Freedom and Independence of Children is a Result of Wise Parenting

Parents need to learn to support freedom of their kids at very early age. Freedom in all parts of life: freedom to choose friends, education and occupation, freedom to leave home and conquer the world. It is the parents responsibility to prepare their kids for independent living and this process should begin very early because even small kids watch and imitate adults. The best teaching, of course, is the living example of parents. A solid and happy family relationship provides security for young ones and demonstrates how a loving partnership should be. Truly caring mothers and fathers know how to grow happy and healthy children - they offer a simple life close to the nature and spend lots of time together. Each child has a particular combination of creative skills and abilities, which should be promoted and furthered. In early age children need lots of love and care - they learn by playing games and asking questions. It is fun for the whole family to spend time together playing, laughing, singing until all are happy. Children grow up and become teenagers. And part of being adolescent is building a personal identity, one that may differ from their mothers and fathers. It is normal, that teenagers create their own views, ideas, and values about life - it is what prepares them for maturity. It is crucial from early teenage children to get involved in different house activities - cleaning, washing, cooking. All needs to be for fun and done with pleasure rather than duty. Mothers and fathers should help to establish a positive attitude in all that children do. Step by step children will be able to take more and more duties and responsibilities, guided by wise parents - the more independent they turn the more freedom they win. Later at age of 15-16 teens could get a part time job until they finish high school then a full time occupation at age of 18. At this age they also learn to budget their money and determine priorities in life. Then they are well prepared to start their own independent living and do what they enjoy and love. The connection between parents and teens should be like between best friends with lots of love and care. Parents are expected to share with children all their experiences and knowledge, they should also offer them different choices and ideas to chose from. Staying connected as children come near the teenage and become more independent may become a challenge for parents, but it is as crucial as ever. While activities at school, new interests, and a developing social life become more important to developing children, parents are still the anchors, furnishing love, counseling, and protecting. That relationship creates a feeling of security and creates the balance teenagers need to roll with life ups and downs. Some mothers and fathers like to take total control and make all decisions and thus neglecting the individual creativeness and desires of the child. In such families teens very often rebel against and fight for freedom in different ways - skipping school, falling grades, tobacco, alcohol, or drug use. Some over-controlled teenagers grow weak and dependent, not capable to make decisions and take responsibilities. The best reward for loving mothers and fathers is to see grown up children building a solid love relationship and enjoying their own happy life