I’ve met so many couples whose main relationship complaint boils down to not feeling appreciated by their partner.

It’s so easy to take each other for granted and to get caught up in a pattern of not expressing your appreciation of each other.

So what can you do to really let your partner know how grateful you are for everything that they do?

The first step is to think about all the special things that your partner does for you (and even better, how about making a list!)– not only physical things like taking out the garbage or making your favorite dinner. How about the way that he/she is sensitive to your feelings? Or makes an effort to be respectful to you in front of the kids? It’s all the little (as well as the big) things that count.

Once you have all these things in mind, it will be really easy for you to appreciate your partner and to show them how much everything they do for you means to you.

Here are 5 ways to show appreciation in your relationship:

1. Make a point of always saying ‘thank you’ to each other, each and every time that your partner does something thoughtful for you
2. Compliment each other as everyone likes to have positive reinforcement! Complimenting your partner on specific kindnesses will definitely let your partner know that you appreciate him/her
3. Do something that’s important to him/her e.g. surprise your wife with flowers for no particular occasion – this will make her feel very special and appreciated
4. Make an effort to work on any habits that annoy each other so that your partner knows that you are mindful of his/her feelings e.g. if it upsets your husband when you talk on your mobile phone during dinner time, make an effort to turn your phone off during this time
5. Remember: Say ‘I love you”… with feeling. This may seem like a simple thing to do, but couples often forget to (or struggle to) say these 3 words. Hearing them (said with meaning) can make a huge impact on your relationship.

Author's Bio: 

Rachel Moheban currently has a private practice in New York City and specializes in individual and couples therapy, and is the founder of The Relationship Suite. She has her Masters Degree in Social Work from New York University and was trained at the Ackerman Institute for the Family and at the Training Institute for Mental Health in marital and group counseling.
In addition to regular therapeutic practices, Moheban believes that couples benefit even more from using a variety of resources including the effective combination of psycho-education, relationship coaching and counseling, pro-active skills and adaptable techniques. These approaches combined are able to create the success formula needed to make fast and immediate changes in relationships. Using this formula, Moheban designed and created “The Ultimate Relationship Resolution Program.”

© 2010 The Relationship Suite. Rachel Moheban, LCSW After many years of providing private couples counseling, she discovered in addition to the already great results this method was providing, that couples benefited even more from using a variety of resources especially the effective combination of psycho-education, pro-active skills and adaptable techniques. These approaches COMBINED are able to create the success formula needed to make fast and immediate changes in relationships. This is why she designed and developed a couples program using the full ins and outs of this intricate formula; "The Ultimate Relationship Resolution Program." This article is for your general information only. You are welcome to share this tip with your community but please make sure to include the following author info:
© 2010 The Relationship Suite. Rachel Moheban, LCSW After many years of providing private couples counseling, I discovered in addition to the already great results this method was providing, that couples benefited even more from using a variety of resources especially the effective combination of psycho-education, pro-active skills and adaptable techniques. These approaches COMBINED are able to create the success formula needed to make fast and immediate changes in relationships. To learn more, and receive our FREE BiWeekly Relationship Tips and access to the Relationship Breakthrough Monthly Teleclass visit http://www.therelationshipsuite.com.