Any time that you feel shy you are not alone. Yet it is great to realise that there are ways that you can overcome this obstacle be it in social situations, when making an important presentation or when you are going for a job interview.
In any situation.
Below is a helpful tip that you can use to overcome that challenge. It is simple to apply in all areas of your life. Make it a point now to step out of your comfort zone and begin to see and accept a new you.
It is vitally important that you have made that all-important decision that you are absolutely committed to make that work. That you are willing to do all that it takes to let go of the obstacles that have been robbing you of a fulfilling life.
Be decisive and keep it going. If at first you are scared, that's fine. It's normal. The next time you challenge your unconfidence you do so with less fear.
In due course this fear will have a less hold over you.
And as your commitment gains momentum, the fear that once held you back will have weakened, and you will be able to face many more challenges that you wouldn't usually handle or face.
Prior to an event that makes you edgy write down what it is that is making you shy about the event. Get a piece of paper and divide it into two columns. In one column, write down all the reasons why you are uneasy about that event.
Make a list and be as honest with yourself as you can. The longer the list the better and more truthful.
Once done, on the other column, write down how you would like to feel for each reason why you think you are uneasy. Write down the first thought that comes to mind.
Now each day, as far in advance of the event as possible, pick one obstacle with its counter feeling and find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed for approximately ten minutes.
Seat yourself back or lie down and relax. Remind yourself of the way you want to feel and close your eyes. Visualise how you would like to act and feel. How you would present yourself.
Involve your feelings, and get emotional. Cry if you have to. The more emotional you get, the more beneficial this will be.
See yourself in your mind's eye doing exactly what you want to do. Feel it and see it with great clarity. Take your time. No rush.
As the weeks go by before that event, continue to work down your entire list. Visualise being strong. Visualise it all with all the innermost emotions you can muster.
As the event draws closer, you will feel yourself becoming more confident and ready to take on whatever comes with that event.
On the day of the event, you will find that you are enthusiastic, confident and ready to get started.
You will feel optimistic, and your confidence gradually increases as time goes by. Step by step, with each minute that goes by your confidence will escalate. You give a presence of confidence that you thought you never had.
Everyone will notice how you radiate confidence and courage.
The good news is that you can use this skill with anything that scares you. You can use it for any situation where you sense you lack confidence. This tool is there for your use in any way that you creatively use it for.
It is extremely powerful.
Always start off by making a list of what makes you shy and find its opposite and visualise how you want to act and feel.
That's all there is to it. Remember to feel it and see it with as much emotion as you can get your hands on.
Believe in this method and you will undoubtedly reap all the benefits.
It is important to note here that repetition is the mother of all skill. Repeat the visualisation method as often as possible. The more the better. This is how the mind works. Repeat, repeat and repeat until you achieve the results you are after.
Keep at it. Never quit. Always remember: Success is just around the corner.
Author's Bio
Hani Al-Qasem is the co-author of "Self-Confidence Building in 7 Steps."
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