Okay, maybe not for all of you, but a surprisingly large number of people will fire off a “I hate my life! … Life sucks!” at the blink of an eye.

“I hate my job.”

“I hate not having a social life.”

“I hate not being able to afford a car.”

“I hate the way I look.”

“I hate these gas prices.”

“I hate not having someone in my life.”

Any of these sound familiar? How ‘bout that last one? Many of you can relate to that one, right? You hate your job, you hate not being able to afford things. You hate the oil companies and their outrageous gas prices…on and on and on….

But the bottom line for many of you, not all of you, on why you are really feeling like this is because you don’t have someone in your life. You don’t really hate all of those things. Okay, okay, maybe those oil companies. (That reminds me, I need to fill up. That’ll be forty bucks! UGH!) But not having a mate compounds everything else that you think is negative in your life. Right? It makes everything else seem much worse.

You don’t care if you spend three bucks for a gallon of gas if you have that cute boy girlfriend sitting next to you in your car. Right? Okay, maybe that was pushing it a bit.

A Check Up from The Neck up

All of us, at one time or the other gets a check up on our body and our teeth, but why is it we never get a check up from the neck up when we are down about something? After all, if we aren’t running at 100% between our ears, won’t the rest of our body suffer?

So…many of you already hate life, but how’s your positive attitude about yourself? Or, do you even have one? Do you have low self-esteem? Can you take the opposite sex or leave ‘em? Do you let people, in general walk over you? Do you speak your mind? Do you act like a person should act? Do you feel like your life isn’t getting you anywhere with the opposite sex, or with life in general? If you’re coming up with the wrong answers, this article is definitely for you.

The following was e-mailed me a few years back by one of my readers. I think it is from Dr. Robert Glover’s book, No More Mr. Nice Guy. I don’t know. Regardless where it is from, it’s an excellent list that just may help you, whether you are a man or a woman. That is, if it even pertains to you.

Is This You?

A.) They have low self-esteem. They don’t value themselves highly. It might be out of past failures or other deep-rooted emotional issues.
B.) They constantly seek approval / validation / attention from others. It’s usually out of a low amount of self-worth. See #A.
C.) They are insecure. They don’t feel that a high quality person should like them.
D.) They are controlling, possessive, domineering, clingy, and suffocating.
E.) They idealize potential mates. They overlook flaws. They put the opposite sex before everyone and everything else. They invest large amounts of emotion, time, energy and money into relationships early on.
F.) They are self-conscious and nervous around the attractive opposite sex. They care what others think, and they don’t want anyone to disapprove of them.
G.) They doesn't draw boundaries. They give the opposite sex whatever they want in return for love, sex and approval. They accept second-class behavior for the possible reward of the aforementioned. They don’t say "no" too often. They don’t want to cause any "waves."
H.) They have poor body language. They have little or no eye contact. They lean forward out of nervousness. They have fast and jerky movements. They have nervous ticks and fidgety habits. They have bad posture, and they don’t stand up straight.
I.) They are easily emotionally and destabilized. They get worked up over meaningless things.
J.) They whine and complain, usually to get pity and empathy.
K.) They drink to excess and or take drugs to numb how they are feeling and the loneliness they are in.

Any Of Those Sound Familiar? Then Change Yourself To These Kind Of People….

