Sometimes in life things can feel out of control, like we are being pulled in many different directions. When things feel this way, we too can become that way inside. Our emotions and thoughts scatter, rising and falling with the events in our lives. It can be hard to stay grounded, to be present, when we feel like we are always stuck in this very reactive mode. Sure, it can be easier to feel okay when everything is fine and all seems to be working as it should. But once that changes do you find yourself responding from a place of fear and worry? Do you feel uncentered and disarrayed because the life around you has changed and is moving faster than what you are ready for?
The key to staying grounded, no matter the circumstances, is to see all as momentary and also to realize within yourself that you will be okay. It is when we feel threatened that we don’t know how to react; therefore, we become unbalanced. It is when we try to hold on to something or try to control or alter the moment that we become ungrounded. Know that who you are and where you are at is how it is supposed to be. Do not fight the moment or hold on to it, for all of it is transitory. Do not fear for yourself, for all will be okay. Fear is nothing and worry is empty. The idea that you can control anything, no matter how small, will only lead to disappointment and an uncentered way of existing. Remember to realize that all is changing, always, and that you are moving with it. This is okay; this is how it is supposed to be.
You can not suppress the flow of life nor control it. You can not change the outcome through fear or worry, only dilute the possibilities of it. Sure, it seems easy to say this or think it, but to act it? It can be done through active awareness of your responses and through vigilance in the outcome of your emotions or thoughts. You will begin to see it and understand it as possible. When this clicks for you, when it really comes home, you will find there is no trying. That is what this is really about, letting go, not control. First, realize within yourself your patterns that lead you to feel unsettled; look at what you are doing, and how you respond. Next, tell yourself it will be okay, to let go of the fear and worry. Know that it is momentary, that it will change. Know that even though you may not know what the next moment will be like, it will be okay. So release the control and let go.
Be with the moment you are in and feel yourself settle down, let your feet come down, so to say. Be aware of how you feel and then remind yourself that the moment will pass, to release the act of trying to control things, and to remember that everything is as it should be until you no longer feel ungrounded. In this understanding of the importance of letting go and realizing how things really are, you will find yourself being balanced and grounded more and more consistently. You will see that by becoming unbalanced and ungrounded in the past, you unconsciously made everything in your life seem harder because it looked and felt that way to you and you responded accordingly. It can be done; you can know what being centered and grounded feels like. You can understand how life is truly simple and easy, without struggle. Remember - the moment is temporary, to release control, and that where you are right now is where you are meant to be.
I found myself from a very early age always seeking, on a constant quest to understand. I feel most comfortable learning and this desire correlates with a need to connect and help others. That is why in the beginning I chose acupuncture as a career, it seemed like a perfect fit. But I found a lack of compassion directed towards the center of being, not only in myself but others. I ended up in a situation that changed all this. I found who I was and who I am meant to be. It all clicked and came together. My desire for knowledge and eternal desire to really see and help others has brought me to this place in time, to this place with you. Allow me to help you feel complete, like stepping into that perfect spot, that place meant for you in your own life. Connect and feel the difference not only in yourself but in world around you. Feel yourself not only be free to be you, but like me find your destiny.
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