Few people understand the value of decisiveness. The ability to make quick decisions not only lends you an air of confidence, intelligence and authority, it can also make the difference between a positive and negative outcome in many situations. Some people believe that they are just ânaturally indecisivenessâ which is decidedly not true. Indecision, like every other behavior humans display, is simply a learned behavior. When you take the time to understand where it comes from, and a few quick tips that you can apply to head it off, then overcoming your indecision and becoming a confident, strong-willed decision-maker is an easy thing to do.
The root of indecision can be summed up in a single word: fear. An indecision person is simply someone who is afraid to make a wrong choice. Why do we hesitate at a crossroads? Because weâre afraid weâll go the wrong way. Why do we agonize over menu-selections at restaurants? Because weâre afraid we wonât pick the best thing, or wonât like what we pick. Think about it, and youâll find it applies to almost every situation we can come up with. It is a psychologically proven fact, and research also shows that the more options a person is presented with the more difficult it becomes to make a decision.
There are two ways to get to the bottom of this fear and overcome indecision: faith and confidence. On the one hand, you can look at in terms of eternal abundance and positivity:
âNo matter what I choose Iâll be fulfilled, and protected, and everything is always all right."
Simply having faith is a powerful, profoundly life-altering practice that will likely apply to more than just your decision-making. If that doesnât happen to be your cup of tea, thatâs fine, just look at it like this:
âIâm not going to be right all the time, but I know that when I do make a wrong decision Iâll be able to overcome it and accomplish my goals. Iâll also get the benefit of a valuable learning experience, and the insight to make better decisions in the future.â
Establish a Model for Decision-Making
Once you understand why youâre indecisive, youâll being to recognize it in yourself when youâre called upon for decision-making. Youâll âfeelâ the doubt and worry operating just below the surface that almost seems to paralyze you, and once youâre aware of it you can overcome it. It helps to lay out some guidelines to help you make decisions quickly beforehand, so when the time comes youâll have something to reference and get the ball rolling. This can be simple, such as:
Practice Making Quick Decisions
Obviously if youâre confronted with a very important decision it might not be the best time to practice âspeed deciding.â This is something I like to do with little things, such as at the supermarket. If I have several options for a product, Iâll give them all a quick once over and force myself to settle on one almost immediately so I avoid lingering and agonizing. I also listen to my intuition a lot and go for whatever âfeelsâ the most right.
Decision making is a highly learnable skill, and a very beneficial one to take the time and master. You can build up your decisiveness in the ways described above (the last point about quick decisions can be especially helpful if youâve got a history of indecision) and begin improving your abilities as soon as you choose.
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