Jealousy can be the destruction of a great relationship. Jealousy is usually brought on by some sort of insecurities in a man. In this article we will take a brief look into what brings on insecurities to a man.

He finally has the girl of his dreams. She is the hottest on the block. You can’t stop thinking about her. Every time the two of you are out together you keep her close to your side. You look at the other guys carefully to make sure none of them are going to try and move in on your girl. You constantly think every other guy is trying to take her away from you. When the two of you are apart you have to call her all the time. If she tells you that she’s going out with friends you always think the worst. Instead of it being girlfriends like she said you think she is secretly meeting with old boyfriends. This of course sends you into a jealous rage.

1. You have to always be around your girl. Your there to give her anything she needs. You are always buying her stuff with little letters attached. Instead of using your time to build the relationship properly you’re devoting all your time to being over protective. You turn the relationship into a one sided control issue. You always have some sort of excuse as to why the two of you should be together. It’s gotten so bad that even her girlfriends are questioning whether this relationship is for the right reasons.
2. Do you even realize that you are doing this and do you know why? You have probably had bad relationships in the past. It’s going to take you a long time to believe in loyalty, trust and honesty again. You want to make sure that the past failures never happen again. So it doesnt matter what she likes you promise yourself that you will do anything to make this work. In turn you don’t even realize that you are doing more harm than good.
3. A big reason for male insecurity stems from the bedroom and correlates from the deficient size of a man’s member. Big or small lots of men aren’t happy with the size of their member. They always think it has to be bigger to make the relationship succeed. Because if they think they can’t please their lady then they have to substitute it with something else. This reason alone explains the lucrative business of penis enlargement.
4. Another reason for insecurity is finances. Men feel they have to be making enough money to take over the world. The more they can spend on their lady makes them think they are more desirable. It makes them feel like the woman will want to stay for this reason.

Men are no different than women when it comes to certain needs. Men just want to be loved, cared for and pampered. They need to feel important and respected by their lady.
So as a man what can you do to overcome these insecurities? First of all you have to learn to like yourself again. Do an assessment on yourself and see what you come up with. Change your hair style, work on your looks. Go to the gym and work on your body. Try new things like going to a museum or to a play. If you want to keep this lady you have to stop your insecurities from taking over the relationship. You have to make sure you treat her with the same respect you want for yourself.

Author's Bio: 

Dale has been married for twenty years and has seen everything in a relationship. Check out his interactive relationship blog at another blog at or some insecurity help at