Fears are a natural part of the creative process. All multi-talented people experience fear, anxiety, worry and resistance at some point. After youâve identified the true nature of your fears and resistance (see Part One of this series), you can then use proven techniques to manage and reduce them. Parts 2 & 3 of this series will cover how to overcome fear and how to manage creative fears.
Approach # 1: Feel the Fear & Do it Anyway
Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. has made a career out of helping people overcome fears by taking action. In her many, terrific books are numerous, helpful tools to manage and reduce fear. In a nutshell, she says EVERYONE is afraid, so itâs no biggie that you are. Your fear will grow until you take action. Soâ¦'feel the fear and do it anywayâ. ANY action will reduce your anxiety. Itâs better to do something/anything than wallow in helplessness. Her recommended mantra: âwhatever happens, Iâll handle itâ.
Think of it: Stage fright dissolves during the first few minutes of a performance. Applying gesso to canvas is considerably more pleasant than rending your garments because youâre afraid your next painting wonât be good enough. Jotting down dreck feels better than sitting there, paralyzed by writersâ block.
Approach #2: Use Logic
Sometimes, itâs possible to overcome fear or anxiety by arguing ourselves out of it. Here are some activities to try:
* Dispute unhelpful, fear-producing thoughts. If your fear is âIâm too old to make it as a sousaphone playerâ, contest it. Generate as much evidence to the contrary as you can. (e.g. I know several successful sousaphone players who recorded their first CD when they were decades older than me. Age doesnât matter. Iâm a better player now than I was ten years ago. Itâs only too late if I give up now).
* Take a moment to write down a list of your past successes. If you can do these things, is it not possible that you can do this thing thatâs causing you fear or anxiety?
* Identify your specific fear (e.g. My screenplay wonât sell). Now write down the belief you would prefer to have occupying your thoughts (e.g. I am becoming a successful screenwriter). Now, write down everything you can think of to support this preferred belief (e.g. Iâm a good writer; Iâve placed well in the contests; Iâve received praised from these professionals; I know Iâm better than the folks who wrote this weekendâs awful teenaged horror flick â if they got their script made, so can I). Make a strong case for any belief that will support you in your endeavor.
* From creativity guru Julia Cameron: Who are you to say the gifts you were given arenât good enough? Barbra Streisand stopped performing for years because she was afraid sheâd forget the lyrics she was singing. She deprived the world of decades of beautiful music because of her fear. What gifts is your anxiety keeping from the world?
*Remind yourself that everyone feels fear. If folks like Andrea Bocelli, Barbra Streisand, Sir Laurence Olivier, Kim Basinger and Carly Simon can succeed despite experiencing major stage fright, so can you.
* From Tony Robbins: Write down 10 âimpossibleâ things youâre already accomplished acquired or become. Now consider the task thatâs causing you anxiety. How can you accomplish it, anyway?
* Try a reality check: Whatâs your criteria for success? How realistic is it? Have you set the bar so high, you are dooming yourself to failure? For example, if your objective is to be an Academy Award winning editor, you may find yourself disappointed with anything less. What if, rather than an end state or product, you defined success as âmaking progress every day for a monthâ? But perhaps you think that if you make winning âtoo easyâ, you wonât try as hard. Think again: Being on target with your âdaily progressâ translates into feelings of accomplishment which induce you to accomplish more while actually enjoying the experience â rather that fretting and berating yourself over unrealistic expectations.
Approach #3: Feel something/anything other than fear
Fear can be paralyzing, depressing, debilitating and otherwise awful. Dwelling on the negative doesnât help. The longer you stay in fear, the more damage youâre doing. It is critical to move from fear to any other emotion. ANY other emotion â even anger or jealousy -- is more likely to trigger action and any action is likely to spark more positive emotions.
Regardless of your feelings about the more woo-woo aspects of the âAbraham Hicksâ /Law of Attraction philosophy, in their books Esther & Jerry Hicks provide concrete, practical techniques to move from fear to other, more positive emotions. For example, you can write down your fear, then seek any statement that feels better. Jot down any other way to look at the situation until you generate a sentence that feels more positive than your fear statement. For example, âIâm afraid the producer wonât hire meâ holds you in a victim mentality whereas âIâm jealous that Inga just got a great gigâ or âIâm steamed I still have to shop my work like thisâ are better thoughts on which to dwell because they are more likely to lead you to ponder âSo, what am I going to do about this?â
1. Identify your top fear at this moment.
2. Try at least one of âUse Logicâ activities.
3. Turn to Part Three of this series to examine seven other approaches to overcome fear and anxiety.
(c) Liisa Kyle, Ph.D.
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