Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Stop Someone From Being Able To Receive?

If one was to drive somewhere that wasn’t too far away, they wouldn’t need to have a lot of fuel in their car. However, if they wanted to go somewhere that was over an hour away, for instance, this wouldn’t be the case.

But as long as they took the time to get the fuel they needed, this wouldn’t be a problem. Having said that, if it wasn’t possible for them to put fuel in their car they wouldn’t be able to get there.

The Only Option

The only thing they would be able to do would be to go somewhere locally, or to stay at home. In this sense, it could be said that they will have to compromise, and this is not going to be as fulfilling.

Now, if this was something that took place from time to time, it might not bother them, but if it was to happen all the time, it would be harder for them to handle. What would also make this harder to handle was if one’s car had run out of fuel and this stopped them from going anywhere.

Everyday Life

This is then similar to how one can also suffer when they are unable to receive what they need to receive in life. On one hand, this can mean that they are able to receive from time to time and on the other hand, it can mean that this is something that rarely takes place.

As a result of this, their life is going to be a lot harder than it needs to be, and they could be used to suffering in one way of another. Yet even though one is unable to receive, it doesn’t mean that they realise this.

One Outlook

Instead, one can believe that they are unlucky or less fortunate than others, and this can then mean that they see themselves as a victim. It is then not that they can’t receive; it is that the world is stopping them from being able to have their needs met.

Their outlook could also be supported by some of the people they spend time with, as well as the people who they come across in the world. If someone supports their outlook, it could because they experience life in the same way.

Random

But if that is not the case, it could a sign that they believe that people have very little control when it comes too how they experience life. So if someone is in a position where they get their needs met, they could believe that they are one of the lucky ones.

Thus, it will be normal for them to see people who experience life differently as being the unlucky ones. Therefore, while someone like this will be able to display empathy, they are not going to be able to assist them.

Alternatively

At the same time, one could be in a position where they have moments where they feel like a victim and moments when they don’t. And when they don’t feel as though they have no control over their life, they could realise that they are playing a part in what is happening.

During this time, they wonder why part of them wants to receive and another part of them doesn’t. In general, they could find that the part of them that doesn’t want to receive is the strongest part.

Overwhelmed

When this part of them takes over, they may find that they end up feeling overwhelmed when they receive something. Or they could feel this way when there is the chance that this is something that may take place.

This could also mean that they prefer to keep people at a certain distance, and they may prefer to spend time by themselves. But if they are able to settle down, this may soon change, and they could then be drawn to others.

Relationships

Another way of looking at this would be to say that this can be something that will have a negative effect on one’s relationships. This could mean that it is not possible for them to experience intimacy.

Other Areas

Along with this, one could also find that they can only get so far when it comes to their career. At a deeper level, this can be seen as something else that will cause them to experience too much pressure.

For one thing, they will have to commit to certain things and to have experiences that will cause them to lose themselves. Through not being able to embrace life, so to speak, it can also have an effect on their ability to be supported financially.

Conflict

Being able to receive is a vital part of life, and this is why it can be hard for one to understand why it would be such a problem. However, if one feels overwhelmed when they receive, it is going to be normal for them to keep life at bay.

The trouble is that while this is what feels comfortable, it is going to cause them to suffer unnecessarily. What this can show is that one doesn’t feel safe in their body, and this then sets them up to reject life.

Boundaries

As result of this, they are not going to be able to receive, and this is likely to show that they are boundaryless. At an energetic level, they are going to be completely exposed, and unless this changes, they life is unlikely to change.

A Deeper Look
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When one experiences life in this way, there is a strong chance that it’s because of what took place during their early years. During these years, they may have been abused and/or neglected, and they may have had a caregiver that got too close to them.

So through being violated on a regular basis, they wouldn’t have been able to develop boundaries. The only way they would have been able to protect themselves would have been to keep their distance.

Awareness

In order for one to open up to life, it will be important for them to reach out for external support, and this can be provided by a therapist and/or a support group. This is likely to be a time where one will be dealing with trauma.