Dear Lisa,

I started seeing this great guy for about a month. He made me feel pretty special and I liked him a lot. After I slept with him, he never called me again. I called him a couple weeks later and he says he’s emotionally unavailable. I feel duped and hurt, but I still want him to call me, what do I do?

Used and Confused

Dear Used,

Hmmm. Let’s rewind a bit, shall we? You sleep with this guy, he never talks to you again, you call him and he tells you he’s unavailable. He hurts you. He makes you feel stupid. And you want him to call you?

I’d like to think it’s because you’ve just won seven million dollars, you’re starting a new career as a supermodel/nuclear physicist, and you and your new rock-star/Internet genius fiancé are going to be moving to Paris so you’d like to tell him could he Puh-leese let you off the phone because you’ve got to get packing.
My guess, unfortunately, is that despite all evidence that this guy is not interested in anything besides sex, you’d be willing to let him back into your life for another round of do-me-and-dump-me.

You want a relationship. He doesn’t. If he does call you, it will be a booty call. Forget this guy and find somebody who actually wants to be with you.


TV Dating Expert Lisa Daily is the bestselling author of two dating books Stop Getting Dumped!, How to Date Like a Grownup and Fifteen Minutes of Shame (a novel) and is seen everywhere from Entertainment Tonight to the HITCH movie DVD.

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Dating expert Lisa Daily blogs her dating tips and advice at She is the Dating Coach on Daytime , a nationally-syndicated morning TV show and a syndicated columnist. She’s also the bestselling author of Stop Getting Dumped! and How to Date Like a Grown-Up: Everything You Need to Know to Get Out There, Get Lucky or Even Get Married in Your 40’s 50s and Beyond. Lisa was featured as a real-life “date doctor” in the HITCH movie DVD starring Will Smith.