Romancing the Woman You Love

Have you ever seen a woman who has received a romantic gesture or gift that is so spectacular, so powerful, it actually moves her to tears? Tears of joy. Tears of love. Tears of being overwhelmed with a man’s complete thoughtfulness.

Even if only in the movies, have you seen that woman?

That is exactly what we are going to create together. And in the future, when you offer a gesture or a gift, that moment will transcend time. That moment will last through the next day . . . the next month . . . and through the next 10 years, and even longer.

Now, I know a man can show gestures of his affection and buy gifts for the woman he cherishes. But what about finding the perfect gift or creating the perfect romantic experience?

Let us take a moment to think about what a woman deeply desires and wants. It is especially important for a woman to feel treasured—that she is the most important person in the entire world to her man. And to make a woman feel this way is actually quite easy! It comes down to knowing that her man thinks about her. When you make a gesture or give a woman a gift, she wants it to reflect just how much you value her love—that you have thought about it and pondered how it is just perfect for her.

In fact, this is the essence of romance . . . and how you can keep it alive over the years. For a woman, romance is found in the details. Even the smallest attention to detail will make an impression on a woman. Simple gestures like sitting close to her, holding her hand when walking in the park, writing a short love note, or introducing her to friends and colleagues as “the most spectacular woman in the world” will endear you in a woman’s heart.

Gentlemen, women do like to be indulged or spoiled occasionally with surprise expressions of your affection, despite any of her protests. Try even an effortless gesture like giving her flowers for no reason and see how she will reward you. What if you went just a little further and gave her a bouquet of flowers—the same arrangement she held on your wedding day or admired in a special restaurant or hotel? Now imagine how she will react when you put in more time and care to surprise her with a grand show of affection. Imagine how your relationship will blossom and how she will radiate sheer joy.

I cannot stress this enough: When you really want to indulge a woman, you need to create the ultimate romantic experience. The ultimate experience encompasses romance, creating a memorable occasion, and anchoring it with a personal and feminine gift. And when you create these experiences for a woman, you will see how her love and appreciation for you only increases with each reflection back to these moments.

To illustrate what I mean, allow me to recount a scenario where my husband got it perfect. I was returning from a business trip to Asia. As I was wandering around JFK searching for the car service I had asked my husband to organize, I finally saw a sign that read “My Royal Treasure.” You see, the name of my line of fine jewelry is Royal Treasures Jewelry Collections. In my jet-lagged stupor, I was confused that it should be incorrectly written.

Nevertheless, I started following this man. Just then, my husband leaped out from around a corner! My heart nearly jumped right out of my body! He whisked me outside to a rented limousine, and inside, he had filled it with champagne, cheeses, flowers, and romantic music. As we drove home, my husband held my hand and suggested I take a closer look at the bouquet. Once again, I was confused, but we were having a giggle, so I peered among the petals. Sitting there in the center of a stately calla lily was a stunningly beautiful pair of earrings!

I do not think I could actually breathe for a minute or two. Was I still asleep on the flight and dreaming? And whenever I want a quick reminder of how much my husband truly treasures me, I quickly glance at that airport sign and realize how much he does think of me . . . enough that he should create a play on words with the name of my jewelry collection—something that is important to me.

Let us take a look at some factors that make such a moment unforgettable: the element of surprise; considerable thought, effort, and time; an experience tailored specifically for the woman; shared intimacy; amorous conversation; the spirit of playfulness; and extravagance. Incorporating even a few of these factors into a romantic experience permanently imprints into a woman’s mind just how precious she is to her man. Now that is what a woman wants!

A woman wants—needs—to feel special to the man she loves, that he desires her and wants to please her. And when she feels this way, her amorous emotions take over.

Let me explain a bit more of what I am saying. The excitement of my husband’s surprise immediately swept me up into a sense of lavishness, splendor, and gaiety. My mind was creating the most powerful love story as it was happening. I was living it . . . right at the moment.

That is right, gentlemen—women create most of the romance story in their heads.

Then to top off the whole experience, I have his earrings as a reminder—as an anchor—of what he did and how he feels about me. All I could think for months was how I was the luckiest woman in the world!

By creating similar moments for the woman you love, you will be memorializing special times. Often men do not realize that this is what women want. But this is exactly what women crave. Years later, you and your love will look back on these experiences as the highlights of your relationship together. You will talk about these times because these are the times you took the effort to create.

A gentleman sets the tone, the place, and the experience. A gentleman’s sense of centeredness and peace shines through in the way he cares about those he loves and the world around him. He cares enough to make his woman feel as if she is the most wonderful being in the universe.

Allow me to offer you a bit of insight: Women are emotional beings, and women do love to be swept up in a whirlwind of passion, of enchantment, of frivolity. Every time your dearest love adorns a gift you have given her or glances at a photo of a special time together, the loving emotions connected with it only grow stronger. And that is the power of romance. Romance makes a woman feel desired, appreciated, and loved. It is precisely these feelings that are vital to a woman’s happiness and fulfillment.

It is really quite simple. Romance begins with a single action and develops in a woman’s head as she is living in the moment. It continues to grow grander and grander over time, with every reflection back to that moment.

So, gentlemen, if you just take the initiative to ignite a spark of romance, the woman you treasure will take it from there and turn it into a flame. A woman appreciates that her man wants to court her for a lifetime. She knows it is not easy . . . but she lives for it!

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