Delete the Fear of Abandonment Before it Destroys Your Relationship

By Nick Arrizza M.D.

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Do you worry, perhaps even go into a panic at the thought that your partner might leave you. Does this evoke powerful or devastating feelings of abandonment? Well then would it surprise you if I said that you have been pre-programmed to have your abandonment fears become a self fulfilling prophecy? If you truly want to prevent this from happening there is one significant and necessary thing you must do.

The fear of abandonment manifests as anxious, needy, clingy, and therefore unattractive behaviours which as I said will severely repel your partner and lead to the ultimate demise of your relationship unless you do something about it. In over 20 years of experience it has become absolutely clear to me that the only effective way to deal with this for good is to erase that fear from within once and for all.

Erase, you may ask? Yes, erase!

Now many of you may think that such fears are a normal part of the human condition, perhaps even part of what it means to be a human being.

I would say, however that this fear is actually the result of a traumatic and prolonged separation (or more than one) experienced early in life, often as a child, from a significant other like a parent or care taker. Such a trauma likely left you feeling extremely alone, vulnerable, afraid, empty, hopeless, and helpless and so on.

In other words you still carry the “war wounds” of that separation deep in your unconscious mind/body like what I call an “emotional landmine” that explodes whenever something in your daily life happens to trigger it because it resembles it in some way. That’s when all of those old negative and debilitating feelings re-emerge with a vengeance.

This leads a seemingly normal and mature adult to begin behaving in a very scared, needy, immature, dependent, and burdensome child. Of course this will seriously undermine any relationship and unless that underlying wound is released that person will be forever under its control. Sadly, as I said above it will only cause a repeat of the abandonment and this will only deepen the internal wound making it that much more powerful.

The only way to permanently free ones self from this scenario is to erase the negative memory of the original abandonment experience. This can now be accomplished in a permanent, rapid and effortless manner with a new coaching process developed over 10 years ago.

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