How Can Failure Work For You?

By Intervention Services Canada

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Using Failure To Get What You Want In Life

We all like failure as much as we like a punch in the face.

Learning to use failure to get what you want in life is one of the most important tools one can ever learn in their lifetime, and the reason why is we fail way more than we succeed. By honing your awareness around what works for you and what doesn’t, what strengthens you over what weakens you is very important for your survival.

When I lecture on this subject, that you can use failure to get what you want in life, I hear the moans, and some even look at me like I’ve grown another head.

What’s a common batting average in baseball? Let’s say 300 is a solid average. This means that a Professional baseball player, an elite athlete who earns millions of dollars a year to play a sport they love, FAILS 7 out of 10 times.

Is it uncomfortable? Yes, absolutely, but it’s meant to be, just like PAIN is meant to be; uncomfortable. Where we. as a modern day society. have gone wrong is we have learned to JUDGE PAIN as BAD! Pain is not bad. Human biology has a built in red light system, a warning system that Medical Doctors call symptoms. We regard these symptoms as Bad. Headaches, fever, chills, sore bones and muscles but in reality these signals are for the benefit of the person. It’s a warning system for the person to take corrective action.

This is exactly the same when it comes to failure. Failures are experiences for you to be able to auto correct your course. To auto-correct like the baseball player who hits 3 out of 10 balls and is considered a premier athlete.

Where our programming truly fails is when we focus on the failures instead of the successes. Failures help us auto-correct, but successes is what helps us determined our abilities, strengths, and powers, this is when we truly flourish.

We never ever flourish when we are focusing on the failures and in fact it corrupts our system. It deflates us, we loose confidence, self-esteem, self acceptance and when this happens, it’s very hard to get back on track or to re-program, if you will.

So how do you use failure to get what you want out of life, how can failure work for you? Don’t label it as good or bad, just identify it, and correct yourself. Dwell on yoursuccess and achievements from your past and more success will manifest in this realm of fundamental consciousness. Outflow = Inflow. Check what you are putting out energetically and you can predict what will come back in.

This is very relevant to the field of addiction and substance abuse. If you felt no pain, then how would you know when it was time to change your behaviours?

If your addiction was all a barrel of laughs, then you would never change, and most likely die in a puddle of vomit.

So how does failure work for you in the addiction world? It tells you when enough is enough either through physical ailments, financial loss, relational upset, and Family Intervention.

The good news is one thing follows failure for certain every time, and yes you might strike out a few times to get there.

How Does Failure Work For You? ©

Benjamin C. Rathorne (Professional Health Blogger)