No matter what anyone tells us, we most believe the things we tell ourselves. I am not talking about talking out loud, of course, but of the self-talk that we all have going on inside our heads all the time. How many times have you talked yourself out of something before you take the first step? Sometimes this really serves us, and sometimes it prevents us from achieving our goals.
Do you wonder why you don’t succeed when you see other people that seem less likely to succeed do better than you do? It’s not that you wish them to fail; you just wonder why they didn’t. Do you blame other people for your failure? Do you think they had a teacher that made the difference, and you missed out on that information? That may be the case, but the greatest teachers in the world do not make so much of an impact if the student is not ready for the lessons.
To be better prepared for the lesson, you need to be comfortable with yourself. Many people are putting on a front; showing their ‘best face,’ when all along their best face is their true self. Why do they do that? In most cases it is because we are uncomfortable with ourselves. You are more amazing and wonderful than you realize. No one else on the planet has had the experiences you have had, or can do all the things that you are capable of, yet when someone compliments you on a job well done, do you brush off the compliment? Have you ever said, “oh, that’s nothing” when you get a compliment? That is an insult to the person who gave it to you. You are telling them that they don’t know what they are talking about.
Perhaps it is you who doesn’t know. It is self-esteem raising its’ head. Think back on your life. You have had some amazing successes in your life, yet you may not like to acknowledge them. Maybe you have been ‘on your own’ since you graduated high school. Maybe you didn’t graduate, but are still making it in the world. Perhaps your successes are bigger or smaller than those. Think about your past and admit to yourself that you are special. There are people around you who are so grateful to have you in their lives, whether they say so or not. Maybe they have said so in the past, but you didn’t know how to handle that, or maybe you said thank you when you got the compliment.
The successes you have had, when added together and spoken aloud can greatly increase you self-confidence. Whether you think the world of yourself and go proudly about your business, or if you are a wall flower at a gathering, you can use a boost to your self-esteem and self-confidence.
Robert Britt is a husband and father of four. He has a Bachelor of Science degree in Organizational Behavior and Applied Psychology and has written numerous articles on personal transformation and self esteem. Rob is a full time entrepreneur and writer.