It's very easy to convince ourselves that our single status is a choice, when in actual fact the truth is we're snuggled up in our comfort zone and fear stepping outside of it into the unknown, where we might face hurt and rejection.
I spent seven years without a girlfriend. Sure, I grew as a person during that time and I do think that a spell of being single is fantastic to define your character; but seven years was really stretching it! I look back now and realise that, although I believed at the time I was single through choice, the reality was I was resigned to being single because I had NO CLUE how to start interacting with women. Not a clue. The fact that I hadn't had a girlfriend (or even anything close) in seven years was PROOF to me that I was just not cut out for dating, and I had better just go about the business of being single. And do you know what happened as soon as I resigned myself to that fact?
My natural attraction mechanism started to shut down.
You heard right: you have a natural attraction mechanism. I'm not talking about anything 'woo, woo' or way out here, this is scientific fact: everything you need to attract women is already wired deep within you! Think about it; attracting a mate is part of life and just as nature gave you all you need to live and breathe; it also gave you the things that you need to attract women.
I'm sure you have seen enough nature documentaries and witnessed the truly bizarre mating rituals of some of the animals! Totally crazy! Now, the animals don't consciously think about the mating ritual they are about to perform and critique it; they just get on with it! Attracting a mate is a totally natural process for them and it isn't to be questioned. Do you really think that nature left us out of the equation, neglecting to give us any courting adaptations? Not a chance.
You have everything you need to attract women. Nature gave you the hottest systems possible for attracting women and they are waiting to be activated!
'But I'm not good looking, I haven't got a great job' I hear you cry 'women just aren't interested!!' Listen, all of that negativity is simply the inner critic. You have allowed that critic to take center stage and it's time to bring the curtain down on that performance and take control of your life.
I will tell you for a FACT. Yes, an absolute fact, that looks and career choice are not the things that are preventing you from finding a great girl. I don't care if you look like Frankenstein's ugly brother; you STILL have what it takes to bag yourself a terrific girlfriend. I have seen it happen time and time again so I will not accept that you are any different. Whatever excuses you try and make, I will just stick my fingers in my ears and drown your voice out with my terrible singing. Why? Because your excuses do not change the simple truth that YOU have control over your dating success!
But here's the problem: Whist some guys activate their attraction systems with ease (and we call them 'naturals') others never quite learn how to do this; and as time passes and we get so many inputs (conflicting advice on women, societal pressures to be a certain way etc) it becomes increasingly difficult to tap into that system. Once that happens, and we go unnoticed by women for any length of time, we get into a negative cycle and soon become resigned to leading the single life. Yep, that's how it happens.
But the great thing is that, not only can you tap into the power of your natural attraction mechanisms, but you can boost them to the point where you have more options with women than you think possible at this moment in time. I absolutely guarantee it.
But if you do not consider yourself a natural with women, then you MUST learn how to activate the process! It won't happen by accident or wishful thinking. So, take ACTION! Click the link below to learn how you can transform your dating and relationships forever.
My name is Luke Porter and for the past eight years I have been helping guys to turn their dating life around. I still get a real buzz and sense of satisfaction when I see the dramatic success that a man can achieve in his dating life, in a relativley short period of time, once they fully understand and work with the tools that I give them. The real key though, is learning how to attract women in such a way that you can build a fulfilling relationship. The biggest lesson that I learned was that there is a huge difference between being good at dating and building a great relationship. There is advice out there that will get you the dates but in the longterm it will keep you single and lonely.
My objective is to make certain that you can attract the woman of your dreams but also keep her.
And that is my promise to you. So get on it and take action! For more information about how to attract and have awesome relationships with women click the link http://www.bdateable.com
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