Hey, this is Dean Cortez from www.macktactics.com. Here is some great advice for you about how to handle your PHONE GAME with women. To learn our complete system, go to www.macktactics.com and pick up the products that have helped THOUSANDS of guys around the world approach life, and dating, with total confidence….
Hey Mack Tactics,
I was at the dog park yesterday (great place to meet chicks, by the way) and I met this cutie. We chatted and wound up exchanging phone numbers. How long should I wait until I call her? I don’t want to seem too eager, but I also don’t want her to forget who I am.
- Adam, Santa Monica, CA
We hear this question all the time. A guy meets a girl, he gets her number, and then he agonizes over whether he should call her the following day, or the day after, or maybe he should REALLY play it cool and wait two weeks…yada yada.
It’s a whole lot of angst over NOTHING. The idea that you need to wait a certain period of time before calling a girl is a myth.
Here’s the key to this. If you apply the techniques we explain in our book, you’re going to lay the proper GROUNDWORK with her during that first conversation. This ensures that when you do call her, whether it’s four hours or two days later, she’s going to immediately remember you and be looking forward to chatting with you—because you presented yourself as a fun, original and confident guy.
There isn’t any “time frame” you need to follow. But there are some rules to setting up this first phone call to improve your chances of a successful outcome:
1. First, when it’s time to get her digits, never ask permission. Make it seem like a foregone conclusion. When you’re ready to get her number, take your phone out of your pocket, and as you do so, tell her “It’s cool to meet you, Cindy. I’m going to give you a call so we can continue this conversation.” If she has been enjoying your company up until that point, she’s not going to think twice about it. She is simply going to tell you her number. Case closed. (I talk more about this mindset in my new book, “The Alpha Rules.” Check out www.thealpharules.com.)
2. As you program her number into your phone, say to her, “I’m going to ring you tomorrow. What’s a good time to call?” This sounds polite, and also you’re eliminating all those silly concerns about how long you should wait until calling. You’re laying out a specific plan (as Macks always do). Then, she’ll tell you a time tomorrow when she will most likely be available to talk. This eliminates your concern that you might call her at an inappropriate time or disturb her when she’s in the middle of something.
3. Stick to the plan. Call her tomorrow, at that time. If your intention is to take her out on a date, have the game plan for the date already mapped out. Again, never sound as if you’re asking permission to see her again. (Never say, “So, if you’re free sometime, maybe we could do something…”)
Instead, tell her about a plan you ALREADY HAVE IN MOTION and suggest that she should join you, because it’s going to be a great time.
“Cindy, on Friday night I’m going to check out this comedy club I’ve heard awesome things about. My friends went there last weekend and had a blast. I’m going there at 9pm, why don’t you join me.”
This could be a restaurant, a bar, a concert in the park…whatever. The point is, you want to LAY OUT A PLAN and suggest that she joins you. This eliminates the other concern: that she’s going to decline your invitation. Using this approach, if she says she’s busy on Friday night, then it doesn’t seem like a “rejection”: you were going to do that activity anyway, with or without you. If she can’t join you, it’s her loss.
A final note: whenever you talk on the phone to a girl you’re just getting to know, whether she calls you or you call her, you want to keep it brief: under 5 minutes. It’s important that you maintain a sense of mystery. Don’t show all your cards. If she wants to get to know you better, that needs to be done in person—not over the phone.
As we all know, women LOVE to chat on the phone. Don’t take the bait and get roped into a one-hour conversation where you’re telling each other your life stories. You’re a busy guy. An man on the move. The purpose of the phone call should be to lock down the next time you’re going to see her in person. Once you’ve made plans, it’s time for you to go. “I’ve got some business to handle now, Cindy, but I’ll see you on Friday night.” Never let HER be the one to end the phone call.
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Also, I’ve got a new book out called “The Alpha Rules,” which I wrote with a top dating coach named Carlos Xuma. It’s very powerful stuff, designed to elevate you in ALL AREAS, not just with women. You can read more about it at www.thealpharules.com.
Until next time…Go Tactical!
Dean Cortez is a top lifestyle coach for men who want to lead an exciting, success-driven lifestyle. He is the author of MACK TACTICS and THE ALPHA RULES. You can view his products and learn more about his best-selling programs at www.macktactics.com and Time Management Technique: Chunk, Block & Tackle. www.thealpharules.com