked your butt off and given your all in the name of work. If you have ever been fired, you know how demeaning and frustrating it can be.

All of a sudden, a dream job or career and the profile you spent years building comes to a halt.

Anger, frustration, terror and betrayal are often the first feelings that come into mind once you get laid off. For some, this experience can be as jolting as the death of a loved one, or even more. It is not easy to bounce back, but once that happens, and its time to move one, how do you go about it? How do you cope with all the stress?

In essence, how do you get your head back in the game and start looking for another job? Here are some simple tips.

Accept your feelings

When you get fired, it is okay to become angry, frustrated and feel betrayed. Don’t try to hide or justify yourself that its better that way. Open up so that the feelings can go away as fast as possible. Remember this is what you need. Work hard to get those feelings off and use them to your advantage to move forward.

In the process of working through your feeling, remember that moving on requires accepting things that you cannot change. So, accept that you lost the job and you cannot change that fact. Take time to relax and recharge back before taking the next step.

Take time to reflect what happened

At this point, you may feel frustrated and think that it is impossible to bounce back. But one way to get your head back in the game is to reflect on your experience. Turn the loss into an opportunity. Think about what you would want to accomplish at the end of it all. What do you enjoy doing at work? What do you hate doing?

In the end, you will realize that being fired does not define you, your abilities, or your future career.

Instead, being terminated can be a weapon you can use to make better decisions in future. Sometimes, you may find that you feel excited about what lies ahead even after losing your job.

Control your emotions

Once you are fired from your job, the future may seem uncertain. But it’s important to realize that it is not the end of the world. At first, you may feel frustrated and keep your emotions in check can be quite hard.

Most people will lock themselves up in the house or avoid being in social places to avoid meeting with friends or family members. But as hard as it seems, try to take care of yourself by exercising, reading a lot, or taking a walk to relieve stress. Train your mind to focus on the next step rather than dwell on the past. It all starts with controlling your emotions then everything else will fall into place with time.

Remain positive

Don’t get carried away in negative thinking after being fired. Remember, this is an opportunity to dust yourself up and make the best out of it. If you focus and give all you got to overcome the situation, you will get your feet back up again. This may be a good opportunity to pursue your passion.

If this seems more difficult than you planned, you can look for advisors to guide you through the process. This is the perfect time to connect with people who can mentor and advise you on what to do. Stay away from naysaying friends and colleagues who will make the situation even worse. Surround yourself with friends who believe in your ability to become the person you want to be. In fact, look for those who are successful in a field you admire and let them mentor you.

Make a good action plan

Once you have composed yourself and decided to move on, prepare a list of all the step you need to complete to get prepared for the next job hunt. You can update your resume, include a new list of references, search for job recommendations and new positions. Check Resumesplanet.com or Resumes by Canva to get help in resume creating.

Look for jobs that match your skills and abilities, research for companies that offer those jobs and seek help from your mentor(s) within those companies. Also, write customized cover letters and with the help of friends and family, practice for interviews.

In the end, you want to get your confidence in check and focus on getting a new job or pursue your passion.

Losing a job can be devastating at first, but it can also turn out to be better than you expected. It is never as horrible as it seems, especially if you use the opportunity to build yourself and open a new chapter in your career. Remember, it’s just a matter of accepting the situation, narrowing your interest and finding the right spot to pursue something else. Make it happen!

Author's Bio: 

Micheal Gilmore is a resume writer and editor. He's psyched about marketing, business, blogging and SMM. In his parallel life, he loves hiking and can't wait to see the Himalayas one of these days. Follow Micheal on Twitter.