How to develop personal skills

One way to develop your personal skills is through Interpersonal communication. This is defined by communication scholars in numerous ways, though most definitions involve participants who are interdependent on one another, have a shared history. Communication channels are the medium chosen to convey the message from sender to receiver. Communication channels can be categorized into two main categories: Direct and Indirect channels of communication.

Direct channels are those that are obvious and can be easily recognized by the receiver. They are also under direct control of the sender. In this category are the verbal and non-verbal channels of communication. Verbal communication channels are those that use words in some manner, such as written communication or spoken communication. Non-verbal communication channels are those that do not require words, such as certain overt facial expressions, controllable body movements (such as that made by a traffic police to control traffic at an intersection), color (red for danger, green means go etc), sound (sirens, alarms etc.).

Indirect channels are those channels that are usually recognized subliminally or subconsciously by the receiver, and not under direct control of the sender. This includes kinesics or body language, that reflects the inner emotions and motivations rather than the actual delivered message. It also includes such vague terms as "gut feeling", "hunches" or "premonitions".

Balance of interpersonal communication

The Johari window model focuses on the balance of interpersonal communication. Interpersonal communication encompasses:

* Speech communication
* Nonverbal communication
* Unconscious communication
* summarizing
* paraphrasing
* listening
* questioning
* Initiating: Declaring one's conversational intent and inviting consent from one's prospective conversation partner
* Turn-taking: Managing the flow of information back and forth between partners in a conversation by alternating roles of speaker and listener

Having good interpersonal communication skills support such processes as:

* parenting
* intimate relationship
* management
* selling
* counseling
* coaching
* mentoring and co-mentoring, which is mentoring in groups
* conflict management

Interpersonal communication is the subject of a number of disciplines in the field of psychology, notably Transactional analysis.

It can be affected by a communication disorder or by arrogance, shyness, etc.

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