Toilet Seat Love
By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz
Charley learned his lesson some 40 years ago! He grew up in a rural area of Missouri back when outhouses were more prevalent than toilets that flushed! When we first got married some 41 years ago, Charley, “the consummate gentleman” as Liz refers to him, had to learn an important lesson about toilet seats.
As it turns out, toilet seats are designed to protect women and save marriages! There are four kinds of husbands when it comes to Toilet Seat Love. Here they are, briefly described.
First, husband number one goes to the bathroom. He lifts the seat and goes, then replaces the seat in its down position. Wife loves husband when he does this! The marriage is saved!
Husband number two fails to lift the seat and, thusly, goes ON the seat. But, being a kind and respectful husband, he cleans up his mess with a handful of Kleenex. Wife still loves husband but not as much.
The third kind of husband goes to the bathroom, doesn’t lift the seat, goes ON seat, doesn’t clean seat, and wife sits in his mess later that day. Wife is not happy with husband! Trust us on this.
The fourth kind of husband raises the seat before he goes, but leaves seat in the upright position when he is done. Later that day, wife sits in the toilet bowl and the impact splashes toilet bowl contents on the floor. Occasionally, she gets stuck in bowl and needs assistance in getting out. Wife does not love husband when he does this. The marriage is in jeopardy!
We hope you enjoyed the levity of this little story but, more importantly, you find its meaning to be helpful as you think about the little things that make your loving relationship with someone else thrive. Toilet Seat Love describes just one of those little things that really matter. Always remember that lasting relationships and successful marriages are built on an accumulation of the little things.
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During their distinguished careers the Doctors have received some 60 local, state, and national awards; published nearly 200 articles and manuscripts; delivered over 1000 speeches, workshops and public presentations; traveled throughout the world; and appeared on radio and television and in the print media. Dr. Charles D. Schmitz is Dean and Professor of Family and Counseling Therapy at the University of Missouri in St. Louis and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz is President of Successful Marriage Reflections, LLC.
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Dr. Charles D. Schmitz has been a highly successful faculty member and administrator in higher education for 37 years. His teaching has focused in the areas of counseling psychology and leadership development. During his distinguished career he has received some 30 local, state, and national awards and honors; published over 100 articles and manuscripts; delivered well over 500 public speeches, professional presentations, and workshops; and has traveled throughout the world. He has appeared on radio and television, and has been frequently quoted in the print media. He received his Ph.D. degree from the University of Missouri-Columbia. He is currently Dean of the College of Education and Professor of Counseling and Family Therapy at the University of Missouri-St. Louis.
Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz was an award winning administrator and educator in the K-12 public schools for 36 years and has lectured in numerous college courses in the areas of counseling and leadership, since receiving her doctoral degree from the University of Missouri-Columbia. As the former chief operating officer for a school district of over 20,000 students and 2,100 employees, she understands complex organizations and human relations issues. During her long career she received more than 25 local, state, and national awards and honors, published over 75 articles and manuscripts, and delivered over 400 speeches, workshops, and presentations. Elizabeth has made numerous radio appearances, featured on television, and quoted extensively in the print media on a variety of topics over the years. She is currently president of Successful Marriage Reflections, LLC.