Breaking Free of Self Sabotage And Self Destructive Behaviours

By Nick Arrizza M.D.

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Are you being held hostage by negative life depleting patterns of self sabotage? Do you have a strong desire to reclaim control of your mind, body and life so that you can fulfill your Heart’s dreams? Well this is a place for you to start to make significant and powerful progress in this direction.

The metaphor of being held hostage is more than just a metaphor. It is in fact where you find yourself if you feel like a victim of such unconsciously driven behaviours. The very fact that you feel you have little or no control over the downward spiral you find yourself in is evidence that much of the self defeating “choices” you make do not actually originate from you. What do I mean by this?

Well, I’m sure you’ve heard an expression that goes something like this: “He is making the unconscious choice to…” So many people use this expression to attempt to explain away choices made that they feel are habitual, automatic and very much out of their control. They invoke this idea because if they didn’t they would become fully conscious of the fact that they are not actually making such choices at all.

You see, it’s impossible to make an “unconscious choice” because the entire concept of choice necessitates that the individual is conscious of the choice they are making. Hence in this light the expression above makes absolutely no sense at all. Yet it, out of necessity, “must” be invoked to make the individual feel like they are in control of themselves when they actually are not.

This illusion of control is used to assuage the fears that they may not actually be fully in control of their mind or life. So if they are not then what is?

Well, we are all “programmed” or “conditioned” to think, feel and behave semi-automatically by early life experiences that get downloaded into our unconscious mind in the form of memories. Many of the negative memories we harbour are responsible for negative perceptions of ourselves and also drive the self sabotaging behaviours that we are manipulated into perpetrating on ourselves.

The first step in getting free is to begin to acknowledge and accept that these behaviours are a) undesirable b) not originating from us and c) must be purged from within for good. If you resonate with any of what was just said then you may wish to start by placing one hand over your Heart and saying the following:

“I resonate with what has just been said and I wish to be fully and consciously in control of myself at all times.”

Now take a moment and notice how you feel. Some of you will have begun to feel slightly more empowered, clear, alert, energized, excited, stronger, freer, more peaceful etc. If you like any of this kindly affirm that to your self via you Heart and it will grow stronger. This is the experience of you reclaiming ownership and control over your mind and body.

In order to build on this it becomes necessary to begin to erase i.e. uninstall that Life History program from your unconscious mind so that it doesn’t habitually run you off the rails. If you would like to learn more about a new coaching process that does this in a powerful manner kindly visit the web site below where you can also request a free introductory telephone consultation.