As Thanksgiving looms, a familiar queasiness in the gut may be forming as you contemplate the annual family get-together. But I doubt your concern is about what dishes people are bringing for the table. Rather, my bet is you are worrying about the emotional baggage that everyone, including ...As Thanksgiving looms, a familiar queasiness in the gut may be forming as you contemplate the annual family get-together. But I doubt your concern is about what dishes people are bringing for the table. Rather, my bet is you are worrying about the emotional baggage that everyone, including yourself, will be bringing along with them and hiding under the table. Permit me to show you how these jitters might be seen as an opportunity.
The Thanksgiving family get-together has cultural and historical meanings, of course, but its real purpose is to bring all the family members together so they can systematically push each others buttons. The purpose of that is to activate those wounds, hurts and injured feelings that remain unforgiven in each family member, so that they might get healed.
That queasy feeling, then, is your gut telling you that this is a golden opportunity to heal your stuff. So rather than do what you have always done in the past, why not seize the opportunity on this occasion to break free from it? How?
Well, the trick is to first recognize the opportunity in the moment, as it is arising.
Second, instead of reacting, you tell yourself that your own Spiritual Intelligence has created this situation in order to heal the underlying pain, so, in that sense, it is perfect. Also, that the person doing the button pushing is actually doing this, not so much TO you, but FOR you. (This occurs below the level of conscious awareness, of course, but they are doing it as a way to help you heal your stuff. Egos are not involved here. It is a soul-to-soul arrangement.)
What I have just described is known as a Radical Forgiveness "reframe" - seeing the spiritual perfection in the situation and letting go of victim consciousness. Once we do this, then everything changes for the better.
But why not get a jump on the whole process and do some of the forgiveness work in advance of the meeting? A very potent Radical Forgiveness tool you might use to forgive any one of the family members is the Miracles Worksheet. This is a free worksheet you can download at no charge from our website. There is also an online version, for those who prefer to do it online. This is also free.
I promise you that if you do a Radical Forgiveness worksheet or two before the family get-together; it will be a very different experience for you and for those on whom you do the worksheet. That particular button will not get pushed, you'll see, and your interactions with that person will be easier Not that you tell them anything, of course; it's an energy thing.
However, if your issues are with your parents, especially in relation to childhood wounds you still haven't quite forgiven them for, then I would suggest our 21 Day Program for Forgiving Your Parents. If your parents are deceased, there is no less value to you in doing the program, I can assure you. But don't take my word for it, check it out on our website.
This is a paid program, but I have to say it is amazing in the results it achieves. As for Thanksgiving 2008, assuming your parents are going to be there, I can virtually guarantee that if you do this program, the energy will be totally different to how it has been in the past. You will enjoy it so much more and so will everyone else, in spite of the fact that nothing has been said and they don't even know you have done the program. And there is still time to get it done in time if you act now.
Wouldn't it be nice to go to the family gathering, not with jitters and a queasiness in your stomach, but with a feeling of expectation and excitement, imagining not only that the experience will, in itself, be enjoyable, but by the time it is time to say good-bye, you will have forged a completely new relationship with everyone? You may even leave this Thanksgiving weekend looking forward to the next one. Wouldn't that be something!
Colin Tipping is the acknowledged authority on the application of The Tipping Method, a 'technology' that has come to be recognized as the most powerful leading-edge system for personal and spiritual growth at this time. The Tipping Method technology & system enables you to create the happiness, peace, good health and abundance that is your true birthright. Colin created the Tipping method to better enable the "healing" of individuals, families, races, corporations and communities as we move forward into the future. Please go to http://www.colintipping.com to learn more about Colin, The Tipping Method & other Radical Forgiveness strategies.