Have you ever been out on a date with someone who you really liked, but you weren't sure exactly how to let them know that you really like them and are interested in them?
It can be hard to know how to express yourself around someone whom you don't know very well yet.
There are LOTS of ways to let a date know you're interested in them. You could, for instance, immediately start kissing them and have a long session of “sucking face” . . . but you don't want to do that. While it will certainly convey your interest, it will also give them the wrong impression of you.
Clearly, then, there are better and worse ways to convey your interest to a date (with the above example being one of the “worst” options). So let's look at some more realistic (and better!) ways that you can let your date know that you are interested.
So, when you're on a date with someone who interests you, you need to let them know it with your body language. One of the best ways is to lean in towards your date. Lean in and smile. When you are leaning in, look at them directly in their eyes, so that they know you are interested in them.
While we all know it is important to listen to what your date is saying during a conversation, it is equally important to react to things that your date says that resonate with you. For instance, when your date is saying something funny, contribute to that part of the conversation. Keep the conversation rolling when it's on something funny and don't change the subject.
When your date starts talking about a topic that is in an area of interest of yours, respond with questions and get more involved in that topic. Say, for instance you feel really passionate about an upcoming election and your date says “Well, I really don't think I'm going to bother voting.” You can respond with something like “Wait a second. Why are considering not voting?”
Then let the conversation flow from there. Asking questions when a date says something relating to an area of interest of yours is a great way both to get into deeper conversation with your date while also showing them you are interested in what they're saying.
Challenging your date just a little bit will lead to a stimulating conversation. It shows you're date you're interested and engaged in the conversation, and that you're not just a puppet who just nods and agrees with everything they say.
Do not fold your arms. Do not pick at your nails when you are telling a story or talking. Look at your date directly in their eyes. Don't look in other directions. If you don't keep eye contact, your date will not only think you are not interested in them, but that you are looking at somebody else.
When you catch yourself leaning back really far, lean back in towards your date. When you tell a story, be animated. Whenever you talk to your date, use hand gestures and use your body language. Face them and bring them in, holding your hands directly out in front of you. By doing all of this, you're bringing your date in to your sphere. They will notice this too and know you're interested.
So many things about a date are subliminal. You can listen, be a good conversationalist, talk all day long, and get along easily with people. Doing all of these things, however, may still not mean that someone with whom you are out on a date will know that you are interested in them. It is necessary to more clearly express your interest (so that a date will know you are not just being friendly).
If you struggle with knowing how to naturally and effectively show a date that you're interested in them, then following these tips will really help you to break through many of the challenges you've had in the past. You will also be pleasantly surprised at how much differently those interesting dates will act towards you!