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Empaths, Emotions, Human Behavior And Boundaries
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Carolyn Gwiazdzinski |
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Learning and awareness are the greatest stepping stones to the discovery of our soul's inner truth. I know that I say that alot and trust me, there is a method to my madness. There are many people, walking our planet, wondering why they feel so sensitive to everything going on around them. People that are highly sensitive, if unskilled to what it means to be an empath, become bombarded, overloaded and overwhelmed in the blink of an eye. People that are highly sensitive are called empaths. Empaths can walk into a room and feel what is off immediately. When empathic skills are undeveloped, these sensitives won't know or understand why they are overloaded, overwhelmed or bombarded and yet, will know, in that instant, that something is not right.
I know...for I am an empath...a now very conscious one. It wasn't always that way for me. As a child, I always knew when something was wrong, or off or not working right...mainly communication within family relationships. I was also very intuitive...however, did not have the verbal skills to put any of these experiences to words. Through these experiences, I found myself always trying to act as the emotional caretaker. I was constantly trying to find ways to counter balance, the out of balance human behavior that existed in my living sitution...not because anyone was doing anything wrong, but because I knew that no one knew how to communicate, in a way to heal what was happening around us. I found, because I didn't understand about my boundaries, that I was willing to give them up...yes, give up my boundaries, to try and make everything better...because no one knew how to communicate to heal and make it better.
I did this until I knew I couldn't do anymore and then I was forced to stop. I had to stop. My emotions were overflowing into the black hole. I couldn't counter balance the imbalances in the human dynamics of my family and I no longer had a sense of myself, my personal boundaries or even my identity. And, the experience was amplyfied, because aside from being very emotionally centered, I was empathic and very intuitive. As a child, bad, bad combination...but, yes...in hindsight, so what I needed to experience, to get to the part of my life, that I am in right now...where I have useful, helpful, healthy and very practical information...if we have the courage to learn it and use it, until it becomes a part of our lives.
What I have discovered in my 25 years of practice and this 25 years of my journey is this; if you are super, hyper sensitive, it becomes an absolute must to learn about yourself, your triggers, your button pushes, your highs and lows and what you like about yourself and what your sensitivities are (or human pitfalls). In order to heal, this knowledge is an absolute must. Once this is healthfully integrated, it then becomes time to do a check in for your human behavior. We all have secret behaviors, within ourselves, the human side, that wants to lash out, instead of doing a check in, to honestly assess why we want to lash out on another. And then, the most crucial part of this discovery are boundaries. Yes, boundaries...boundaries, once the above is learned is absolutely critical to functioning in a healthy, responsible and very aware way. It is a constant. It must be a constant. Being an empath is a 24/7 existence. We can't make life better for anyone else. It is impossible. Unless we are living someone else's inner life...it just can't be done...it shouldn't be done. There will never, ever be enough that an empath can do...because...we are all shifting and riding the emotional surf all the time.
Once the above is learned, practiced and integrated, everyday, every now and present moment...the check ins are a must. Empaths cannot heal life experiences that someone else has created. We can't fix it. Each one of us must find tools to communicate in a way to heal...not manipulate a desired outcome, where one person is losing and the other person is winning. Winning and losing perpetuate the cycle of imbalance and if an empath is in any kind of healing profession...their work life is not seperate from their human life or human experience, for the experiences, are the very reason, they find themselves in a healing profession in the first place.
We all must find new ways to communicate our inner pain and commuciate in a way that is within human honesty and integrity...the real you, when you are by yourself and you contemplate the daily routines of your inner life.
Empaths would love to be caretakers, to fix it and make it better...but this is not a healthy way to function and live life.
So, to all the sensitives and empaths out there, learn about yourself, know yourself, don't be afraid to find out what is yours, what is real and what you are meant to be responsible for. There is no scoring points to win or lose an argument...for empaths, a healthy resolution is all that will work.
So, have courage, learn something about yourself. Don't be afraid to feel it...feeling it, is the only way to get through to the beginning, the middle and the end. You might be surprised to find what is at the end of a feeling that is intense. Once you get the hang of it...it will become easy.
As always...together, we can make life better...one breath, one step at at time.
Author's Bio
I am a conscious empath and my purpose is to assist and guide, all who are ready, to bring the blueprint of our soul, to the patterns and imprinting our past, so that we all have the chance to live a heart-centered, soul guided life.
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