Appreciation is a wonderful way to distract yourself if you are feeling disconnected and wanting to make a shift back into a connected state. It only takes a moment to redirect yourself to a place of appreciation.
Appreciation is the unconditional loving and allowing of ourselves, and the process of emanating, or flowing, that to others. Appreciation is a feeling that—once we call upon and allow ourselves to relax into it—assists us in recreating and maintaining the connection that we have with ourselves.
Appreciation is a state of being; in the loveliest way it reminds us of how good we feel when we remain connected to ourselves. We feel appreciation as we flow, feeling the connection to ourselves and others.
For one reason or another, we sometimes may find ourselves unable to feel appreciation, but wanting to. How can we bring this wonderfully powerful state of being back into focus?
Finding ways to tap into the state of appreciation is as simple as looking and feeling all around us. It could be catching a moment where the sunlight comes through the trees so beautifully, or holding a cherished gift. It could be a great song on the radio that makes the commute to work a bit more fun and gives you a chance to sing along. It could be giving yourself the gift of a delicious cup of coffee and deriving pleasure from the smell, taste, and feel as it warms your hand.
Appreciation is often just breathing in a loving moment of reflection. Once we understand how we can tap into appreciation to remain connected, every moment becomes a celebration: a celebration of yourself, a celebration of others, a celebration of everything.
Appreciation is a way for us to engage and indulge our senses as we milk a wonderful moment or experience, such as a meal, a memory, or a thought. We are surrounded by so much aesthetic beauty, and yet oftentimes we bypass the opportunity to indulge in the basking or reflecting of it all, as we go on with our day-to-day lives.
When we step out of our head and into our life, it is then that we are no longer simply going through the motions. We are now consciously attaching ourselves to our day-to-day experiences. Appreciation is a state of being that reconnects us back to feeling good, as it engages and indulges our senses.
When we begin a new relationship, or purchase a new item, or go on a vacation, it is easy for us to place our attention on what we acquire, or on our new surroundings, as we delight in the wonderment of every detail with a sense of giddiness.
For example, when we are in the early stages of having a relationship, we indulge our senses by placing our attention on all of the wonderful details about the person—the way they look, the sound of their voice, what they say, where and when they say it, what they wear, how they smell, and the color of their eyes. We are wonderfully obsessed with every single aspect and detail of the person.
This is being in a state of appreciation. It feels so good to feel connected to ourselves, and the feeling of appreciation has taken us directly to this connection.
Purchasing a new dress or item of clothing may allow you to indulge your mind in the entire shopping experience, as you take yourself back to the moment when you saw the clothing in the window and entered the beautiful boutique or shop. Remember how you felt when you stepped into the dressing room to try it on with a sense of joyful anticipation. Reflect upon the friendly, helpful salesperson who made the experience of shopping so easy—the way she delicately hung the dress or clothing on a fine, wooden hanger, or the way she carefully folded it and placed it in a bag. This, too, is being in a state of appreciation.
We have so many wonderful opportunities to immerse ourselves in appreciation, even when we go to the grocery store. Whether it is the wide, easy-to-navigate aisles of the store, or the friendly, helpful customer service, focus on being in appreciation.
How about all of the splendid produce that glistens with the spray of fresh water as we hear the simulated roar of thunder before the rain? Imagine the bakery department, with the smell of fresh breads and desserts, or the flower section seen in most of our supermarkets, with its lovely array of bundled beauty. Breathe it all in with your senses and allow yourself to indulge in the feeling of appreciation.
Our car is where we spend a good deal of time throughout our day. Whether it be to carpool our children, or drive ourselves to and from work, our car can be a means to get from place to place, or it can be our beloved means of transportation. Your car is a cooperative component that you can rely upon for so many things.
When you get into your car, before you start the engine, give yourself a moment to settle into the experience. Consciously set your travel mug in its clever holder, take a moment to find a comfortable seat setting, and think about how wonderful it is to have such a reliable, safe vehicle to transport you and your precious cargo, day in and day out.
Use the experience of being in your car as a wonderful opportunity to tap into the good feeling of appreciation. Not gratefulness—this is something else. Tap into appreciation, where you lead yourself with your senses, not your feelings of guilt or worthiness. Allow your feelings of appreciation to wash over you because it feels so good.
Our pets provide an amazing opportunity for us to step into our feelings of appreciation. They model this for us all day long, because that is their natural way of being connected. Pets often unconditionally adore our every movement, as they shower us with appreciation with their untiring affection. We ourselves are also in a state of appreciation as we pour over our animals with endless love and affection. The very thought of interaction with our pets usually transforms us instantly into a state of appreciation and well-being.
We invite you to play this game with yourself. Take a moment and consider all of the people in your life. Allow yourself to identify one positive thing about each person. It could be something they say, or the way they smile, or perhaps their sense of humor, or any observation about them that you admire.
Whatever it may be, make it something about this person that inspires you and makes you smile and feel good. Now use this reference that you have identified, and only think about this one positive thing when the particular person comes to your mind.
This is a game which allows you to isolate something wonderful that you appreciate about each person in your life. It is a game that helps you shift your focus from an internal running commentary about each person to a condensed good thought/feeling of appreciation.
You will feel better, because you now have a positive, clear way of quickly thinking about the people in your life and feeling good. Vibrationally, that good thought/ feeling of appreciation will connect you to yourself.
When we immerse ourselves in a state of appreciation and flow (these loving thoughts to ourselves and to others), it feels amazing. Appreciation feels like a blissful state of connection.
Jamie Lerner is the co-author of the book, The Ever-Loving Essence of You. She has co-created a beautiful family, received her MSW from Loyola University, and has traveled the world, exploring all types of spiritual healing modalities. As a therapist, Jamie has developed what she refers to as an integrative approach to well-being. Jamie Lerner is masterful in her ability to assist clients in re-creating a loving relationship with themselves. She is also a passionate, amateur adult equestrian rider on the AA horse show circuit. She has an insatiable appetite for pleasure, beauty, and joy; and often refers to herself as a true “pleasure junkie.”