It is inevitable. At one point in time your loved one will become ill. You will become ill. This could be a short-term illness, an injury that will take time to heal, a chronic illness that needs to be managed over a lifetime, or a life-threatening disease. When someone gets ill, your relationship is immediately challenged. Some of these challenges include
-Abrupt changes in roles and responsibilities
-Financial stress and demands
-Added responsibilities for caregivers
-Guilt, stress, fear, pain, helplessness, anger, and frustration for the person dealing with the illness
-Guilt, stress, fear, resentment, anger, and helplessness for the caregiver
-Dealing with loss
It is so important to appreciate how much change and demands are placed upon everyone when someone in your family is dealing with an illness. For mild and temporary illnesses and injuries, the adjustments may be handled with more ease. Long-term and life-threatening illnesses and injuries require a strategy for healing and well-being. Here are some guidelines and tips to consider as you make necessary adjustments to the new circumstances in your lives.
1. Get support! Enlist family, friends, clergy, and community.
2. Donât isolate yourself or feel like you need to do it all. This is not the time to be a martyr or withdraw.
3. Make financial adjustments as necessary. Start to plan for the long haul if this is a long-term illness.
4. Acknowledge and deal with all the losses that come along with the health crisis.
5. Get counseling or advocacy if needed. Again, utilize support and donât do it alone.
6. Be patient. It takes time to contend with all the changes in roles, emotions, and added demands and responsibilities.
Dealing with a serious or long-term illness within the family can cause tremendous stress on your relationships. It is not uncommon for marriages to end or suffer when health crises occur. Remember, this is an opportunity to learn something new about yourself and the people you love. This is an opportunity to experience more love and intimacy, not less. How you navigate these waters will have a direct impact on how you come out the other end.
If you and a loved one are struggling with an illness, donât hesitate to reach out. Iâm here to help. I want you to have the best possible outcome when it comes to strengthening your relationship and bond.
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Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery
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JULIE ORLOV, MAOL, MSW, LCSW has devoted 24 years to helping people transform their lives through her work as a psychotherapist, executive coach, trainer, speaker, and consultant. She is the author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery and remains passionate about helping people create relationships in their lives that work. Julie started her career in clinical social work, treating individuals, couples, and families in private practice, guiding them to learn the importance of understanding and acceptance. As her career progressed, Julie began to work with leaders and teams so that relationships could thrive in organizations and businesses alike.
Julie continues to expand the ways in which she contributes to the community. She has written and published a variety of articles and has appeared on radio and television. Her books, programs and services provide an opportunity for people to grow and thrive within the context of human relationships. Julie Orlov holds a masterâs degree in organizational leadership from Chapman University, a masterâs degree in social work from University of Southern California, and a bachelorâs degree in psychology from University of California, Los Angeles. For more information, please visit www.JulieOrlov.com.