Some women have this "thing" that attracts all the men in a 20-square foot vicinity. Most women can't identify what that is, but most men will be able to identify it and will hone in like bees to a hive. Women might think she's beautiful, has a great body, dresses well or knows how to flirt. But even when she's dressed in baggy clothes, without make-up and not flirting, men still seem to notice her. What is the secret and can you do it?

There is no real secret, and yes you can do it. The biggest factor is confidence! When you are confident in who you are, you're more apt to smile, laugh, relax and flirt. Each of these actions will attract the opposite sex. In a sea of people, he'll notice the woman who is confident, smiling and laughing no matter how she looks or her body type.

Smiling and laughing will put the guy at ease, you seem more approachable and easy going. Guys like that in a woman. Make eye contact with the man and smile; just a slight curving of your mouth that rises all the way to your eyes. Then look away and get back to talking with your friends. Look again and smile. Then look away again. This give and take creates tension.

Some guys are attracted to women who don't look like they are trying too hard. Wearing low cut dresses, too much make-up and jewelry may signal a woman who is hard to maintain and not easy to watch sports with. And, let's face it, most men have different interests than you do. If you want to have a strong relationship, you'll learn to compromise and enjoy each other's activities. If it looks like you won't even try, then he won't either.

Some guys like a woman with enough self-confidence to approach him and others are put off by what they feel are aggressive women. There is no real way to know which is which by just 'looking at them.' So, if you want him to notice and approach you, it's time to start flirting from across the room. You can do that dressed in baggy sweats and without make-up. It doesn't matter how you look in your own eyes, only your self-confidence in your self-worth.

Body language is important. When your legs and arms are crossed, shoulders tense and face full of lines from stress you are putting out signals that you aren't interested, no matter if you ARE interested. Don't be engrossed in texting your friends or surfing the Internet on your smart phone. Keep your attention on the room, your friends and the people who are interested in you. Point your feet toward the man you want to notice you and lean your body in that direction, even when your head is turned slightly in the other direction to talk with your friends.

The one thing you should NEVER do is appear desperate for attention. This is a sure turn off for any man who will turn tail and run. You might not be a desperate needy woman, but first impressions are incredibly important. When you come across as desperate, he'll think you are needy and without any self-confidence.

We all want to be noticed and appreciated for who we are. The interesting thing is that when you appreciate yourself, you are more apt to attract a man who appreciates you. So get started learning to love who you are, your face, your body, your personality and yourself. It won't be long before someone notices exactly how wonderful you really are!

Author's Bio: 

Boernie Motz writing articles for the website www.talkaboutrelations.com
Single parent with three kids likes writing about relationships.