Life is about making choices. People who succeed make choices at the right time. If you don’t make right choices at the right time, you risk facing big challenges ahead. How do you overcome such situations and plan ahead for your family? How do you ensure your family marriage is built on a firm foundation?
We explore the three ingredients of a successful marriage. You need money, sex and food. Other people will also consider religion. These are important components. If you fail at any of them, you are headed for the worst times in your marriage life.
Any relation where money isn’t involved is a struggling affair. You don’t want to have family time when actually children and your wife are sleeping hungry.
Before you get married, agree how you will handle family finances. A partner may get attracted to you because of money. And marriages built on this kind of arrangement do not last. In some developed countries, people are agreeing that in case you separated between a given periods of time, the other partner is not entitled to any asset. For example, if you separate within say two years of marriage, there is no sharing your partner’s estate even if in that period you had a child.
You must have good time for your spouse especially for bedroom matters. You might go for a trip. As you can see, that requires money. Money is about having sufficient to enable meet your basics to run the family.
Our grandparents tell us the direct passport to the man’s heart is through the stomach. But it also holds for the woman. Many times it is the maid serving your husband food. The female partner leaves this space which is so critical in the hands to the maid. The maid is increasingly taking the table time with the male partner. As the wife is busy on Facebook and Whats App in the bedroom, the maid is busy having prime time with the husband.
With time, the relationship and close direct concern for one’s health concern is with the maid or shamba boy than the real partner. Having dinning time with your family is very important in strengthening marriage.
Remember, life is about making choices. If you choose to go into the forest, you don’t get worried about whatever is making small noise. Ask yourself; “In my marriage, what are the critical issues that are a must?” Always make the right choices.
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