Text messaging is one of the most powerful ways to flirt and build attraction and to lay a great foundation for a lasting relationship with a man.
Unfortunately, many women are at a loss for how to properly leverage this technology to make a man feel intense level of attraction toward her with the use of a cell phone and an unlimited text messaging plan. Today all of that changes!
To begin with, text messaging is the perfect way to flirt with a man thanks to the latency in this technology.
Since no message is sent until you type it out and hit the “send” button you have time to think and edit your message to your heart’s content.
Perhaps you truly lack texting skills... do you have a friend with skills? Have her sit beside you and help you come up with some witty banter to set his heart ablaze and his head spinning.
Work on your text messaging skills. In this day and age it is a part of dating and relationships that you simply can’t avoid.
Burying your head in the sand and saying that texting isn’t for you simply won’t cut it. Once you get the hang of it you will find that it’s actually a very easy way to communicate with men while taking away all the things that used to make you nervous about talking on the phone in the beginning.
Try using some of these tips and see how easy it really can be.
A word of warning though: If the man you are texting has a couple of women that he is interested in who are texting him at the same time competition can be fierce.
Put your game face on and get your skills sharpened or you will definitely be left behind while your prince rides off into the sunset with some other girl (find out other reasons why he disappeared).
With the help of this advice though, you should be well on your way to outperforming every other woman he is seeing.
Texting Rule No. 1
Be Witty – It will be necessary for you to be witty and clever in your text messages. Be original and avoid all the boring things all other women text guys. Think outside the box. Be goofy and unpredictable, and make him literally laugh out loud.
Off the top of my head, something random that might get a laugh would be, “my dog wants to know what you’re wearing...” Relax and have fun. Enjoy the detached nature of text messaging and be yourself.
Of course, once you have built a little rapport and gotten to the “pet name stage” of the relationship it is not only ok but encouraged that you send him regular text messages saying “hey sexy” or “hey handsome”. Remember, text messaging is easy and quick so there really is no reason not to touch base with him at least in the morning and night once he has come to expect your messages.
You can even bring the romance back into your relationship if it has gone stale. (This is HOW, step by step)
Texting Rule No. 2
Put Him On The Hook – Text messages that can be answered with a simple yes or no simply will not suffice if you are trying to use text messages to flirt or build a connection.
Before you send your text ask yourself if the question can be answered simply yes or no and if so reword your question so he will have to think a little bit more. Chances are that if he has a couple of women he is going out with, he is interested in the one that captivates him most, which will be the one that he winds up spending time texting most.
If you are the one sending text messages that only require a yes or no answer he will get bored with you fast.
An example of a poor text message might be “I had a great time tonight did you?” First, this is very needy but also it can be answered with a simple “yes”. A clever way of rewording this would be “I had such a good time tonight I want to hit replay and do it all over again!”
Texting Rule No. 3
Follow The Flow – Try to mirror or follow the flow of the conversation when you are texting. If he uses a lot of texting shorthand like “ur” for “you are” you can follow suit. If he uses proper English you should do likewise.
Internet shorthand is falling out of style and many intelligent men will judge you by your spelling and grammar if you find that he doesn’t use internet shorthand.
Knowing the difference between “there, their and they’re” is a common test.
Texting Rule No. 4 Frequency – If he stops texting you or seems short in his responses during a conversation it could be that he is busy.
Try not to be an annoyance. End the conversation on a positive note and tell him that you think he’s the coolest or that he’s the sweetest and that you have to run and that you’ll talk with him soon.
Forcing a text conversation can make you appear needy and a bit stalkerish.
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And listen to this, even when he has disappeared/dumped you STILL there is magic in texting:
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