Are you one of those individuals who craves to have friends around you all or most of the time? If so have you ever wondered what motivates your craving? Have you ever wondered how discriminating you are when it comes to the types of people you choose to invite into your life and into your energetic space?
Well if you feel more frustrated, annoyed, unheard, depleted, embarrassed, diminished, invisible and so on after spending time with your "friends" then it likely means your choices have been less than discerning.
So why do people choose to spend time with others who deplete rather than invigorate, uplift, and energize them?
Well if there is a "need to have friends" based on:
1. The fear of being alone.
2. The need to be loved liked or appreciated.
3. The need to be taken care of or rescued.
4. The need to feel like part of something.
5. The need to be accepted.
6. The fear of being left out.
7. The need to be valued and/or validated.
8. The need to boost self esteem, self confidence and/or self worth
And so on, then one's ability to discern who "good friendship" material is is impaired.
How can one enhance their ability to accurately discern who is right and who is not?
Well discernment is based on the ability to feel how another person affects your Life Force Energy or what is generally called "one's energy". I'm sure the term "energy vampire" is familiar to you. Energy vampires are individuals who consciously or unconsciously feed off of other peoples' energy in order to make themselves feel whole, complete, powerful, superior, impressive, and so on.
They do this in many contexts i.e. personal relationships, in their careers with colleagues and clients, in their families, and with their so-called friends. So if you happen to be in one of these groups you'll eventually meet up with one who'll prey on you.
The key to discerning when this is happening is to be able to "feel" it. What you will feel are the following: used, manipulated, controlled, dismissed, diminished, made to feel inferior or stupid, confused, tired or weakened, depleted of self confidence, self worth, self esteem, and energy to name a few.
The energy being depleted is your Life Force Energy. In other words the friendship is literally killing you.
The reasons listed above for being drawn into such relationships in the first place are rooted in early negative experiences in your life, stored as negative memories, that have programmed you in those ways i.e. to feel fearful and needy.
If I said that all of those experiences actually stand in the way of you ever being free to feel at ease and to draw the right kind of friends into your life how would that feel to you? Probably frustrating because there is no way to undo those experiences is there?
Well that's where the story takes a dramatic turn. It's actually possible to permanently release those negative experiences from within once and for all with a new process called the Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).
This will not only spontaneously help you to feel and be more discerning but it will literally change the quality of individuals who you draw into your sphere of friends.
If you would like to experience this process kindly visit the web link below where you can opt for a free consultation.
Nick Arrizza MD, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor is an International Life, Executive, Organizational Tele-Coach, Author, Keynote Speaker, Trainer and Facilitator who lives in Toronto, Canada. He is also on Faculty at Akamai University in Hawaii. He is the CEO and Founder of Arrizza Performance Coaching Inc. and the developer of the Mind Resonance Process® (MRP) that powerfully and permanently erases negative memories.
A Free newsletter subscription and a 1 hour free introductory MRP telephone consultation are available if you visit me at http://www.telecoaching4u.com or contact me at: drnick@telecoaching4u.com
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