A.) They don’t need any outside approval or attention from ANYONE to be happy.
B.) To a point, they don’t care what others think of them.
C.) They are self-confident.
D.) They don’t let outside events and other people’s opinions emotionally destabilize them. They are always in control of their emotions.
E.) They never whine or complains to get approval or empathy.
F.) They judge people based on character and personality, not on outward appearance and material items.
G.) They can be brutally honest, while still being respectful with everyone, including themselves. They are not afraid to put someone in their place when they are out of line. They aren’t afraid to speak their mind.
H.) They are a goal-oriented thinker. They favor long-term gratification over short.
I.) They would like to find an attractive and intelligent mate to spend time with, but they don’t NEED that person. They, WANT, that person. … They don’t, NEED, that person.
J.) They have strong and confident body language. They stand up straight. They don’t break eye contact. They don’t have any nervous ticks. They don’t have quick and jerky movements. They don’t lean back out of self-confidence and lack of nervousness.
K.) They don’t invest all of their emotion and time into a relationship too early on. They get to know their date over a period of a few dates. Once they know that he or she is worth it, THEN they will.
L.) Instead of drinking and taking drugs to numb the feeling and loneliness they are in, they instead keep themselves busy, and they keep active. They read positive thinking books. They walk everyday. They get a hobby. They do things outside under the sun, instead of staying inside all the time. They try to keep upbeat and happy. They know that their life as it is right now won’t stay like that.

And how can you be this kind of a person if you aren’t? Actually, it’s pretty easy. None of us were born with a weak inner-self. Basically we were all born with a clean slate. Over time, throughout our lives we became the kind of person we are now. Some have chosen to be a positive, take-charge kind of a person, while others have let the hard knocks in life tear them down. They gave up too easy.

If you are the latter, throughout the years, over time you have programmed yourself to be like you are now. You just kept thinking negative thoughts. So, simply reverse it! Reprogram yourself to be like the above. And you know what? It won’t take years to do so, either! You can actually be a new you in just weeks.

Then, in turn, you will be more attractive to the opposite sex!

It’s all about having positive affirmations. For example, it could be something like: “I will be a more positive thinker. I will be the kind of a person one should be! I WILL not be a weak doormat!”

And if you are in financial straits, it could be something like: “I will pay off my bills in X amount of months. I know I will not be in debt up to my neck for too much longer. I WILL be debt free!”

Then read them every single day! In fact, read from the last list every single day.

You will then have a better outlook on life. You will then be happier and more energetic. You will then be more attractive to the oppose sex!

In addition to that, read my other articles on looking your very best that will be coming in the next week or two. Looking and THINKING your best is a one-two punch in making yourself more appealing to the opposite sex!

Are you rolling your eyes at this? Well, most do. They take it too much for granted. Well, here’s the thing…what do you think put yourself in that negative, weak state that you are in now? Yup, it was all that negative thinking throughout the years. So, doesn’t it make sense to reverse it with positive thoughts? And every time you get a negative thought, immediately knock it out with a positive thought!

Print out this list, and tape it up somewhere where you can read it on occasion. Keep your mind focused on the kind of person you should be!

Wouldn’t it be nice to be a more happier, stronger person, who also shows him or herself to be as such?

In addition to that, reading the following books can help enormously! In my opinion, of all the positive-thinking books out there, these are the best. They are all old books, but so what. No other books can compare to these classics.

How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie.
You Can If You Think You Can by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale.
The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz.
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

Think and Grow Rich is a fantastic book for helping you with positive affirmations. It isn’t necessarily on being rich in money but in life in general.

If this positive thinking stuff is all new to you, and getting you out there walking everyday is like next to impossible, then force yourself to do it for just one week. Put aside two hours a day for reading and walking. Just one week! You can do that, can’t you? Once you start doing it, the odds are good that you will continue it. Why? Because you will actually start to feel better!

Come on, folks, you know what to do to be a better person in the inside. You know not to be such a negative thinker. You know that what we eat, vitamins and minerals, has an affect on our mental state. You know that being outside more and exercising more makes a big difference. You know all of these things.

The rest is up to you. You can either stay in the kind of mood you wake up to all the time, or you can do something about it. You can be a more happier, energetic and full-of-life person that attracts the opposite sex, or you can be a lifeless slug. What’s it goin’ to be?

I’m off to a take a shower.

Until next time,

Perry Rose

Author's Bio: 

Perry Rose is a personal growth and motivational speaker for singles and author of Women Sex and Dating for the Single Man BetterSexBetterDating.com & All About Men; Another Damn Book for Women About Men BetterSexBetterDating.NET.

He can be contacted at Perry@BetterSexBetterDating.com.