Let’s face it, most men tend to overestimate themselves. They may have been given strength from their academic record or success at work or on the court, and feel that this success automatically transfers over into credit in the “woman department”. Unfortunately, this is almost never the case. These are the men that are left scratching their heads at the end of the evening when everything that they said or did went completely wrong. From my experience, here are just a few reasons why these men tend to misjudge themselves and fail.

1. Admission of error, means omission of error: Men like to be right, and conversely they do not like to admit when they are wrong. Because of this, they either create diversions, create excuses to cover it up, or try and explain it away.

2. Arrogance: Sometimes, a little arrogance is okay. But that place is often on the basketball court or in a sales meeting with a demanding client. Men should not be arrogant without due cause. Because of this, men tend to take advice from other men, that they perceive to be “less gifted intellectually, but more gifted with women”. This almost always leads to a mistake.

3. High performing men often have the social skills of a raccoon. Often times, in social settings they cannot communicate with other people, and this leads to an upset or offended woman, or possibly women.

4. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Have you ever tried to buy a car, and the salesman is persistently trying to sell you on a pick-up truck? Probably not. Then why do men continually try and apply logic to women that are more driven by emotions? Women like men who can make them feel like they truly understand them.

5. Cliché Techniques don’t work. Most men think that being charming and polite is the best solution. So, they take a page from the playbook that their mother taught them and proudly present their date with one dozen red roses on the first evening. This instantly places the man into a category that he does not want to be in, especially not this early in the evening!

Of course, these are just suggestions and mistakes that I’ve witnessed my friends making in the past. Some may be wrong, some pay be right, but overall, they are painfully accurate. Try not to over think the situation and resist those “cheesy impulses” that will have you labeled into “that Sweet guy I want to set my (homely) room mate up with”.