Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a young man whose life has fallen apart because of the girl I love so much. I slept with her but then she betrayed me by telling every body she saw and I felt so bad and walked away from her when she needed me the most. I could count all the tears that run out of her eyes but still could do nothing. Now she has found herself a new lover when I also need her the most. When I call her and tell her I miss her she rejects me. Now I realize she is only woman I have ever truly loved with all my heart. I am afraid I might hurt her again just because I love her. I care for her so much. Please help me out I am dying here, and it’s all because of love. Help me get her back. Please give me tips on how to get her back I know I am willing and obedient and able wait only for her.
I'm afraid you blew this one. If she's already involved with someone else, you have to leave her alone. Learn from your mistakes, and work on being more emotionally mature. I can't help you get her back, but if you give her a lot of space (no calls, no texts, no IMing, no e-mails, no following her around or showing up at her house) she may have a chance to re-think things. In the meantime, get on with your life. "10 Reasons For Not Falling in Love" will help you understand why you walked away from your love, "Growing Up As An Adult" will help you become more emotionally mature, and "Couples Can Cooperate for Success" will give you a healthy model for your future relationship. It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction has all the information you need to improve your life and relationships.
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Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.
Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever.com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.