Ahh, the bachelor pad. A place where a man can eat wings, down beers and watch cage fights without question. A place free from doilies and âDesperate Housewives.â A place not particularly conducive to an actual date. Huh? No matter how nice your apartment/house/dorm room is (or what lengths you go to stash your Xbox games), itâs not the ideal setting for a date. Sucks, huh? Things would just be so much easier! Youâre going to have to work to get her from point A (the bar, club, comic book convention) to point B (your testosterone-reeking residence.) Itâs not going to be easy, but no girl worth pursuing ever is. No single line is going to convince her to come back to your den of manhood. âYou want to go back to my place for coffee?â She knows what âcoffeeâ means, buddy. That shit didnât even work in the 80s. âSo, I need a second opinion on this new mattress I boughtâ¦â Just stop right there. Youâve got to be cool and lay off the one-liners. If she senses how badly youâre trying to lure her back to your place for action, sheâs going to bolt and youâll have to keep yourself company that night if you catch my drift. If youâre wondering how to get a girl back back to your pad without looking like just another horny bro-dude, keep reading.
How to Get a Girl Back (By Rubbing Her Back)
Would you inhale an entire bag of pizza-flavored chips without first seeing if they tasted nasty or not? No! (And for the record, all pizza-flavored chips are nasty). If you have any hopes of making out/sleeping with this girl, youâve got to set a precedent by actually touching her throughout the night.
Youâre not going to go from a handshake to all-night Tantric sex; itâs just not going to happen. Youâve got to get her comfortable and establish a physical connection early on. Sheâll know right off the bat whether youâve got any game whatsoever. Sheâs not going to go further physically if youâve got the moves of a pimple-faced 13-year-old.
Along with letting her know whether or not you actually know how to get physical without poking her eye out, touching early on will make her feel more comfortable with you; it will establish a connection. No physical contact whatsoever tells her youâre 1) not interested or 2) a chicken shit.
Gradually up the touching as the night goes on and in accordance to her response. Donât start the date off by pinching her ass (in fact, leave that out altogether.) Touch her softly and she how she responds. The more she touches back, the more you should. If sheâs interested, your gradual, welcome touching should make her more comfortable with going back to your place for even more.
Make Your Place Worthy of a Visit
Ever seen âThe 40-Year-Old Virginâ? If so, you know a place filled with action figures and Asia posters is not particularly attractive to the opposite sex. Even if your place looks boss, however, itâs not enough to entice a woman to want to hang out there. In order to get a girl back to your place, youâve got to make it worthy of a visit. Owning an Olympic-sized swimming pool or priceless artwork would probably help. Unfortunately, your blow-up pool and limited edition Darth Vader lithograph probably isnât going to entice her.
A great way how to get a girl back to your place is to throw a house party. Not only will it give you something fun to do, but youâll look sexier by giving her a glimpse into your social universe. Sheâll think âHey, this guy knows how to have a good time and has enough friends to throw a party. He isnât a creepy axe murderer!â It will also make her feel less intimidated if there are other people there. She wonât feel like youâre just trying to get with her if youâre busy singing drunken versions of Snoop Dogg songs with your buds.
Chase Parker is an avid traveler, educator and writer on a variety of subjects. Watch his videos here