Finding time to breathe and relax may feel like the ultimate luxury, but it is entirely practical … much more practical than pushing yourself to exhaustion. And the really good news is that it’s also entirely within your control.

Slowing down may seem counter-intuitive when you are stressed. But believe me: When you develop these 3 skills, you can put yourself back on track … and bring positive energy and focus to whatever you need to do in your life.

1. Focus: This is the base for what follows. It’s essential. So start right now. You only need 5-minutes … but this is so delicious you may find yourself wanting to expand this time!

Take a seat in a quiet place, tune out any distractions, and tune into your breath. Slowly feel your breath relax and expand.

This priceless skill is instantly available and free. To make full use of it requires your determination and ongoing practice. The rewards are incalculable. You cannot claim your time until your claim your power to be in the moment and to direct your thoughts.

2. Assert: Let yourself know, very clearly, that you can say no.

Start with low-priority demands. Maybe you can ask others to prioritize their requests to fit into the reasonable time frame you allocate for them.

This is a skill that takes practice. Be patient with yourself. Assertiveness needn’t be harsh; but it is direct.

Ultimately, the more self-referenced you are willing to be, the more power you will exercise over your time. This is not at the cost of relationships; in fact, taking the time to negotiate boundaries with sensitivity and presence of mind can invite everyone involved to develop new strengths and trust.

3. Respond: Responsibility comes from the ability to respond. Every time you change your time choices, you are responding to your own values and priorities … and you are changing your life!

Think about it: When you create open space in your life you are actively valuing and protecting it. You are buying this time by trading in other activities. It’s a give-and-take, both with the people in your life who are affected … AND within yourself!

The more time you take to breathe, focus and take responsibility for your life, the more self-referenced you will become. Taking time for yourself helps you build an unshakeable base of self-worth. Working from that base, making decisions that work for you becomes easier and easier.

Positive builds on positive. The more you practice these skills, the more rewarding they become. New doors will open, and you can use your new strengths to explore the very best ways to use your time.

Now, ask yourself: How can you start restructuring your time choices today to reach new levels of effectiveness?

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Author's Bio: 

Paula Eder, PhD is an internationally-known coach and published author who mentors spirit-driven solopreneurs and small business owners to align their core values and energy with their time choices and behaviors so that they can make more money, create more freedom, and find more time.

Living on a working farm in rural New Hampshire, Paula’s connection with time is as organic, spiritual, and down-to-earth practical as the vitality and resiliency of the seasons. From her base in New Hampshire she has maintained a thriving coaching practice for the past 35 years; is a Certified Coach in Kendall Summerhawk's Money Breakthrough Method™ Program; and is a certified graduate of the Vanguard class of the Authentic Happiness Coaching Program conducted by Martin E. P. Seligman, PhD and Ben Dean, PhD.

Always fascinated with time’s ability to hold the most profound and the most mundane moments simultaneously, Paula’s passion is helping people understand time through the gateway of their hearts. Her Heart-Based Time Management System helps busy people just like you develop the skills to make authentic time choices that lead to work success, personal growth, vibrant health, and an ever-deepening relationship with yourself and those you love.

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