How To Overcome Social Anxiety And Fear of Rejection

Making friends can be a difficult challenge for some, while it comes almost effortlessly for others.

But why is it that some people can just instantly “click” after two words with everyone they meet. While some of us, no matter how hard we try, can’t even manage to get anyone interested in us.

I spent a long time asking myself this question, and questions like why some people are shy, and others aren’t, as well as why some people are fearless around people, and others can barely get two words out when they’re talking to someone.

In this article, I want to offer a few suggestions that you can use to instantly improve your social skills, and just generally make your social life easier.

The thing I want to talk about is having trouble starting conversations.

I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard someone say, “I want to start a conversation but I never know what to say”.

What you’re really saying is, “I want a magic line to start a conversation with that’s “safe”, and is going to guarantee 100% that I don’t have to experience rejection.

Then you’ll literally sit around for HOURS trying to think of that ”perfect line”, then wonder why it never comes, or why, no matter how hard you try, you can never think of anything “good” to say.

This is why people say making friends is all about having confidence in yourself because, literally, it is.

If you don’t have the confidence to talk to people, or to risk success and failure, you’re never going to take any chances, and you’re never going to develop the confidence to talk to anyone.

The first key to getting over social anxiety, and the difference between a confident and unconfident (or successful and unsuccessful) person, is that the person who is confident doesn’t care what other people think of them.

They could care less whether or not people like them, or whether or not people reject them, because they know that there is always more people out there who do want to be friends with them.

And if someone doesn’t get along with them, they’ll just go find someone who will.

So how do you develop the confidence to talk to people?
It comes from competence.

What this means is that once you know how to do something, and you’re confident in your ability to do it, you’ll be able to easily approach doing it with confidence, because your real confidence comes from the confidence that you know how to do the thing you’re trying to do.

The fear is that you’re going to do it wrong, or screw something up.

What you need to do is develop your conversation skills, learn how to be interesting when you talk to people, and learn the techniques to instantly skyrocket your social skills, your success rate in social situations, and your overall happiness.

You basically want to be as confident as other people when you’re socializing

And where do you think their confidence comes from?

You guessed it!

They’re confident because they developed a proven strategy for social success that they’ve already used and proven to work, so their confidence comes from their knowledge that what their doing has always worked in the past.