Love is a consuming passion for our own happiness. It is a choice we make to be excited, safe, secure. Love and joy are available when we decide we are important. To decide means to conclude. Not based on any proof or accomplishment and not waiting for some magical moment when someone gives permission. Simply deciding who we are and what we want is important. The decision could be made right now, in this moment. There’s no need to lose ten pounds first or achieve the next goal. We decide when we give ourselves permission to decide.
Love is available when we connect with dreams and flow with empowering thoughts. Love is an inner state of being which develops as we decide it is alright to create an exciting, sensuous and enticing partnership with ourselves. It deepens as we align with desired outcomes and focus attention on what feels good. Excitement builds power. This power is necessary to feel good, to move through obstacles, to successfully manifest dreams. Self-love allows the ability to resist the temptation to give away power the moment it is received. Instead, relish in it, feel its vibration, connect it with personal dreams and desires. Ask for more. Trust yourself with power, for who other than you knows what best to do with this power? Feel good in the power, excited in the imaginings of a great life. So much more power is available once we are ready to believe we matter. Love and joy are feelings we allow into us. We become filled with love and our confidence, joy and radiance illuminates our lives and the lives of others.
Self-love is not so much a feeling as it is an absence of self-doubt and self-disapproval. It is a sense of balance and belonging. Respect, responsibility for self, and feeling good are important values. Self-love means that your well-being matters to yourself unconditionally and in practical terms. The following are some characteristics of self-loving people:
Self-loving people focus on feeling good.
Self-loving people allow themselves to be happy and to share this with others.
Self-loving people tend to treat themselves well.
They see fun and enjoyment as a primary goal most of the time.
They do not remain in mistreatment by others.
They are caring towards others. (Because it feels good to do so).
They put themselves first. (Even those they love are a “close second.”)
They find a thought that feels good, and practice it.
They let themselves succeed.
Basic Principles of Self Love
Who we are is more important than what we are.
We are valuable. Nothing can change that.
What we want always matters.
How to Develop and Nurture Love:
Becoming love involves intention. A declaration to self, to the universe, to earth or to the angels, we want to know what it is to feel unconditionally loved and supported. We want to be alive on earth, but only if it feels good and exciting. An intention that we want to know, in this lifetime, while we are alive in this body, what it means to stand in unconditional love, having enough energy to do the things we love.
The biggest life changing decision any of us could make is a decision to be happy. Once the decision is made, what is the next step? Training ourselves to focus on everything and anything which feels good. For example: Good thoughts, exciting desired outcomes, dreams, happy movies and beautiful surroundings. It may take some effort to pry ourselves away from the stickiness of feeling badly, but joy and love are possible. To feel good we need to focus on feeling good. Below are some examples of how to develop love:
Acknowledge and verbally praise yourself.
Have fun often.
Fill the physical body with relaxation.
Think inspiring thoughts.
Focus on desired outcomes.
Fill life with silence, beautiful music, flowers.
Reward yourself often.
Have confidence in your ability.
Love your body and find new ways to inhabit it.
Listen to, and trust, intuition.
Let yourself succeed.
Nurture yourself by imagining desired outcomes to life’s situations.
Offer yourself affection.
Choose to think thoughts that bring inner peace (rather than worry).
Remember and feel gratitude.
On this day, engage in a love challenge and help yourself understand a deeper loving connection. Zoom way out and see a big picture perspective of your relationship with yourself, your body, your thoughts and dreams. Do you think you behave lovingly toward yourself? Do you focus on happy thoughts, desired outcomes? What is something you could commit to right now, in this moment, to bring yourself greater love?