When someone lashes out at you in anger what does it really mean?
People who are judgmental and harsh towards others usually disapprove of something within themselves. It could be that they see a trait in you that they desire for themselves or one that they dislike about themselves.
An important thing to remember when someone disapproves of you – is that it is not you. They are projecting their perceived lack onto you – so you see, it’s really all about them. The same is true when you disapprove of someone else. If you disapprove of someone it’s time you do some personal emotional housecleaning.
Remember, you do not have to accept what the other person is dishing out. Here is an insightful story attributed to Buddha …
Buddha was travelling through the country accompanied by several people. One of these men decided to test Buddha and began responding negatively to everything Buddha said. For several days this man continued with disparaging, insulting and hurtful remarks. He verbally abused Buddha by calling him a fool and ridiculing him in any way he could.
After verbally abusing Buddha for three days, the man asked Buddha, “how can you continue to be so kind and loving when all I’ve done for the last three days is dishonor and offend you? With every rude and obnoxious remark you have always responded in a kind manner – How can this be?”
Buddha quietly turned to the man and asked this simple – yet profound question, “If someone offers you a gift, and you do not accept that gift, to whom the gift belongs?”
So if someone is offering you an unwelcome gift of rudeness, anger or hostility – Don’t accept it. As long as you do not accept it, there is no reason for you to be sad or angry about it as it does not belong to you – it belongs to them.
Be prepared for challenging times! They happen to all of us. The more you love and accept yourself – the more confident you are – the more positive you are – The easier it will be for you to shrug off anger that is thrown your way.
Keep in mind that youreap what you sow. Practice the following on a daily basis:
Increase Loving Energy
Visualize something that you love. It could be your baby’s smile, a large vibrant painting or a beautiful butterfly. Visualizing will bring forth a feeling of love deep inside of you. Take slow deep breaths and repeat to yourself “Let love flow through me.”
You should be on a lifelong journey of improving yourself. Check for any un-forgiveness, anger or other depressing thoughts. By constantly weeding out these negative emotions you are allowing positive loving energy to flow to you and through you.
Clear Your Mind
Meditate, practice yoga and/or physical exercise. All of these help clear your mind which enables you to stay calm during stressful situations and to be able to make better decisions.
Cindy Holbrook is a Certified Professional Empowerment Coach - Empowering women to gain confidence and discover their authentic self. Get tips to develop the skills you need to overcome lifes obstacles at CindySense.com. You'll also get empowering affirmations and questions when you Sign up for the bi-weekly Empowerment Newsletter.