Dear Dr. Romance :
After reading: "Older Women, Younger Men Relationships" I feel compelled to write to you to express my disagreement. Age difference is more than an "adolescent worry", unless the older partner is still an adolescent. To say that life experience and emotional growth equalize is to say that life experience and emotional growth stop at twenty.
We have watched so called grown men embarrass themselves with this ridiculous practice for far too long. Why should we now encourage women to do the same.
I appreciate your point of view. I understand that it can be galling to see a large difference in ages in a couple, and especially for those who have been dumped in favor of a younger partner. But, people have the right to their own choices, whether they're good choices or bad. My concern is that the relationships be mutually desired, respectful and functional. For more on successful dating, read my article "Guidelines for Successful Dating" Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences explains how couples can work with their differences to create healthy relationships.
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Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.
Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever.com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.