Maybe you’ve tried every strategy that you can think of to lure your ex boyfriend back into your arms and back into your life but it just doesn’t seem to be working. You have tried playing hard to get; you’ve tried obsessing over what he’s doing and calling every hour; you’ve showed up coincidentally at a location where you know he will be; you’ve “casually” inquired about his well being through your mutual friends; you’ve gotten angry; and you’ve gotten sad to the point that you call them up crying and begging them to come back.

Where has all this gotten you? Probably exhausted and still wondering if you will ever be able to get your ex back.

What can you do differently, you may ask yourself. Well, before you seek out the big black book of love spells why not discover the magic key to winning the heart of your guy. You have been carrying this key with you all along but may not have even realized its power.

Before we open the door that will get your ex running back into your arms, let’s discuss a few thoughts that you want to gain control of when you’re trying to recapture the heart of your lost love.

First – Stop blaming yourself. While it’s important to understand whatever you did in the relationship it’s equally important for you to forgive yourself for anything that you may or may not have done. “But, what if I cheated on him/her?” you may ask. Forgive yourself. We all make mistakes and all we can really do is acknowledge them, learn from them, and then move on.

Second – Believe that he/she still loves you. Not even a guy has the ability to turn off his love for a woman he really cared about. You may convince yourself that you cannot get your ex boyfriend back because he is already dating other women but that is just not true. If you allow this thought to control you then you may subconsciously erect some emotional barriers that will stop your ex from coming back. In trying to protect your heart, you may simply be locking it away in a vault that is just too hard to open – even by a man who still loves you.

Third – Realize that you cannot “make” your ex come back to you. And if you really think about it, that’s not how you want your ex back anyhow. Do you remember when you were little and your parents forced you to do a certain chore by using guilt or threats. In essence they were “making” you pitch in with family chores. Now compare that to the feeling you got when you “chose” to do that chore on your own. Wasn’t that a better, more fulfilling experience? Remember that thought as you consider how to get your guy back into your arms.

I understand that this is all hard but it is crucial to successfully winning back the heart of your ex. Combine these three tips with the rest of a time tested formula for getting your ex back into your arms and you will be able to build yourself up while building up what could be a lasting relationship with the man of your dreams.

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Author's Bio: 

This article is one of the breakup series I write. Please check my author page for more articles on the subejct or join me in my ex-back support group and relationship forum for more tips on how to deal with your breakup and how to get yourself on the path of getting your love and your life back. Please also follow me on facebook: http://www.facebook.com/katarina.phang for my daily nuggets of reflections/insights/advice and tips on attracting and maintaining a lasting relationship and fixing a broken one.

Katarina Phang is an author, love/life coach specializing on reuniting couples and curing troubled relationship. She founded a free ex-back support group and relationship forum http://gettheloveyoudeserve.info.