What are your bad habits? Smoking? Talking too much? Drinking? Untidiness? We’ve all got them. Within this article are 5 simple reasons for breaking a bad habit.

Whether it’s a perpetual pile of clothes in the corner you’re waiting to someday turn into gold, a self-proclaimed disability which renders you unable to refrain from interrupting, or, a knack for timing your exit just so, so that someone else is continually left to pick up the dishes, now’s the time to extinguish these habits before they turn into next year’s resolutions.

Why?

1. It’s not fair to others - One of the great universal laws ruling our wonderful planet says that you get back what you put out there.
Want others to be kind and considerate to you? Then start putting the considerate, kind vibes out there and pick up your clothes, your dishes, and stop interrupting or whatever it is you or a collective “others” define as a bad habit.

2. It’s not fair to you - I’m sure you’re a nice person, and you pride yourself on having generous, warmhearted traits. So, it’s not fair to you either that this simple, little, annoying thing you do can wield the power that it now, or will soon have. These tiny culprits have been known to ruin marriages, friendships, and cause the downfall of many a mighty person. Plus you’ll feel better about yourself.

3. Your success depends on it - Bad habits have a funny way of scope and context creep. First they only happen in certain situations, and the next thing you know, you’re at a business function swirling your fingers through the chip dip. Put an end to it now before situations that require your utmost polish become tarnished by these terribly annoying little critters.

4. You probably don’t like it when others do the same thing - Think about it. If someone did the same thing to you, would it bother you?
Be honest. Sometimes all it takes is a simple exercise in empathy to find the motivation to quit whatever it is we could benefit from stopping.

5. List your own reasons - But be sincere. What is it costing you to perpetuate these habits? Whether it’s a moment of peace, seemingly perpetual nagging, or simple anxiety resulting from anticipation of the next blow-up or negative comment, you owe it to yourself to commit to your ongoing personal development, and to the elimination of any behavior whose costs far outweigh the benefits.

So how does one begin?

Just like breaking a smoking habit, bad habits have a way of creeping up on us and slowly over time becoming somewhat akin to an appendage—i.e. they’re hard to get rid of. Here are some tips for breaking these bad habits:

Start small: While it might not be reasonable to expect that you can just stop whatever you’re doing overnight, identify what might constitute as a small step in the right direction? Write down what that step is and carry it out over the next 21 days. Fore example, if you are smoking 40 a day, cut that down to 20 for the next 21 days. Make that behaviour a habit before you cut that down to 15 for the next 21 days and then 10 and so on.

Commit: Promise yourself you’ll make this shift, and if reinforcement and punishment works—use it! Figure out how you might reward yourself for making the change. Or, figure our how you might penalize yourself if you don’t. For example, in our smoking example. Put the money you would have spent on the cigarettes in a jar and at the end of the 21 days add it all up and buy yourself a treat for example. From cutting down to 20 smokes a day from 40 smokes a day, over a 21-day period at £4 a packet that will save you £80 in just 3 weeks!

Also, write two lists, one, of the reasons why you are doing this and also a list of the things that you will miss out on if you keep on doing your bad habit.

Identify alternatives: What are some alternatives to the behavior you are demonstrating? Is there a quick fix or solution that might help provide an alternative—e.g. put a laundry basket by the bedside (one to match with the décor) so that you don’t end up with a pile on the floor.

Get help: Ask someone to help keep you accountable. If they’ve been victims of this bad habit, they’ll most likely be thrilled you asked!

Ask for feedback: Because human nature dictates that we will only complain when you offend, rather than amend, ask for feedback frequently. Don’t assume, no news is good news, but be sure to get praise when praise is due.

Good luck!

Author's Bio: 

I was born in Braintree, Essex, an illegitimate baby left in a children’s home. I was adopted and brought up in Barkingside, Essex and was sent to a private school at age 11 and achieved all the qualifications necessary to be a secretary. My first job at the age of 16 was with the Legal & General Assurance Society in London where I started out as a shorthand typist, progressing to personal secretary by the time I left to have my family at age 22. I married at age 19 and had three children. Unfortunately this marriage did not last and I remarried at age 32 and moved to Southend-on-Sea, Essex.
Returning to work when the children were old enough I worked for the NHS as the secretary to a Professor of Thoracic Medicine at The London Chest Hospital and subsequently for a Consultant Psychiatrist at Parklands Hospital in Basingstoke, where we had moved to from Southend-on-Sea in Essex when the children had all left home
I relocated to the Isle of Wight in 2003, having had a holiday home there since 1998, which was intended to be a retirement home. The move was prompted by the premature death of our next door neighbour just before her 60th birthday.
I started my own secretarial business on the Island aimed at small businesses who could not afford to employ another person. This has built up from just 1 customer in 2004 to over 60 currently.
Whilst on a Business Link course in 2004 I met someone who was undertaking a Life Coaching course with Newcastle College, and it was free at that time. It sounded interesting to me and I had nothing to lose, so I took their free Certificate and Diploma courses as well and successfully qualified as Personal Life Coach. I also discovered that I loved coaching.
I bumped into Jonathan Jay, who I remembered from his stage hypnotic act some ten years before in the holiday camps on the Isle of Wight, at a Small Business Exhibition at the NEC in 2005 and he suggested that I join him at the Coaching Academy to gain even better qualifications, which I did and successfully qualified as a Corporate & Executive Coach.
I met Dawn Breslin through the Coaching Academy and loved the work she did and the way she did it, and trained with her to become a Confidence Life Coach Practitioner and Confidence Group Trainer. I love this even more than just coaching.
More recently I have been licensed by Susan Jeffers to present her workshops based on her book “Feel the fear and do it anyway”. This is just fabulous. I met her the other day in London and she is so spiritual and positive.
I am on a mission to inspire everyone to find and live their passions - to be their authentic, true self. I feel my job is to be responsive, flexible and enabling, to draw out the star in people. In particular, I am skilled in rebuilding people's self-esteem and confidence, enabling them to develop to their full potential. To do all this requires a holistic, lively approach to personal and professional development, from the delivery of the training and coaching through to on-going support. And I’m interested in results – no ifs, no buts.
I have recently published an e-book entitled ‘7 Steps to re-building confidence in yourself’ which is selling well.

My second book is in the pipeline and hopefully will be published and on the bookshelves by early in 2009.

I have articles published in:

What Are You Attracting? - Mature Times September 2008
Removing Stress with Life Coaching - Daily Echo April 2008
European Coaching Institute Newsletter June 2006 – Is it cool to be happy?
Hearing Concern Magazine 2006 - "Benefits of Thought Field Therapy in adapting to loss of hearing"
Business Vision Magazine - September 2006 - Do you want your ideal work/life balance?