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I Want A Divorce
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Hayden B. Tompkins |
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Instant gratification has never been easier; all you have to do is hop online, or microwave, complain to the manager, turn on the tv. Food is so easy to prepare that it comes pre-made, pre-portioned, and pre-cooked. Just add water, stir, microwave, or open the package.
But with all the ease and, some say, decadence, you still have to work, get a paycheck, and go to the store. Food doesn’t magically appear in your fridge. Even if the effort is minimal, you still have to do something.
Love is the only thing we expect for free.
The laws of physics apply; you don’t get something for nothing. The conservation of energy must be maintained and you don’t get results if you don’t invest any energy. Ask a physicist.
It doesn’t matter that the subject is love; we are still talking about energy, a.k.a. what the universe is made of. Ask a financial advisor. Even he will tell you that you won’t receive a return on your investment unless you actually make an investment. Lotto winners still have to spend a dollar and buy a ticket.
What is love?
Love is a profound oneness; a tender, passionate affection for another person.
How do you fall in love?
First, someone gets your attention through chemistry and sexual attraction. Secondly, because you are interested, you pay attention. You discuss a wide range of topics. You begin to note details like how they laugh, how they look in a particular shirt, how they drive. Everything you pay attention to gives you yet one more reason to like this individual.
Why do you love?
You can love the way someone makes you feel; you can love that you are your ‘best self’ when you are with them. Ultimately, however, I think you love because in the process of analyzing someone you begin to identify with them. Your sense of self begins to encompass this other person. Love is a profound oneness. That is why you can love God, your children, and your spouse. It is not mutually exclusive.
How do you fall out of love?
The same way you fell in love; instead of obsessing over everything you adore, however, you start to obsess over everything that angers or annoys you. Anger places the object of love out of yourself and you no longer feel a ‘oneness’. You have, in essence, divorced the person from your inner self.
The secret to staying in love, forever, is to constantly remind yourself of all the amazing things that your significant other does instead of reminding yourself of how they left their socks on the floor yet again. Remember how you felt on your first date, or wedding day. Was your heart full of love?
Change your inner focus of your spouse.
Author's Bio
See my bio under experts at SelfGrowth.com.
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