How To Cure Premature Ejaculation

What is premature ejaculation?

Definitions of premature ejaculation have ranged from "coming within six thrusts" to "coming within two minutes" and even "coming before your partner". The last one can be particularly misleading if you have a partner who likes to take up to an hour to reach orgasm.

A simpler definition is that if you come before you want to and you feel you're not able to control it, then you're suffering from premature ejaculation (or PE for short).

Bear in mind that most men will come sooner than they'd like on some occasions, particularly if under stress or in situations of very high excitement.

However, if you are unable to control when you come more than 50 per cent of the time, then it becomes a problem.

Some men may only suffer from PE when they're having intercourse. Some feel they come too quickly whatever the stimulation with a partner. Others feel they have little control even when they're masturbating alone.

The causes
Men with PE aren't able to recognise what therapists call the "point of inevitability". This is a sensation that occurs just a few moments before ejaculation. Men who don't suffer from PE are able to recognise this sensation and either stop or change stimulation until the urgency has subsided.

Most commonly, men who suffer from PE will have had it throughout their sexual life and won't ever have noticed this "point of inevitability". There are a number of reasons why this might have happened. It may be that initially, sex was always rushed or was associated with feelings of guilt or anxiety.

Sometimes men become quick ejaculators because of partner pressure to "get it over and done with". Whatever the original cause, the body gets used to responding quickly and rapid ejaculation becomes the norm.

Very occasionally, premature ejaculation results from a physical condition such as a urinary tract or prostate infection

Very occasionally, premature ejaculation results from a physical condition such as a urinary tract or prostate infection. Recent research suggests that some men may have a physiological predisposition in the nervous system to ejaculate quickly. But for most men, ejaculation will often be quicker in times of stress or ill health.

Bad effects of premature ejaculation on Male

•Resorts to temporary relief.
•Aggravates his problem.
•Remains anxious.
•Hurries from bad to worse.
•Loses self-esteem.
•Avoids sexual contacts.
•becomes temporarily impotent
•Loses harmony with his female.

Bad effects of Premature Ejaculation on female

Suffers emotional trauma.
Feels ditched.
Remains depressed.
Becomes quarrelsome.
Makes issues of small things.
Avoids sex.
Destroys harmony with her male.
Becomes non-serious about relationship.

Advantages of lasting longer.

• You will never go impotent and suffer sexual dysfunction. Those who learn to last longer not only enjoy rich pleasures of sex; rather they don’t feel sexually week or down at any stage of life. The reason is simple; long hours of lovemaking fill up reservoirs of energy, so even if some of energy is drained out, yet much remains behind to make you feel sexually energetic and strong.

• You will enjoy for yourself pleasure of penetration for greater length of time. She will like even more.

• You can give your female partner complete sexual fulfillment by taking her as long as she wants, and giving her as many orgasms as she can stand.

• Your relationship with your lover can be inestimably improved and strengthened. She will worship you and you will feel yourself completely exalted like a god of sex!

• You can enjoy an immense physical pleasure, more than you could probably imagine or think of.

• You can become a multi-orgasmic man, having any number of orgasms in a single session of lovemaking that extends over a period of hours, is not it great?

• Each orgasm can last longer and can be more intense than an average ejaculation that lasts for only few seconds. Usually these orgasms are experienced as cool breeze that ripples right through all body rather than being limited to the genital zone only.

• You can maintain best prostate health. Prolonged sex makes prostate healthy like workout makes muscles strong.

• You can make your immune system better for whole body welfare. You will rarely get sick and improve quickly if you do get ill by chance. The reason is that long sessions of lovemaking carry blood and oxygen to every nook and corner of body, thus making every cell healthy and filled with energy.

• You can experience a fantastic increase in your available energy all over your body each day. You will remain in high spirits all the day long; you will not feel languished.

• You will have a great source of creativity. Prolonged sex creates engergy and energy facilitate creativity that you can utilize in literature, science, business, sports and the arts etc.

• You will not remain an ordinary male who lasts only for few minutes; rather you will become an Alpha male who will have bounteous advantage on other males.

• You will always experience great variety of forms of sublime and lofty levels of consciousness.

• You can incorporate a sense of self-confidence, self-control and charisma that you previously may have seen only in Alpha males and vainly wished to have in yourself.

• If any girl who comes in your life had previous boyfriends, she will forget them all and if you were the first in her life, she will not feel happy with anyone else after you.

• High energy levels and elevated self-confidence can get you do wonders.

Self-help techniques

There are a number of things you can do to help yourself to recognise the point of inevitability. You might choose to practise alone at first, then discuss it with your partner and ask them to help you overcome this problem. For more on ways to put these tips into action, see the section on practical exercises.

Relax. This is the most important thing you can do. Have a bath, use deep-breathing techniques or buy a relaxation tape.
Tackle relationship issues. Be sure that your head and heart are in the mood for sex as well as your body. If you're unhappy about something with your partner then sort it out first.
Exercise your pelvic floor. Many men say they are able to delay ejaculation by squeezing or pushing their pelvic floor muscles.
Stop and start. This is the most common technique used in psychosexual therapy. Practise stimulating yourself to the point just before ejaculation, then stop. Start again when the sensations have subsided. Repeat this three times. You should find the length of time before each stop gets gradually longer.
Change strokes. If you feel you've gained more control with the stop-and-start technique, try changing your stroke to something less stimulating rather than stopping all together.
Change positions. During intercourse, try the stop-and-start technique when the sensations become strong. When you're more confident, try changing positions rather than stopping.