A Parents Secret

By Wendy Tomlinson

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I’m a law of attraction coach, life skills coach and I have years of experience working in child-care, of course I have all the parenting answers. Okay, not really. I’m just a regular mum with a really great secret.

During my law of attraction training I realised what an amazing parenting tool this could be.

So, what’s the secret?

Well, I have many. In my Parent and child coaching program I give you a whole bag full of parenting secrets, ready for you to pull out.

Today I’ll share this very important secret with you to get you started on your journey to happy, law of attraction parenting.

Ask your children for what you want.

Over the next few days listen to how you speak to your children. What are you saying?

Let’s take a look at two examples:

Mary says the following:
“Don’t hit your brother”
“Stop doing that”
“I have told you a hundred times not to do that”

This is what Susan has to say:
“Be nice to your brother”
“Do it this way”
“I want you to…”

The law of attraction gives you what you focus your attention on.

Therefore Mary has children who hit each other, do things she doesn’t want them to and hundreds of times.

Susan on the other hand has children who are nice to each other and they do things the way she asks.

Why? Because the law of attraction doesn’t decide what is right or wrong, it simply delivers what you put your attention on.

So if, as a parent you focus on the stuff you don’t want, you will get more and more of that exact behaviour you don’t want.

If you focus on what your kids are doing right, you’ll get more of the behaviour you want.

Sometimes as parents it’s easy to only see the negative. Make a promise to yourself and your kids: Starting today you will focus on what’s going well, what it is you like. And if you catch yourself saying “don’t do…” stop, take a deep breath and ask for what you do want.