Article Title: How to Make Good Life Decisions (Updated)
Author: Craig Lock
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HOW TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS
and especially the really important ones...
Life is full of decisions; we make hundreds of them every day.
Most are automatic and minor ones. However, occasionally we are
compelled to make vitally important decisions about major
life-goals. These decisions are often practical or ethical ones.
For example, we occasionally have to take major decisions like
choosing a marriage partner (assuming they'll take you, that is),
choosing to leave a partner in marriage, or decisions about what
to do with your life.
HINTS IN DECISION MAKING (not that I'm the expert decision maker
- by a long "chalk"). Yes, teacher.
A positive attitude to life helps make major decision making far
easier and less stressful. Here are some general hints on
decision making (although it's one of my weakest areas); but I'm
trying hard to improve...
1. Get rid of your mental blocks.
2. Give up the notion that there is only one 'right solution' to
the problem/dilemma you are confronting.
3. Don't fear making a mistake.
4. View your problems as a normal part of life (is that
5. See yourself not as an indecisive person; but rather someone
who sometimes behaves indecisively...that's a rather kind way of
6. Develop your intuition and logic, but listen to what your
heart says (gut feeling).
7. Stop and think before you act. Stop yourself doing the first
thing you think of. That's me for sure!
8. Be specific.
9. Know what your goals and your values are, the principles of
your existence, before taking a major life decision. Ask yourself
if the ideal outcome is in alignment with your values.
10. Write down all the positive and negative factors for and
against taking a particular course of action. Benjamin Franklin
did it in two columns when confronted with major decisions.
11. Think how the decision will benefit YOU first. Do what you
and not what other people really want.
12. Try to think calmly and rationally (very difficult for me).
13 ("lucky"). Do your homework and get all the facts before you
make the decision.
14. Get opinions and feedback from others you trust; but don't
let them make the decision for you.
15. Establish priorities and "soulsearch" (for a "soulmate"). Ask
yourself what are the critical factors? What is the single most
16. Trust your impulses, your "gut-feelings".
17. Don't take your decision too seriously; nothing is that
important, no matter how much it appears like that to you. Ask
yourself how much will it really matter in one, five or ten years
time? Remember, no decision is irreversible; if you find out
some way down the track that you've taken the wrong course. But
some decisions are pretty important: finding another lover, or
trading in the "old man" (I chose that word very carefully; so I
wouldn't be beaten up by the feminists - I am a 55 kg.
"hen-pecked" weakling, who has stopped going to the beach,
because I always get sand kicked in my face!). After that long
soliloquay... Great word that! Nice name for a girl!
18. Look for OPPORTUNITIES in any decision. Each "mistake" is an
opportunity to learn. I've launched into a writing "career" from
a "mistake" coming to the other side of the world. Crazy wife! A
problem became a great opportunity to do something I'd never ever
thought of (is it the "winds of fate", "the unseen hand of God",
perhaps). If you are making mistakes, you are not learning and
growing. So say to yourself, "it doesn't really matter", or "so
what"...then "get into this world".
19. Accept total responsibility for your decisions.
Responsibility is not BLAME - so don't blame others for putting
yourself in this predicament. Sorry 'wif'! This attitude helps to
relieve your anger or resentment and gives one peace of mind.
20. Change course if your strategy is not working - the quality
of your life is at stake. My mistake is that I persist on a
chosen course for far too long at times, like writing! Learn
when to correct your direction. "If you don't change direction,
you'll end up where you're heading".
Bear in mind that pilots are off course on their flight-path 90
of the time... but they still arrive at their destination.
Usually! When driving you are also continually making little
corrections; so there's hope for me yet.
21. Be prepared to take a few risks in life. Look out for
opportunities. Every successful business or venture started out
with an idea which was a risk. Nothing is infallible. The
knowledge that you can handle anything that comes your way is
your key to allowing yourself to take risks. Security is a state
of mind. It's not having things, it's handling things.
22. Look ahead to the future - the past is already gone.* See the
path ahead as an adventure into the unknown and a time for
Before making major life decisions, meditate or pray (if you are a "religious/spiritual type") about them. Listen to the still voice within, your soul, the "voice of God"...
because that is "divine (or highest) wisdom."
Edwin Hubbel Chapin once said: Every action of our lives touches on
some chord that will vibrate in eternity." That is the definition of a legacy.
The key is choosing the right pathways for YOU. You are where you are today, as a result of the decisions you made yesterday (and the days before)...and where you will be tomorrow, will arise from your decisions you make today.
Cheers to your good decisions in the future...
and in so doing you may even leave a legacy by lighting a torch
for future generations!
Shine that bright light that is within you.
* P.S: I love the following quotation...
"The past is history, the future is a mystery, and this moment is
the gift, that is why this moment is called the present."
"Your belief determines your action and your action determines
your results, but first you have to believe."
- Mark Victor Hansen
"God, the Source of Life", will never give you a desire, a
vision, an individual dream without your having the
ability/potential for it to come to pass."
"Empowering others through the power of words and thught energy."
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lready tomorrow in little scenic and tranquil New Zealand
Craig Lock is a graduate from the University of Cape Town in South Africa... but he has learnt far more from the "school of hard knocks" and the University of Life... battered, bruised but never unbowed. He is an extensive world traveller (on a "shoestring budget") and failed professional emigrater who has spent most of his lifes savings on airfares. He is still sliding down the razor blade of life on the beautiful undiscovered island that is New Zealand, somewhere near the bottom (rude!) of the world near Antarctica. There he talks to the 60 million sheep! Craig has been involved in the corporate world (life assurance) for over twenty years in South Africa, Australia and New Zealand. However, through a strange set of circumstances and finding himself in a small town near the bottom of the world ...and with nothing else to do, he started writing. That was five years ago. Five published books later and having written another fourteen manuscripts (on widely differing subjects) being published and promoted himself on the internet... this is where Craig is in the "journey/adventure" that is life. Craig has taught at the local Tairiwhiti Polytechnic (English), as well as running a successful creative writing course (not teaching sheep!). He is the author of (as far as we know) the first creative writing course on the internet Craig has many varied interests and passions. He is particularly interested in the field of psychology and what makes different people "tick-tock grandfather clock". One of his missions in life is helping people make the most of their hidden potential and so finding their niche in life... so that they are happy. He firmly believes in the motto: "Find what you love doing, then you will never have to do a days work in your life." Craig is certain he has found his niche in life... anyway, what other job would be suitable for him?